If the message can be reasonably interpreted as a question or as an imperative or declarative, then absolutely. If not: not.
Which moves the point of contention to whether the wife’s message in the context of the entire conversation and their entire lives together can be reasonably read as a question?
I have only the context of the conversation, and nothing of their larger life. To me the context says the wife’s message ought to be interpreted as a question first and only as a statement / instruction second. But that’s my definition of “reasonable”, and other reasonable people may have other reasonable interpretations.
The idea the message should be interpreted solely on the words & punctuation in it (or not in it) is what’s bizarre. The entire conversation to that point matters. Yugely.
My ex-wife was infamous for finding offense in everything; even “Good morning.”
To me, either party seeking to take offense is a very bad sign. When both do, that sounds like a miserable existence.