Does anyone other than me find it really wrong when you see a young, pretty white girl (especially blonde with a great body) going out, dancing or being kissed by a black guy and so on…
? I’m not raciest or anything like that …I have some black friends too…but I just can’t explain it … when I see a black guy ‘using’ a white girl something deep inside me hurts me.
What I find strange is that these white girls are impressed by the really ‘bad’ kind of black guys - you know loud rap music, drugs, often no education and just very weirdy wild style of life…
What do you think - what’s the motivation that drives these poor girls and how can we prevent it?
I don’t want to hurt anyone just by my opinion…but what I have described hurts me even worse.
Hope that I will get some discussion going on… not a closed topic…
care to explain how exactly the girl is being “used”? Just because the guy is black? You’re not making a lot of sense here. And what exactly is it that “hurts” you?
After posting such an offensive question – and, congratulations! it’s offensive on so many levels! – I’d really be interested to hear under what delusional reasoning you can possibly assert that you are not a racist.
…well, sorry for my spelling - English is not my native language…I bet if you attamped to say sth in my language you would make bigger mistakes…
And NO I AM NOT RACIST
Again sorry for expressing my own opinion, but I’m just being honest about how I feel.
How are they used? These girls are often young and dumb and often drunk when approached by these kind of people…not only black, but from my observation in most cases yes…
These girls also might be going through some serious problems in their lives…
Yes. Lots of people besides you. Members of the KKK, for example. They’re called “racists” and can, collectively, kiss my ass.
Quack! Quack! Quack! Hey, did that sound like a duck to anyone? Did to me.
When I hear people refering to interracial dating as “using” it hurts ME deep inside.
Yeah, and no one ever dates WHITE ‘bad boys’ do they.
What is the motivation that drives these racists, and how can we prevent it?
This is an internet message board, and not real life. Plus, I’m a non-violent person. But I must say… people like you make me WANT to hurt you even worse.
Smithwow, being upset that young, drunk girls are taken advantage of by men in general is not racist. Being upset that they are taken advantage of specifically by black men is most definitely racist (and you very clearly singled out black men in your OP). This is true even if you have black friends, and even if you don’t get it. You won’t get any sympathy around these parts, except from other racists, who are generally treated the same way you’re getting treated here and don’t stick around for long. Get a clue.
You know this whole thing stinks of a personal and specific issue.
I mean this “hypothetical situation” sure has a lot of specifics. He’s not just asking about people’s reactions to interracial relationships. He wants to know if anyone else is offended by a pretty blonde white girl with a nice body going out, dancing or kissing a black guy who plays loud rap music, does drugs and has little formal education. (I mean why not a husky white brunette dating a Harvard-educated black CFO-slash-cellist or something?)
One could think that this is less of a request for intelligent debate than a rant from some white guy who has an ex currently dating a black guy he deosn’t like. But I leave that up to others to speculate.
I also found it interesting that he described this white girl as “being kissed” by a black man. As opposed to her kissing him. As if the girl is the passive one.
My direct responses to you, smith, are that nothing needs to be done to prevent any of this. Assuming these women
are capable of legal consent, I see no need to protect them from anything.
Also, your your portrayal of black men as predators (if not worse) and women as “poor girls” in need of protection strikes me as both racist and sexist.
Hey, ya might as well say something homophobic too and complete the trifecta.
Well, let’s see:
I’m of average intelligence, certainly smarter than most I know.
I’ve never been drunk.
I have no serious problems in my life.
You know who does have a serious problem? You. You have a very serious, sad, disgusting problem. I’m hurting inside, because I know how foul and ignorant you are, and I worry for your offspring. Because they will be the same, most likely. This kind of disgusting racist attitude will be passed down from generation to generation. Like it has been for hundreds of years.
Can you please go crawl back under the rock frome whence you came? And once there, can you bang it against your head repeatedly? Four or five good smacks should be good. Then your disgusting, vile, backwards thoughts won’t pollute the gene pool.
Not meaning to get myself flamed by 3/4 of the active posters on the SDMB . . .
This is a site dedicated to fighting ignorance. Rather than crying out “You fucking racist” why not try to educate this poster? Part of racism is ignorance.
"Does anyone other than me find it really wrong when you see a young, pretty white girl (especially blonde with a great body) going out, dancing or being kissed by a black guy and so on… "
No . . . why do you?
“? I’m not raciest or anything like that …I have some black friends too…but I just can’t explain it … when I see a black guy ‘using’ a white girl something deep inside me hurts me.”
Maybe your perception is that he’s using her. Ask her how she feels. Unless she does, as you say later, have problems, most women aren’t going to let someone they don’t like kiss them.
“What I find strange is that these white girls are impressed by the really ‘bad’ kind of black guys - you know loud rap music, drugs, often no education and just very weirdy wild style of life…”
Maybe they like it. Again, ask them. I’m neither female nor attracted to ‘bad’ black guys.
“What do you think - what’s the motivation that drives these poor girls and how can we prevent it?”
What makes you think we need to prevent it?
And folks, again I’m not condoning what smith’s said, just trying to deal with it rationally.
I’m not here in the pit to educate complete fucking racist cretins. He offended me. He offended me DEEPLY. He’s not here for discussion. He’s here to be a racist offensive prick.
And the English as a second language crap is getting old.
Well, when I was dating a black guy my motivation was that I liked him a lot. Except I wasn’t drunk and he wasn’t a drug dealer. I was a chior girl and he was a theatre guy. And personally I think that of all my boyfriends he and I looked best together. The contrast of my pale, blonde, blue eyed self in black velvet and him (and he is an absolutely beautiful man) in all white or white and gray was really, really stunning. (And oh, could he dress…) So if the motivation of being with a guy that I loved being with, and still do, isn’t enough for you, what is?
As for preventing it, well, I think you can follow a few simple steps. The first is to get your racist self to an art store, or even someplace like Borders and develop an apreciation for Esher and black and white photography. People are really pretty with each other, even if they aren’t identical. The second is to haul your head out of your ass (it’s really more comfortable after that, trust me) and stop worrying about “poor girls” above the age of consent who can take care of themselves.
I think Alphagene’s got this one pegged, personally…but thats a WAG on my part.
Sure it was. Just like MarkSerlin was doing “psychology experiments” on us. I think the more likely story is that you didn’t realize how unpopular your racist views would be here and you’re backpedaling.