My step-sister got married.
Lets call her Jill. She is nice and so was her husband, Jack. I only really see them on Christmas or other family events throughout the year. Jill’s mother married my father so she has only been family for the past 5 years or so. We didn’t grow up together or anything.
The marraige lasted less than 6 months. The reason: Jill left hubbie for the best man. I know it’s a cliche but it really did happen.
She decided that she wasn’t in love with her husband and was in love with the best man from the wedding. Worst thing about this is that hubbie - Jack was a nice guy and the best man is a jerk. Lets call him Dick.
So, the marriage is over. Many friends are lost to the new couple, as it should be. Dick and Jack’s friendship is obviously over. Jack is gone, haven’t seen him since, don’t really know what happened to him.
After a couple years go by, this new couple decide to get married. It aleady happened. I went. I didn’t want to.
My question: Would you have gone to the wedding?
It is the position of my SO that going to the wedding was the right thing to do to show support to my family, especially my father and step-mom (Jill’s mother).
I am willing to play nice when I see the new couple at family events. It’s not my place to say anything to them about it.
However, IMHO, going to the new wedding is in a way validating, or endorsing the actions of them. What they did was wrong. In a perfect world, no one would even go the the wedding at all. Am I a big meanie?