Look, your girlfriend is probably in her second marriage by now, with 3 or 4 kids. It’s time for you to move on too.
While this is true, I’ve got to say, given such a response I’d have some follow-up questions that were a polite way of saying “WTF?” Her response was clearly non-responsive, so why didn’t the OP ask “okay, what’s that mean? You’re waiting for a call, a ride, Godot, an old Stones song to finish playing, what?” instead of heading out?
But Blackberry is right - this was pretty clearly a “last straw” situation, meaning there were a lot of other straws that the OP didn’t mention or (very likely) doesn’t even know about. I did something similar myself in my 20s.
I’m willing to bet she wouldn’t have known what Godot meant.
And no it wasn’t a stupid mistake, it was a genius, fortuitous mistake.
Show up… Where, exactly? When, exactly? I mean, plans to meet ‘today’ in ‘San Jose’ are hilariously unspecific.
He was that guy who imagined he was taken captive to be used as a sex slave by Amazon women in the story by James Thurber, right?
It was a felix culpa, a “happy fault” that may have led to your salvation.
OP, if you can track her down on Facebook it would be interesting to request clarification now.
Was this exchange conducted via text? Because that may be your first problem right there.
It appears she was answering a question you didn’t ask, and if she thought what she provided was a an acceptable, coherent answer, and subsequently dumped you over this trivial miscommunication, you’re probably better off without her.
You mean “Waiting for… God… oh, oh, ohhhh…”
“OK. Let me know where and when you want me to meet you.”
SJ = San Juan?
Anyway, I think it’s bad manners to surprise visit anybody, even if it’s someone you’re dating. Your ex had bad manners if she didn’t make it abundantly clear to you, in advance, what day she was planning to show up. In past relationships with boyfriends I didn’t live with, I’d have been pissed if they randomly showed up without giving me a heads-up. I need time to clean the house, make the bed, shave my legs, put on makeup, etc. I live with my current boyfriend already, so this is no longer an issue. But yeah.
I LOVE this response.
And I agree that the OP’s girlfriend’s response was total nonsense. The OP should’ve clarified, but her text did not communicate anything at all.
Maybe she didn’t know the way to San Jose.
Why did you say “on January 13” instead of “five years ago”? How could the specific date possibly be more useful than the fact that you’re worried about a stupid breakup from 5 years ago?
I was going to use “what color is the sky?” “Seven” but same concept.
Yeah but you’re a chick. Stoned_stoner doesn’t have to do any of those things.
Lack of specificity when communicating is the crux of the problem.
I think you made an awful mistake – just fly to Denver and spliff your worries away.
I’m just trying to come up with a scenario in which it’s relevant that this all happened specifically on a January 13th.
*“. . . but when they arrived at my apartment I was, tragically, not there to greet them, having sojourned out to procure a costume for Martin Luther King Day, a mere 6 days hence.”
". . . but when they eventually showed up, I had gone to an impromptu candlelight vigil for Patrick McGoohan, who, needless to say, had died earlier that day. (Ironically, my ex was a big fan of both The Prisoner AND obsolete lighting sources; she would have loved it!)
“. . . Sadly, their knocking was drowned out by the fireworks I was setting off in the backyard to celebrate the Liberation Day of Togo. (Eyadéma forverer!)”
" . . . but, of course, it was the feast day of St. Hilary of Poitiers, so … well, you know the rest."*
I’m always sad when text messages lead to confusion. If only the person had an actual phone where they could call the other person to clear things up…
No, San Jose (in California).