I am well well over a foot taller than my girlfriend and we’ve recently attempted to have vaginal sex together. However, as she is a virgin and I am relatively ‘large’, I embrassingly could not get it in.
The times we’ve tried, she was very relaxed and ‘wet’ and I had put a lot of lubricant on my hard condom-clad penis.
It is rather frustrating and I would really appreciate any advice on how to overcome this issue.
I had a boyfriend nearly a foot and a half taller than me at one point and we never had that problem. Yes, he was my first lover. Seriously, penis size doesn’t scale up with overall body height the way other body parts do. If she was relaxed and wet and you couldn’t get your erect dick inside, even if you’re “large”, she needs to get a medical checkup.
Seriously, compare the size of your dick to a new born baby. Even tiny women manage to extrude newborns out of their vagina, even the largest human penis should fit. Granted, a virgin will be a tighter fit than, say, Mrs. Dugger but you two should be able to get to the Happy Place.
Unfortunately, there are women with anatomical anomalies that make intercourse difficult or even impossible. It may be your girlfriend is one of them. Or maybe you are freakishly large but I am skeptical of men claiming that.
Never EVER type these words together in this or similar order EVER again.
I’m sorry you are going through this. Maybe try some “toys” for a few encounters, see how that goes. Then try again. Also, if she is really, really excited, she may be, um, tighter. If she has a nice orgasm first before you two attempt full intercourse, things may be roomier. At least that is how it works for some of us. :o
Now I don’t want to be dick. Ho ho, but I have never heard extrude used in relation to childbirth. Extruding material through die forms, having masses extrude from within bodies but never this. I had a look around but couldn’t find a reference. I know the definition is to force or push something out, but as I say no childbirth references.
I guess I’m a fan of the word because back in the 70s when I was scouring the job ads I’d keep seeing Extruder Operator. It always made me laugh and perhaps colors my interpretation of the word. So where does it come from in the childbirth sense?
Well, extruding them is one thing, but have you ever tried pushing one back in the other way? Hardly the same thing. Of course, it doesn’t help that they tend to cry and flail about a lot. And the babies usually aren’t too happy about it, either.
If you were able to get in up to the hymen but not past it, my grandparents had the same issue on their wedding night. And their wedding morning. And the second night. On the second morning, Gramps said “to hell with this” and broke it manually.
Note that they had previously, and I quote Grandma “done anything you can do while one person has their underwear on”. I’m not talking about “fisting as the first step after first base”, I’m talking about a procedure which was as chirurgical as Gramps could make it, not about using a fist but about using as little of his hand as he could, and about a bride who was a virgin only in the most strict sense.
WTF?
You know a lot about your grandparents’ sex life.
It was a lot of words to say
“well how about stick a finger in with the aim to see if it loosens up.”
There can be the tightness of the membrane, eg the hymen or some sort of thick growth.
Or there may be muscles there she doesn’t know she has… if she touches them perhaps she will identify them … connect her brain to them … learn to relax them.
So how about foreplay and masturbation … some sort of sex toy.
She could do something about her virginity issue herself, with something solid and smooth … solid like a hairbrush handle perhaps ? Or a wine bottle ?
You know a lot about your grandparents’ sex life.
It took a couple of months of trying before my now-wife and I were able to have successful intercourse. I’m average-sized, in both height and penis size. She’s 7" shorter than me. I don’t think that the difference in our heights or anatomical differences had anything to do with it. She had never successfully had intercourse before meeting me. The issue was all hers, but I was patient and it worked out. If your problem is that you’re just so big (am I the only man with an average-sized penis?), I would expect you to have had this problem before, but you didn’t say that so I’ll assume that that’s not the case.
Your girlfriend either has a medical issue or a psychological issue. My wife had the latter. It’s not due to your “relatively large” penis.
Hush. All men are above average.
Assuming the OP isn’t making this up, then either she has a very tough hymen or she is unconsciously tensing her muscles. Either way, start with patience and if that doesn’t work she needs to see a doctor.
We’re on the same wavelength here, but those assholes down at the maternity ward just don’t seem to get it.
Yeah. I totally got that. The WTF factor was the creepy story about grandma and grandpa and fisting.
I would have her start with two fingers inside as she masturbates on her own, alone (that way she does not have any pressure to perform for you) This will teach her body to associate good things with the sensation of having something in her. Might take a few weeks or couple months of regularly doing this to have her body truly relax about the idea. Maybe move to three fingers if she thinks it’s necessary.
Sometimes ladies can think they are all relaxed and ready when their body is going crazy wondering about this totally new and not-that-great-yet sensation of “foreign object is trying to do things to me in a place where this has never happened before”. There’s probably muscles she doesn’t even know she has going into protect mode.
I’m going to guess that she doesn’t masturbate. The sample size isn’t huge, but none of the three women I was with who had trouble with intercourse masturbated.
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To OP: Quit trying to stealth brag and have her see an OB/GYN. Unless you are one of the 1% that falls outside 3 standard deviations, you are flattering yourself greatly.
Ddamn that made me Let’s go to the quarry and throw stuff down there! 