Ok, here’s something I hope you find helpful. Nut up and call girls. I mentioned that earlier in the thread, but I guess you didn’t find it helpful. Forget the dog walking thing, I actually don’t think that’s stalkerish, you wanted to run into her. So what? But when a girl asks you to call her, don’t text. Don’t Facebook. Don’t email. Don’t leave a soul-bearing handwritten note on her windshield in a snowstorm. Call her. All of those other things are easier and less risky for you-- but they also make you look less secure since they are the easier way out.
But I think this pooch is screwed. Forget it now and move on.
Ok, yeah, looks like that ship has sailed. But try and look at it as a lesson learned! I know it’s hard right now but everytime something happens in life we should try to learn from it, and move on. Next time, call her directly and say what you feel!
And (sorry to repeat what I said on the previous page, but I think it’s important) try to to make it all about you. Try not to frame the whole conversation/statement in terms of what you want/feel/think. There’s a whole 'nother person you’re trying to connect with.
Can you quit getting so offended and lashing out at everyone who offers their honest opinion?
Who cares if it doesn’t directly address your inquiry? It’s a completely valid perspective of your situation, and frankly if you can’t handle this sort of criticism, then you should really learn to.
It’s all good. I’m sorry about lashing out. It’s just an emotional thing for me. I mean I realize it’s bordering on stalking and creepy behavior. I’m not proud of that and when somebody points it out, it stings because I know there’s some grain of truth to it. Also, I’ve been bullied a lot in my life and am tired of that so I have a low tolerance for what I might perceive as a threat.
This always happens when I ask for advice on the Dope. I have a POV but I know there’s something wrong with it. So I put it out there. Invariably, people will come along and say things that make me angry but are in fact true. I will defend my POV, and it takes some time but eventually I come around and understand things more clearly. Also, it’s usually things that I can’t actually discuss with people in real life. I really do appreciate that.
I think I get it at this point though. Thanks for all the replies.
Don’t feed the idea that they would be together if he simply hadn’t “screwed up”. They had plans and she fell asleep instead of going out; people that are interested don’t do that. If for some reason something does come up the person will reschedule.
We didn’t actually have plans. I had texted her that night after three weeks and she was already out. She didn’t get back to me until the next morning which is not a good sign itself. But, it is what it is. I just wanted to clear that up.
