(gay here) I go as long as my SO indicates he wants or can handle. If I’m not done yet, we take care of it another way. No problem.
That’s the thing. If the guy lasts too long doing the exact same pattern, I do not, will not, can not come. I need the guy to last long enough for me to reach buildup and then I need him to Stop. Right. There. For a second. A giant, 6’-tall, hips-as-wide-as-mine, constant rythm dildo does not work.
I’m also perfectly happy with not coming during PiV, the rest of my body and yours are sexual organs too. My definition of “sex” isn’t limited to PiV.
I’ve heard tell about those - so good you fold in half.
for me(straight guy) reaching an orgasme has never been easy, when making love to new partner I dont expect to finish for at least the first week, but since I started taking anti depression medication…I cant even compleet manually,
With all due respect for the actual content of your post, I just wanted to note that the user name-post combination is fantastic.
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This is why mental math is important that way I can just keep part of my brain focused else where typically it buys me an extra 5 minutes or so (I just count with the Fibonacci sequence). If I’m lucky I’ll get 20 min which is why I always make sure she gets at least one orgasm before we start intercourse.
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There was a recent thread on just this question right here.
As far as how long I ‘should’ last? I really don’t have a clue. I’ve been celibate way too long to remember.
A week?! Geez, the rest of us are talking about minutes here! Way to make us feel bad!
Heh. I knew what you meant, and sorry about the meds…perhaps something to discuss with a doc?
Just like slurping your soup is a compliment to the chef in some places, being a three pump chump is a compliment to the sexual desireablilty of the object of chumpdom. If it takes him an hour, he’s just not that into you. 
*Three *pumps? In a row? What am I, a machine?
Now I’m picturing three random pumps (ideally when she least expects it).
Chefguy just gave the best advice on sex ever written. Not. Kidding.
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it doesn’t bother me that much anymore, everyone is responsible for their own orgasm and all that…It is kinda bizarre to explain a girl that it isn’t her fault and all that but thats how I roll:cool:
It really freaked me out in the beginning, but even then I thought it was kinda funny
I prefer being stable to having orgasms, but I am changing to new medication as soon as I get a real therapist,
No it means he’s literally too much into you.
I tend to go for about a 30-60 minutes total, with 5-30 minutes of actual penetrative sex and the rest some kinda foreplay or other activities.
Realistically, there’s a wide variety in preferences from women, and I don’t think I’ve ever had that much of a complaint either way (discounting complaints from people who complained about everything, but that was just the one lady). Most women worth dating are willing to compromise and learn with you how to get you both where you want to be.
There’s a perception in the general male community about endurance brought on partially by porn, where a guy can seem to be going hard for a solid half-hour to hour when most guys thrusting that much aren’t going to last more than 2-3 minutes without taking a break, slowing down, or changing positions. In the real world, when I’ve had issues with anti-depressants or other factors causing unexpectedly ridiculous endurance, that leads to a lot of “what am I doing wrong? Am I not attractive?” after a certain point, which is demoralizing for everyone.
I’ve had boyfriends on both ends of the spectrum: one who’d often get off in less than a minute, and one who was frequently anorgasmic because of medication he was on. If those two extremes are my options, I’d actually prefer the former most of the time.
Most women aren’t going to be bothered by a guy who reaches orgasm quickly… *as long as you make sure they get off, too *(either before, during, or after).
I read that as “either before, dying, or after.”
Post-mortem orgasm is not all it’s cracked up to be.