Sex: with or without love??

In My Humble Opinion
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Sex I Have Had, by Esprix ((c) 2000, all rights reserved):

With My Boyfriend
With My Boyfriend du jour
With My Potential Boyfriend
With My Friend
With My Fuck Buddy
With My Trick

With My Boyfriend: My longest relationship with a year and a half, and we went through a “lesbian bed death” phase; that is, a short period where we didn’t have sex. However, this was over a period of a year and a half; my next-longest relationship was two months, and during one of those time periods with one boyfriend we had sex every single time we saw each other (including immediately after we broke up). Good sex? Yes.

With My Boyfriend du jour: OK, so we only dated for two weeks, but that didn’t mean we didn’t have sex. Sometimes it was on the first date, sometimes we waited a bit, whatever we were comfortable with based on our dynamics. Good sex? Yes.

With My Potential Boyfriend: OK, we slept together on the first date, and there was hope for more. Sometimes these things don’t work out. I survived. Good sex? Yes.

With My Friend: “Friends With Special Privileges” or “Fringe Benefits,” and actually one of my favorite kinds of sex. Hey, if I’m that horny and need to have sex (it’s a man thing), what’s better - going out to the bars and picking up some guy I have no idea who he is, or finding a currently single friend who I already know, trust, love, and know will at least make me breakfast in the morning? Easy choice. Besides, I have some hot friends. On the plus side, they all live a bit of a distance away, so it’s only a once-in-a-while when-we-see-each-other-and-we’re-both-single thing. Good sex? Hell yeah!

With My Fuck Buddy: All sex, no talking. Only ever had a couple of these. Completely physical attraction. Good sex? Yes, but I’d rank this the least pleasurable.

With My Trick: Fuck Buddies are regular things, whereas Tricks are “let’s hook up, and maybe hook up again sometime.” These usually begin with the AOL chime that I got an IM. :wink: (Treated me well in San Diego, too.) I rarely meet people at the bars anymore (well, except this past weekend). Sometimes Tricks can turn into Potential Boyfriends or Boyfriends du jour or even Boyfriends. Good sex? Yes.

One Gay Guy’s opinion.

Esprix

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Why do you think I dated four “Dave’s” in a row?

As far as the OP goes, I have certainly enjoyed sex with people I didn’t even know, nevermind love. Of course, if you asked me which I preferred in the long run (sex with strangers for the rest of my life, or a single partner), the sex with strangers thing would eventually get old. Sex with a single partner can get better and better over time.

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This whole topic scares me in a way. I’ve had sex with two women, and I’m only 16. That kind of scares me, I thought it was for later in life.
To me, there’s really three kinds of intercourse:

  1. Making Love: Respect in the eyes of both partners, who are in love. I’m not sure if I’ve had this. The first girl I had sex with already had a boyfriend, but she said she loved me, and him, and I didn’t know what to do. The second told me she loved me, and recently told me that she’d never loved me in a relationship way (she loves me as a person, or she thinks I’m a giant dork and doesn’t want to hurt me anymore than she already has.)
  2. Sex: Two (0r more) people who want sex and are horny and just do it. No promises, no nothing, casual sex.
  3. Fucking: One person in dominant, it’s all about them. There’s a lot of guys I know who do this, and I personally think it’s disgusting. Sometimes I want to cry when this happens to girls who are friends of mine, because I know they were being used for that express purpose.

Anyway, ladies, I’m currently available… and in a severe depression brought on by never really being loved, so, if you’re around the age of 16, live in the massachusetts area, and would like an idiot to take care of… gimme a ring.