I am in full weding-planning mode, trying to find dresses for my three junior bridesmaids at the moment. My two older cousins are 13 and 14, and while not technically adults, have the figures to fill out a dress. We’ve found a lovely strapless dress for them that’s still very modest and plan on ordering that in platinum for them. Unfortunately, it’s not available in a junior bridesmaid style - if it was, we’d add thicker straps to it for the little one since there is no way in hell I’m putting her in a strapless dress.
Which leads me to the first part of my rant - to these designers who are making JUNIOR bridesmaid dresses - that’s what she is! She’s a JUNIOR! What the hell is up with all of these revealing dresses for little girls? Yes, I realize that most junior dresses involve slapping a couple of spaghetti straps on a regular dress and making a smaller version, but I do NOT want my little nine-year-old baby cousin in most of these dresses! I know the little girls like to look older, but I’m sorry - she is not wearing these dresses. The last thing I want is guys hitting on her at the reception (she’s nine, but unfortunately, she’s already starting to fill out - she’s got the little girl face, but the body of a teenager). And aside from that, she’s just a baby - she’s excited about dressing up, but the last thing I want to do is make her self-conscious. Thank God for Jasmine Bridals - not only did I find my dress there, but they have a few junior dresses that are very modest and perfect for a little girl. I’ll be giving them my business. But seriously - I’m only her cousin. Think how her mother must feel.
And while I’m ranting, what the fuck is up with the bridesmaid gowns? I’m in a sticky situation - one of my bridesmaids is a bit larger than normal, so I’m trying my best to find a dress that she’s comfortable in. This does not mean I want to put my bridesmaids in a dress that looks like something my grandma would wear. This does not mean a short sleeved dress must have the ugliest sequins you can find on the floor of the factory to decorate the bodice. I would have liked to find a pretty dress with short cap sleeves and pretty beading for my bridesmaids - but instead, they have to wear three-quarter sleeves and no beading (luckily, the dresses we found are very classic and tasteful and gorgeous, but that doesn’t mean they were my first choice). I know that the choices have opened up a bit for larger women, but they aren’t open enough - nearly every dress out there is strapless or spaghetti strapped. Even larger women like to feel beautiful without showing a lot of skin.
(And I swear, I am not turning into Bridezilla - I’m more concerned with making my bridesmaids comfortable than I am with having the ‘perfect’ dress - this has just been bugging me for weeks since I started looking.).