My brother and I have a pretty good relationship. He is 2 years older than me, and he has beautiful twin daughters (my only nieces, who I adore) who are 9 years old. They are getting “chunky.” One has always been a little heavy, and the other wasn’t. Now they both are. They are active (soccer, dance and other activities) and healthy. But they have bellies that are more than “baby fat.”
Backstory: I am, and have almost always been overweight. It sucks being a fat kid. My mother never really had a handle on the whole nutrition thing. Eating was a sign of health in our family. My brother’s weight fluctuated, but he was more of an athlete than I and kept it off better. I grew up dealing with the taunts and fat jokes. I dealt with it but it sucked, and if I can do anything to prevent them from growing up that way I think I should.
I have seen how my nieces eat at their home. They eat what they want, and are given donuts, and candy, etc. when they prefer it over healthier choices. But I don’t live there, and I don’t see what happens on a daily basis.
I know it’s not my place. I have 2 kids and I hope I would listen to someone I love if they had some advice, but I know how easy it is to become defensive.
So, do you think I should bring it up or let them raise their kids as they fit?