It’s been so long since I’ve been in love, I have forgotten what it’s like. Sex without love is ENTIRELY possible (thank the gods), but is better with at least some affection and respect built in.
And it helps to know which name to yell out in the middle. 
“Oh, my god, Steve!!”
“Chris.”
“That’s what I said!”
Being ‘In Love’ & ‘Loving someone’ aren’t the same thing, Nymysys, youll find one lasts a lot longer than the other.
Not to mention, folks, that everyone is a stranger the first time you have sex with them. That’s right, since you didn’t have sex with them before, that’s an unknown area & thus they are strangers.
Thanks for the tip, Dad. :rolleyes:
Why do you think so many guys call their wives/girlfriends “Honey”? It’s never the wrong name…
I just thought that I would point out (a little bit late), that the quoted post was mine and not Tasha’s. I didn’t even notice until she told me.
I divide things into “making love” and “sex.” Sex in and of itself is just friction–pleasant friction, but friction–and has about as much meaning as watching TV. If there’s no love involved, I’d just as soon watch a hockey game–I’ll find that just as fullfilling. (More so if it’s a Penguins game and they win.)
Making love, of course, is a whole 'nother kettle of fish. I’ll miss the Pens in the seventh game of the Stanley Cup Finals for that.
Of course it’s possible to enjoy sex with someone you don’t love. One level of enjoying sex is doing it with a complete stranger. That adds the thrill of touching a person for the first time, smelling the person for the person for the first time, experiencing a new person and a new body!
The other side of sex is of course the one you experience with your “significant other”. Everyone that has had a longrunning relationship can tell you that the sex you get in that situation is MUCH BETTER!!
I think the question should have been ‘Is sex better the first time or after a year?’
Do you think only guys do this?
As regards the OP, well…yeah.
mysterecks
“Making love, of course, is a whole 'nother kettle of fish. I’ll miss the Pens in the seventh game of the Stanley Cup Finals for that”
then you, sir, are not a true hockey fan… 
Go Avs go!
It’s possible to enjoy sex when you are mad at your husband.
In fact, that’s usually what we use to smooth over the rough spots. A little sex reminds you it’s not all about the last argument.
And no matter how many people say yes, it’s not necessarily true for you or anyone else. It’s obviously possible, people do it all the time. The question is Is it possible for me.
For my part, sex without love is enjoyable, not enthralling, but enjoyable. However, I’ve never been able to turn the trick of sex with someone that I didn’t know well enough to at least like. I guess one night stands just aren’t my bag.
Well, we all have our crosses to bare.
Whoa, makeup sex is hot!
Elgur, I was under the impression from reading your OP that you didn’t know the answer & now, much to my chagrin, it appeared that you already knew the answer:
“Of course it’s possible to enjoy sex with someone you don’t love. One level of enjoying sex is
doing it with a complete stranger. That adds the thrill of touching a person for the first time,
smelling the person for the person for the first time, experiencing a new person and a new body!”
Hmmmmmmmmmmm.
Sometimes, sometimes, sex with a “stranger” can be exhilirating in the sense that you might ask for/try things that you might be embarrassed to try with a person you really care for.
If a stranger says, "Ewwwww! You’re a sick puppy!’ – no great loss.
If your wife says, “Are you out of your mind? Hell, no!” – well, might be some fence-mending to be done there.
See what I mean?
I think I may have revealed a bit more of myself than I usually do, so let me just say this:
An occasional penguin or two doesn’t make me a freak!
This thread desperately needs a gay male perspective. And Esprix (aka ask the Gay Guy) is falling down on the job… so… bagkitty to the rescue…
Recreational sex is the ultimate contact sport. Of course it is enjoyable. As long as neither (or none of the… must remember the team sport aspect) participant(s) is being misled into believing that there is some deep emotional commitment being forged, well, an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm.
Just remember the rules, play safe, be courteous and don’t stalk your playmate for the next six weeks just because you had sex with them once.
Sex with commitment is nice too…
(edited slightly by me, I don’t do the ‘team’ thing)
A random heterosexual female checking in at 2:25 AM.
Recreational sex can be great, enjoyable, etc. As a matter of fact, I set out on my evening excursions tonight with 3 goals in mind. Have some fun, have some drinks, get laid(and dancing was in there somewhere, I did quite a bit of that too). I succeeded at all three. Was it the best sex I ever had? nope. not at all. Did I enjoy it? yep, sure as heck did. Do I love the guy? HECK NO!.
Will we go out again? doubtful. I’ve got his number, he’s got mine, but the possibility of either calling the other is slim. Do I mind? Nope, not at all.
And, yes, play safe uf you are going to do this. I’m on the pill, yes, and that mostly takes care of my pregnancy fears. But I wouldn’t think of setting out with the intentions that I had tonight without several in my purse. Along with the ones in my bedside table, which ended up being the ones that we used.
Anyway, I’m becoming exhausted now that my drinks have worn off and what’s his name is gone(I’m just kidding, I do know his name). So, a simple answer: yes, it is possible. But sex is more enjoyable when you are in love. Both are nice at times though.
Now that’s what I call dedication to fighting ignorance. You go out, bed a man, and rush back to the boards to let us know if it was pleasurable or not.
kudos Lsura.
I somehow hit the wrong key and deleted my entire post before I could finish it (so I guess it wasn’t the entire post, but still…), so here I go again, and I’ll try to make it more coherent.
Best sex: those with whom I have been in love. No question. There’s the emotional attachment, but there’s also the fact that it doesn’t happen to me very often. it’s a special feeling. Fortunately, I gots me a husband who I think is pretty swell, so I’m hoping I don’t end up doing much more research in this area as far as new partners go.
Second-best: those for whom I have respect and admiration. I love the hell out of them, but I am not IN LOVE with them. It’s a distinction that drives people TRYING to be in relationships utterly bugfuck, but which is actually very useful when you’re not using it to get out of anything. I love the hell out of the few fuckbuddies I’ve had, and I could not possibly be happier that I am not IN LOVE with any of them, especially since I do have that swell husband-guy around.
Third-best: those who I DID make the mistake of falling in love with, or vice-versa. The thing is, the sex itself was great, but the months of emotional wrangling, compression, DEcompression, angst, depression, hurt feelings and low self-esteem really took the shine off of the happy sex that occurred BEFORE I lost the game of Emotional Jenga.
Worst: Sex with strangers. Man, some of y’all can do it, and more power to you, but sex with strangers has never done very much for me. There’s the fact that I was either drunk as hell or high as heaven when I was doing it, and I’m sure that didn’t contribute to Warm Fuzzies from the experience…but when you don’t even KNOW 'em, there’s nothing to talk about after. Some of the most entertaining conversations I have had have involved silly shit that’s popped into my mind in the afterglow…and if you don’t know me, you wouldn’t care.
So: Sex with yummy husband = way best.
Sex with entertaining friends = close second.
Sex with strangers = interesting hydraulics and a wet firecracker or two, but dead last.
And to show you the danger of posting while tired, partly drunk, and needing sleep, that should read several condoms in my purse.
and oldscratch…thanks 
(though I admit I was really online looking for a friend, and this thread caught my eye)