Will you just stop it already? She doesn’t want to participate in this thread anymore. Do you think you’re going to taunt and belittle her into arguing about with you? THAT is the jerkish behavior.
If someone you didn’t like said to you what Polycarp said to Sarahfeena, your chin would not only be trembling, but it would be going up and down endlessly. Stop badgering Sarahfeena and walk away, will you?
We went through this earlier in the thread with Bridget Burke. Saying that implies that you think that Sarahfeena was overreacting to someone telling her that he’d wished gang-rape on her.
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But she likes Polycarp and her response to his post was to pause long enough to reflect on what he had said. That is what she posted about why she took a break after she saw his post.
And I’ve had much worse things said to me and I continued to teach my students after removing the offending student. It never entered my mind to cry or tremble.
I’m not “badgering” Sarahfeena. According to you, she isn’t even participating here anymore. But even if she were, asking her a question relevant to her comments is hardly badgering.
If the word “snit” offends her, she shouldn’t be using her own BBQ sauce in the Pit . Next time, I might insult her back.
I’m writing about YOU-- YOU would whine and moan about your hurt feelings ad nauseum if such a hateful thing were said to you. I don’t want to beat up on Polycarp after he already apologized, but in light of his apology, her reaction could hardly be called a snit or flouncing. It was an appropriate reaction to leave the thread after some very negative words. Let her walk away from it without continuing to bring up her name and taunt her when you know she’s not coming back to answer a pointless, needling question whose answer no one really cares about anymore anyway.
Nor was Sarahfeena crying, or trembling, or in a snit, or flouncing. Your totally made-up characterization of her that way and yourself as better than that is, well, par for the course.
It adds insult to injury and it’s totally fucking inaccurate, but if you want to go on with this line of discussion, please do. You’re only further harming your own image.
I have absolutely no control over whether she walks away or not. I don’t “let” her do anything. I’m not “taunting” her – especially since she’s not here.
You have no way of knowing who cares about the question and the answer. I care about the answer to the question, but I concede that she won’t answer it. Miller’s question was neither pointless nor needling. I thought it bore repeating. It was in direct response to a series of disparaging comments that Sarafeena had made about Teddy Kennedy. When asked to make sense of her comments, she left the question unanswered even though she continued to participate in the discussion.
If Sarahfeena needs protecting in the Pit by someone else when she’s not even here, she might want to think twice before she returns.
Not in the Pit. Did you see me “whine and moan” about Sarafeena’s “salute” to me as she left this thread? What would be the point of my being insulted by her words to me and about me? That’s what you expect in the Pit.
At the moment, I see you trying to exercise control over whether I post or not and whether I mention her name even though she’s not here. I’m not trying to curtail your posts. I’m just responding.
I have an idea, Rubystreak.
You seem to have some pretty strong feelings about the way that Sarafeena is being talked about even though she is not here. Maybe you care about her personally even though you might not have met her face to face. It hurts you that she is hurting and you have a natural tendency to want to defend someone that you believe has been unfairly disrespected.
I can understand those feelings. I have them myself at the moment. Someone I care about has a brain tumor and I don’t want anyone speaking ill of him right now. Maybe if you and Sarahfeena are a little more empathetic…
Miller’s question to Sarahfeena is a good one, worthy of response.
I would read it with interest; it may speak for many Americans.
Hopefully “murder” isn’t among the metaphor.
Don’t accuse me of not being empathetic. You have no idea how I feel about Ted Kennedy. You do know that I think you’re being awful to Sarahfeena, and it’s to her I’m being empathetic here. If you think that what you’re doing here is noble and empathetic to Sen. Kennedy, then I imagine you’re perceiving yourself very differently from how you’re actually coming across.
Miller’s question isn’t needling. You repeating it as if it’s something of importance that Sarahfeena owes you an answer to is. Once a conversation gets to a point where your opponent wishes grave harm on you for your point of view, maybe that conversation has run its course. Maybe someone else willl answer it from their POV, but really, why not open a different thread then, not in the Pit?
Hey, Zoe, I’d appreciate it if you’d stop using my post to go after Sarahfeena. I don’t like it when other people use me as a blunt instrument. She’s under absolutely no obligation to answer my question. If beating that particular dead horse is so important to you, use your own words to do it. Just leave my name off of it.
I’ll try again, Rubystreak. You misunderstood.
You seem to have some pretty strong feelings about the way that Sarafeena is being talked about even though she is not here. Maybe you care about her personally even though you might not have met her face to face. It hurts you that she is hurting and you have a natural tendency to want to defend someone that you believe has been unfairly disrespected.
Surely there is nothing that you disagree with about what I have written thus far.
And I can understand those feelings because there are some parallels in what I have been feeling. Someone I care about has a brain tumor and I don’t like it when anyone speaks ill of him at the moment. I wasn’t saying that you are unempathetic altogether. But Sarahfeena has wanted people to be sensitive to her feelings without making an effort to be sensitive to ours. And you want us to be emphathetic to Sarahfeena also. And you claim that I would react the same way that she would. But I don’t claim that privilege in the Pit.
I’m suggesting that if we both exercise a little of what we ask of the other, then the problem is resolved.
I understood perfectly but I think it’s a stupid comparison. Sarahfeena was reading these words and she was affected by them because we all have a personal relationship. Ted Kennedy doesn’t give a rat’s ass what is said on the SDMB. See the difference? I hope so.
Do you know the Senator personally? Is he a family member of yours?
Otherwise, this whole “I care” business is very vaguely creepy stalkerish. :dubious:
No, just Rose and Eunice. And Bobby, but that one didn’t count under the circumstances; he was campaigning.
(Carol, I’m on the first step…)
Rose and Bobby are dead, Jim. What is your connection to the Kennedys that you “care” about the Senator?
By God, I think she just made a funny! Carol Stream! You little scamp, you!
Confused the hell out of me at first, as I never expected Star Trek humor from Carol Stream. But then I can be a bit slow sometimes.
Jim
Sometimes? 