I was reading the newspaper the other morning and, as I usually do, I checked out the daily report, where they list recent arrests and some magistrate court dispositions. Much to my surprise, I found my son listed in the magistrate court dispositions, having pleaded guilty to possession of less than 15 grams of narcotic. He was given 6 months probation and fined $164 in court costs.
This boy is 18 years old and a freshman at the local college. He is living at home, so we immediately dragged him out of bed and got the story out of him. According to him, he and a couple friends were caught smoking pot and ticketed for it. If he goes to a drug awareness class and behaves himself, his record will be wiped clean after six months. He had been told that the notice would not be published in the paper, so he thought that we wouldn’t find out for at least six months.
Now, the question is, what should we as parents do to help him learn from it? Keep out of it and let him handle it himself (pretty much our path so far, other than some lecturing)? Ground him? Other? If he were still in high school, I feel like we would be much more likely to ground him in some manner, but as he is an adult, I’m not sure what my reaction should be.