This was some time ago, but it’s been bugging me for a long time. On January 13, my girlfriend (or should I say ex-girlfriend now) said she was coming to SJ (my home town) to see me, and I asked her when she was coming. She said “Waiting for a friend.” She was planning to see me on that very day. But when she said “Waiting for a friend.”, I thought she meant she was waiting for her friend TO CALL HER (to let her know when when she’d be able to come to SJ with her). It was a big mistake for me to think that way. But what my girlfriend meant was that she was waiting for a friend to get ready. So as a result, on January 13, I was unaware that my girlfriend and her friend were in SJ that very day. She broke up with me after that.
Did I make a stupid mistake? Was it a stupid mistake to think that she meant she was waiting for a friend TO CALL HER UP SOMETIME (when she really meant that she was waiting for a friend TO GET READY)?
We’re probably being a little unfair here, but the OP is a tad incoherent, and the user name Stoned_stoner just invites stereotyping. The events seem to come down to miscommunication, so the best advice would be to work on your communication skills.
Did you make a mistake? Maybe…but it’s in the past. Learn from it, and try not to repeat it. Meanwhile, remember the mantra of all guys who have been dumped by a girlfriend: “Her loss!”
That was my first thought, then I decided to re-read the OP and see if I could make more sense of it (slow night, what can I say?).
On second, careful reading, I still don’t know why the OP’s girlfriend broke up with him, but I don’t think a simple mis-understanding played much of a role in it. Therefore, I judge not a stupid mistake.
I feel like there’s still a bit of context missing. Like, you didn’t know she was coming that very day, so you decided to go ahead and have that three-way with the hot twins from next door that you’d been working up to for a while, and when your dear gal showed up unexpectedly to find you balls-deep in a blonde Swedish sandwich (with or without meatballs according to your preference) she inexplicably declined to tear her friend’s clothes off with her teeth and join in right then and there, and instead gave you a bit of the old heave-ho? I mean, just from what you’ve told us I would have expected it to go like this:
[li]STONED STONER, a YOUNG MAN who likes a GOOD TOKE now and then.[/li][li]MS. GIRLFRIEND, his sweet and young DOTING PARAMOUR.[/li][li]THIRD WHEEL, the girlfriend’s INCONVENIENT FLUNKY.[/li][/ul]
[SCENE: STONED STONER’s living room. There is a PIZZA BOX jauntily strewn on the OAK COFFEE TABLE. Most of the BBQ HAWAIIAN PIZZA is gone. There is a knock at the door.] STONED STONER: Oh! Who could that be?
[He opens the door. MS. GIRLFRIEND is standing there with THIRD WHEEL.] MS. GIRLFRIEND: Hi, SS! Remember I said we’d be coming to town? Where are your pants?? THIRD WHEEL: Sweet baby jesus! SS: Oh! My bad, baby, I thought you were waiting to hear from a friend. I didn’t know you meant TODAY. GF: No, silly, I was ready to go, I was just waiting for TW here to get her bra on. TW: You know how long it takes! GF: Ha! ha! What a delightful misunderstanding and not at all a reason to terminate our perfectly healthy relationship. Go put on some pants.
If it somehow went down otherwise maybe you could fill us in? I don’t see why she’d dump you over a mildly inconvenient misunderstanding, unless she was planning on dumping you that day anyway. Either way, it was years ago, no use dwelling on it.