When we text, the text is usually pretty good, in as much we both contribute to the texting. I usually walk away from our sessions feeling satiated, and I think she does too (Unless she’s faking it).
The problem is, she never initiates, it makes me feel a little insecure. Are my feelings valid? Should I hold back and let her initiate? Or would that be like playing stupid head games?
Please advise.
(And no, I’m not talking about “sex texting”. Just regular conversation. The above is just me being silly asking a serious question)
She may just be expecting you to initiate, because “that’s the way it’s always been” or for some other reason. If it bothers you, bring it up with her instead of letting it fester.
How often are you texting? I’d certainly feel a bit weird if I was always the one initiating. Would hold back a little if it was me. That’s not playing games - it’s adjusting to the demand of your texts
No, I was just being silly. We’re just friends. The bulk of our conversations are gossip about mutual friends, movies and what concerts are coming to town.
Still though, I’m always the one that starts our conversations.
Joke, eh? I think I see the problem: she’s always convulsing with laughter at your last witticism, and focused solely on maintaining control of her bowels.
I have friends like that (both sexes). I think texting is something they don’t think about doing, but they are happy to reply. Might be an age thing for us though.
Agree. I loathe texting as a form of conversation, and I generally make that known to people who text me trying to be chatty. But if I were into a guy I would probably initiate.
A lot of people like texting because it allows you to keep the conversation more casual and not have to worry about giving them your undivided attention while you’re trying to read or watch tv (or whatever).
But yeah, texting isn’t meant for Earth moving conversations or anything like that, I don’t think it ever was.
*Are you texting her slowly, with feeling or are you just pumping out a quicky whenever YOU feel like it?
*Have you ever asked her when she prefers to text? Timing is incredibly important.
*When you text, do you pay special attention to the “G” key? Fingering the “G” key just
enough will bring her incredible satisfaction. Don’t overdo the “G”, though. Never
text “giggle” when “g” is clearly enough.
*When you text, even though you initiate, do you make sure she finishes first - at least
sometimes? Often a good conversation brings about the opportunity for several finishes over a short time
period. Pulling out of the conversation too soon is a real turnoff.
*Guys - always remember that case doesn’t matter. Even if all you have to use is lower
case, if you use it well she’ll remember every texting session fondly. Besides, I have heard
from several women that sometimes ALL CAPS is more painful than enjoyable.
Get to the point where you can answer all of these questions correctly and you’ll exceed your data plan every month!
My wife and I used to text every day. We could hardly wait to text.
But now? Once a month, maybe. She’s always too tired.
The worst part is, I told this to Guinastasia and Annie XMas, and they said I was a typical passive-aggressive “nice guy” who felt “entitled” to texting.
