I was just pondering…I haven’t a girlfriend in quite a while and masterbation has become a regular habit. I form of release and immense pleasure. But I recall when I was having intimate relations with my last girlfriend I didn’t masterbate. Well, hardly ever. I didn’t even have an urge. Why is that I wonder? The funny thing is I am a virgin, Hence I’ve never known the soft insides of a woman to quench my lust. Yet I didn’t feel like masterbating. Is this the same for everybody else? Do all of yall feel content when you are with somebody and needful when you don’t have anybody to be with sexually?
Someone give this boy a grammur book!
I’m in a relationship right now, and I can say me and him are both content. We started out physically which was a bad idea, because we never learned how to be friends first like it ought to be. Since then we’ve cooled down and are focusing on other aspects of the relationship. We realized that there’s more to life than sex and that good things can wait (Okay, now I know I’m going to be called an old fuddy duddy and be shunned from the board, hehe). Marcel Proust once said, “There can never be peace of mind in love, since what one has obtained is never anything but a starting point for further desires.” It’s very true. And since I already don’t have much of a peace of mind, I might as well try to avoid making it worst.
May I suggest you find some volunteers and do a study? I’ll volunteer so long as the sex in question is heterosexual.
Of course, knowing my luck, I’d be placed in the placebo group. sigh
For a long time I had no girlfriend. I really thought once I got one it would cause me to cut down. No fucking way! I became hornier than ever. She’s not in the mood to relieve my morning woody? No problem, I’ll do it myself, just go back to sleep or watch.
Cooldude: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!
Welfy, isn’t Proust then saying the exact opposite of what your sentiments are? In any case, I hope your lover and you are VERY communicative. I do not know your age, but if he’s a guy, he’s gonna have needs - sooner or later, and probably sooner. I’m not saying he can’t or won’t control these needs, but he is most definately making a big sacrifice.
Trust me, I was a virgin too, once. And while I’m certainly not saying you should hit the sack with every Tom, Dick (:D), and Harry, being a virgin just ain’t what it’s cracked up to be by some.
I’ve been married for 13 yrs and with her for 16. I still find time to wacka-do every now and again.
Sometimes I do it while sitting n my porch, waving to the passing cars…with my free hand.
There is no cure for masterbation. Unless you undergo a Bobbitectomy.
Jimmy, so that was you waving at me as I drove by the other day? I wondered why that guy looked so happy. Okay, not really happy looking but more of a deranged goofy look.
Reminds me of Robin Williams talking about taking his son to see Goofy at Disneyland. His wife says: “Look, there’s Goofy”. The son replies: “No, that’s dad having an orgasm.”
How creepy is the thought that Robin Williams son knows what his dad looks like when he has an orgasm?
Methinks that should have gone into the vaguely creepy thread.
Yeah, of course we have wants (not needs, I’ve gone 18 years without sex and I haven’t died yet), but we love each other for other things. We have good communication and self-control. I just don’t feel like giving myself away to every guy I date, because at the time, they always seem like “the one”…but give or take a few months or years and my feelings for said person usually change.
I first noticed this on the AOL SD MB. I haven’t been here in a while, and I guess I hoped things would change.
Why is it that the people who start threads about or referring to masturbation cannot SPELL THE FUCKING word correctly in the subject? I guess it’s a pet peeve of mine.
And while I’m at it, it’s spelled ‘sepArate’, not ‘sepErate’.
“I’ve never known the soft insides of a woman to quench my lust.”
I’m just getting this vivid mental picture: Hey, baby, wanna quench my lust?
Oy.
I’m actually exactly the opposite, it’s kinda silly. When I have a boyfriend there to cuddle with then I’m horny, having my boyfriend in most of my classes last year was… interesting to say the least. Before him and after him I really had no need to masturbate, there was no temptation, I had no one in particular to think about so I was fine, I’m just odd aren’t I?
Kitty
I don’t want a cure for masturbation. You can have my penis when you pry it from my cold, dead hands.
I dunno, I really think I’m hornier when I have a boyfriend…cause when I’m going through a “dry spell”, (longest one-5 months) I kind of forget what it’s like to have sex and what foreplay’s like and all that…and since I don’t masturbate anyway, I kinda calm down…then when I DO get w/a guy again, it’s like WOAH!!! Then I get massivly horny and the vicious cycle begins anew 
Horny when I have a guy, calm when I don’t have one.
What’s wrong with masturbation anyway? I don’t engage in this activity, but I don’t see what’s wrong with other people doing it. As long as it isn’t hurting anybody, and you’re enjoying it, then why complain?
Yeah really! I mean, that doesn’t mean I want to walk down the street and step over the people jacking off on the ground, but there’s nothing wrong w/it…you’ll hear charachters on TV talk more about sex and oral sex and barely at all about masturbation…it’s strange, masturbation is healthy, normal, and a helluva lot less risky than the other two!