A condom won’t protect you from a whole bunch of stuff…warts, HPV 5,7, 9 16 & 18, herphes, crabs, etc.
Back to the topic…
I don’t think any less of you if you hire some one. I don’t have a moral issue with it. I think it’s sad that you feel so isolated, everyone should have someone to “do a friend a favor”. Don’t know your age, but I’m assuming a very young man wouldn’t have the performance issues that have been mentioned. Be carefull, both with your health and general safety. I hope it works out for you. Whatever you decide to do, don’t beat yourself up over it.
Actually, I’m 25. I hope this doesn’t bode ill for my future. Thanks for the sympathy. I don’t want to feel sorry for myself though. I might get discouraged.
Without going into too many personal details, I’d recommend that you don’t give it a try. You don’t really want sex, you want intimancy. You almost certainly won’t get that for your money. We all go through our dry spells (including myself as I type this), but it’s not worth the cash outlay.
Just rethink what you’re looking for in a woman (or should I say partner) and go find someone who meets the qualifications.
Lizard, if you do decide to hire a prostitute, do yourself a favor and don’t use two condoms. “Double bagging” is a bad idea- it actually increases the chance of breakage because of the added friction.
You have several options, in my view.
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Hire someone. Pros: Sex. Cons: No emotion behind it, which makes it not as good (in my opinion), very high risk of contracting something (remember, some STDs can be had just through genital contact, not intercourse, and some can be obtained through oral sex), and not to mention the fact that it is illegal.
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Hook up with someone at a bar/club/other place. Pros: Sex. Cons: Just as high a risk of contracting an STD, high chance that you might not remember the entire evening, the person could be beyond odd, and others I’m not coming up with.
This weekend I heard a lot of people bragging about how much sex they’ve had. It actually terrified me… I kept on biting my tounge because I wanted to ask if they’d ever thought about the joys of herpes.
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Find a nice girl, date for awhile, then consummate. Pros: Safer. Cons: No sex for a long time, quite possibly not feisable.
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Masturbation. If you’re looking for hurt-free orgasms, it’s the way to go.
I’m not little miss sexually experienced- I’ve only ever “been” with my current girlfriend- but I do know that if I ever had sex without love, it would just cheapen things in my mind.
If I sound heavy handed against STDs and casual sex, it’s because I am. A lot of people- some say 1 in 4- have an STD, and the majority of them don’t even know they have one. I’m friends with several people who are promiscuous, and I’m never going to forget the time I had to take two of my friends to their AIDS test. The waiting time was agony. They were both negative, thank God, but I know several people who have died of AIDS, as well as several who admit to having an STD.
If you do it, then keep in mind that any girl that is a prostitute, regardless of the way she is hired or her general appearence, can have an STD. And be careful. Responsible fun is good fun.
Off the soapbox,
andygirl
Never poked a hooker myself. I did get a blowjob from a “nude model” once. Best damn blow-job I ever had. The girl was nice and polite, and we did talk a bit. A condom was used.
The irony is now, from February 2999 to to a couple of months ago, I was involved in relationships with girls fairly steadely. I just got on a roll I guess. I thought having a steady fuck would temper my horniness. It did just the opposite. I really-really like sex though. I like games, role playing, slap and tickle, get greased up and squirm around in a jello pit sex.
Yet I digress.
Stay totally away from the street whores. They are bottom feeder junkies.
If you are from a decent sized city look up ads in the weekly Forward Times (or whatever it is called in your neighbothood). Also check The eros guide online for your city. You get to see pictures and a their work philosophy.
I am coming from a personal perspective. I like the foreplay as much as the poke. The most boring sex I ever have had is when the girl just spreads her legs and waits. I prefer to be out of breath when finished. But getting a hooker may just end up at that. She spreads her legs and waits for you.
By reading ads and talking to her over the phone you can get an idea of how fun she may be and how she looks. You will have to pay a little more, but these girls will treat you better, or they will treat you like the naughty boy you really are if you wish. Either way focus on fun, be polite. Treat this girl like you should a pretty girl who is letting you inside. These girls are doing a job and they appreciate being treated nicely, they may even give you a bonus for it.
