When I was about 18 my boyfriend and I had sex for 4 hours. I never came, I hurt for days afterward, and he got a chapped dick. Literally. CHAPPED. There is such thing as too much.
I finish before he starts, so it’s all good.
Okay so… um… this guy I know… I mean I don’t know him… this hypothetical guy… usually won’t last for more than a few minutes anymore. 10 minutes is a long time. Hypothetically he is a cool guy and enjoys foreplay and bringing his partner to orgasm before intercourse as a result. He is confused and has questions:
1.) In my current relationship, this was not a problem in the beginning. I could go for much longer and then one day it just changed and I don’t have the endurance.
2.) How do you delay? I’ve tried math, baseball, even thinking about dead babies. Doesn’t help.
3.) My current girlfriend likes a good hard pumping. So stopping and taking a break, or the “pinch your cock when your gonna blow” method just doesn’t support giving her what she wants. Pumping away is the quickest route to my early exit. Wasn’t the case a year ago, could do the occassional hard and long session.
4.) Neither my girlfriend nor myself want porn-star hour long sex all the time. I’d just like some control of the situation so at those times where she obviously wants longer, I can delivery.
5.) I’m 41 and everyone says you should GAIN endurance with age. I’m not. Why? At what age does this usually occur?
Ignore all references to “I” and “My” above… this is hypothetical! Haha
MeanJoe
Hasn’t happened with me either; I’m assuming at this point that it never will. I was on antidepressants for almost 10 years and thought I was “cured,” but came off of them years ago and found myself with the same… challenges… I had as a teenager. Prolonged pounding means I have to be on something: (single-dose) Paxil, an opiate like oxy- or hydrocodone (tramadol works too). In earlier, more reckless days, cocaine or ecstasy worked wonders. (Each of which can introduce their own problems to the mix, so dosing is delicate.)
DISCLAIMER: I am not a physician, pharmacist, sex therapist, or drug dealer.
Gay here and versatile so it’s not always my job to be doing the pumping. I’ve actually got extremely good control of my orgasm but I’m a bit concerned that this has morphed from control into simply delayed reaction. If I’m wanking to porn I’m generally at it for about half an hour.
I do enjoy fucking but have in fact only achieved orgasm by doing this twice in my life (and I’ve had over 200 partners!). Both of those times reaching orgasm felt like managing to pin down a constantly moving target rather than simply attaining an easy goal (which is what a lot of guys here are talking about). My favourite way to climax is through mutual masturbation, but even then we’re talking a good 20 minute before I can manage that if someone else is doing it to me, maybe more.
I actually wish I could cum quicker and it feel a little less like work 
Something I’ve discovered for myself is that condoms and condom brand matters a LOT. Bareback? 5 min hard pumping tops. Put a Trojan Unlubricated on me, and goddamn if I can hammer a girl for 25-35 minutes (which, to be frank, is kinda weird and unsettling unless she really asks for it).
Maybe experiment with that a bit. Positions also can really change endurance, or variations on position–10 degrees of difference in entry angle can mean the doubling my endurance in some cases.
YMMV.
Mig can go for hours and hours and he gets off repeatedly, like five or six times in a night. It’s too much for me. By the end I’m just…not into it. It’s great all the way up to then though. I just don’t know how he does it is all!
Also he could do it every freakin day. Maybe I’m just getting old but I like to space it out at least every couple of days.
Has Mig considered teaching community college courses? A little extra income never hurt anyone. 
Yeah, poorly phrased on my part. My intention was more along the lines of, “As long as her needs are met, she’s probably not going to care about how fast you get off.” Now, those needs may include penetration, but again, for at least some women, you can keep toys on hand for that, so your personal stamina doesn’t factor in.
I… er, a friend of mine can relate to this. But I generally ensure my wife has come before I, er, dive in. Sometimes, if I’ve been getting into the task at hand (and so has she) a few strokes is all it takes, but she doesn’t seem to mind.
Recently, she (the wife of this friend of mine I mean :p) seems to like it when I slip inside but don’t thrust (or at least only a little) while she gets busy with her fingers. She comes pretty quickly doing that, while I admire the view, and I then get the benefit of feeling her coming around me - if you’re pumping away, you don’t notice the sensation so much. Everyone’s happy. 
:eek: Do your wife and your friend know about this?!
I suggest you ignore the delay and work on decreasing your refractory period. With a bit of practice you can take it to zero, so after you finish you are not finished and can keep pumping away. You may not be able to have another orgasm for a while, but if you can keep it up, that should solve your problem.