So what do you want. A poke, or a more complete package.
I’m not saying do it. Masturbation is the most cost-effective method, but lacking social interaction.
I should proofread more. The bj was received when there were no girls in my life.
Just a little gripe to those who say “go out and get a girl.” I went years without. Overall, I do ok, but trying too hard has a negative effect. I avoid single functions. It reeks of desperation. Better to find a hobby that others are into and just be a good guy (don’t hit on the girls), and be patient. But dry spells happen to most of us, and going out and getting a girl just doesn’t always work in the short run.
Only on the SDMB would I get sex advice from a teenaged lesbian. Thanks, andygirl! 
Lizard: Just do whatever is right for you. You obviously gave it a lot of thought, so just ask yourself - and answer truthfully - if you “only” want sex, or affection as well. I know it can be hard looking at whether you really want affection when you’ve had to go a while without, but that being said, if you can honestly deal with sex that lacks affection - as I’m assuming sex with a prostitute would be - then you might as well do it, if you think you really need to. Personally, I find that my interim girlfriend Rosie Palms is plenty for me… 
(God, I am never getting laid again…)
Maybe we can form some kind of support group, KKBattousai . . .
No, not THAT kind of support . . .
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“And so, the gods fulful thier holy plan to roast a man in a helecopter.”
let us know what happens, either way…
Using two condoms increases the probability of them breaking. Just wanted to warn you on that one.
Took a look at the local Internet guide. I’m shocked to see a guide for escorts there (I suppose they’re also in the yellow pages.) Since this is not Nevada and they are in fact prostitutes why doesn’t the city go and arrest them all?
'cause what they do is perfectly legal. They’re hired basically to go on a date with you. If there’s a little wheeling-and-dealing after they get there, well, that’s a crime, but hardly something prosecutable.
I once heard (might be a UL) that if you don’t actually hand them the money, instead just leave it on the table and they pick it up, it’s not prostitution since you’re not really paying them.
I will admit to having used the services of a number of prostitutes in the recent past.
I live in a country whereit is completely legal.
I am 26 well educated,clean cut good looking and am considered attractive if not a little exotic by most women I encounter here (I am a foreigner here).
My marriage broke up recenly and ive been on the prowl for a while.
I would take issue with the comments about picking someone up in a bar.Its unfair.It is a commitment of sorts and comes with baggage that i dont think you are looking for.
Between consenting adults who understand what the other is looking for , i dont see any problem with sex for money.You get what you need , as does she.
No big deal
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ps newsgroups are useful for realistic advice
alt.sex.prostitution
http://www.worldsexarchives.com
There was a female escort that I did a web page for. she charges $160.00 for a ‘massage’…a regular massage from a licensed person is about $50. So, you can imagine that other 110 bucks…
If you want to see a naked girl for a few hours, join an art class.
I advise against it, simply from the disease angle. Condoms are well-publicized as a way to avoid AIDS/HIV, but they don’t stop all sexually-transmitted diseases. HIV is transmitted through bodily fluids; some of the others are transmitted merely through genital contact. And don’t assume you’d be able to see it on her skin if she’s infected; some diseases can lie dormant for a good long while.
Condoms prevent certain problems, but not all. Play it safe.
While the STD possibility alone is scary, also consider that its against the law except in portions of Nevada (in the US anyway). I’m not preaching (I don’t believe that it should be against the law, but it is), just suggesting that you also give some consideration to possibly being arrested for soliciting, having to go to court, appear before a judge, plead guilty, pay the fine, etc. etc. etc. I don’t imagine that would make you feel a whole lot better about the entire situation.
There is someone out there for you. Go find her.
Just my opinion but how can anyone be turned on by a prostitute? She will have sex with you for a price, she had a dozen before you and will have a dozen after you. How can any man want this? I don’t under any circumstances.