I’m finally scanning pictures so I can easily share them with friends and family.
G-rated pictures of the whole gang playing mud volleyball. These are from 20 years ago. We broke up not long after that, but there are no hard feelings (as far as I know). I haven’t spoken to her in about 19 years.
The odds of being able to even find her are low. I’m finding nothing for an email address. But I have a very promising phone number and street address.
I would really like to. I like getting in touch with old friends. I did so about 2 years ago and it’s been really nice. We have lunch once in a while.
I am not in any way, shape or form trying to rekindle something. I am happily married and have been with my Wife for 15 years. This would not bother my Wife one bit.
Consider your answer, and then consider the additional information in the spoiler box.
My cousin lives near the address that I think that my ex-GF may be. She says that she ran into her while walking her dog, and from my cousins description of her… well it sounds like my ex-GF may have been pushing things a bit hard. My cousins description makes it sound like my ex-GF is an addict of some sort. Perhaps crack.If that’s true, I doubt I would be able to find her. Or that she would even have a computer. Though the address that I have does not support this information. It’s a nice middle class neighborhood. I know the area, and have Goggled pictures. It’s about 100 miles from me if that makes any difference.
This additional info has given me pause. If true I really doubt I could find her. If true and I do find her… well, not much can be done I suppose. But maybe contact from an old friend could help. Pictures of a happier time? She is smokin hot in the pictures.
I’m confident that in either case, I will be able to isolate myself from her if for some reason things go pear shaped.
Try Facebook. If she’s on there, then she likely wants to be contacted by her old friends. But I would not push any other way of finding her. Unless the information you have is from her or you cousin.
Though I’ve known more crackheads on MySpace. Maybe they like the shiny, flashing lights?
Still… maybe some things are better left unsaid, unseen, whatever, if she is hard up. If email and Facebook didn’t exist, we wouldn’t have all these second and third opportunities, and no closure, and I think sometimes that’s for the best.
An odd coincidence. Just today I found out that an old not-quite-girlfriend is undergoing chemo. I’ve spent the evening trying to find any old photos of us, with the idea that I’ll put them in a get-well card and send them to her.
Granted, knowing that she’s seriously ill makes my situation different. But if they’re G-rated photos of the whole gang, I say go ahead.
I have a FaceBook account that I never use. I never go there. It’s just not for me. She is, as far as I can tell not on facebook. From how I remember her, I doubt she would be.
I know I may be kicking an anthill, but like salinqmind said, I think she would love to see pictures of the old gang.
And Oak I pay a mortgage too (what does that have to do with anything?). I have found that discovering and revisiting the past is sometimes a good way to understand the present. On the other hand, you must be careful when you dig up an unexploded bomb.
Missed that Oak. You don’t need a FaceBook page to be a functioning member of society. I agree.
That’s sort of part of it. My neighbors down the road, no email. My Wife, no email besides work. Two of my best friends - no email besides work. None of us has any facebook twitter or whatever.
I’m probably way off base, but, the fact that you’ve invested so much (relatively speaking–Googling for her address and looking at photos of the address, not like, obsessing over her or anything!) into something you don’t want to amount to anything makes warning bells go off in my mind. I don’t disbelieve you when you say you don’t want to rekindle anything, but you might want to take a good hard look at why you want to do this.
I hear you. Going through all my pictures just made me somewhat nostalgic. I have sent links to the pictures to four of the folks that I still know. As for looking at the house, I sold this girl a car right after we split up. It would be a heck of a long shot, but if I saw the car, I would know I had the right address. I still have my truck from high school, so anything is possible.
Also, I find all of the new mapping ability fascinating. And, that’s my business. I’m in GIS. It’s not unusual for me to be poking around in one of the different systems.
You can try one contact. And see how she responds. Myself, I probably would find it interesting if someone from that far ago showed up in my life, but I would wonder what their motivations were!
I had originally decided to try to contact her until my cousin told me that she had seen her.
Hmmmm… she could be bad news. But, I live 100 miles away. I don’t think I would have a problem with her if this is true.
I would only try a phone call and exchange email so I could send her the link. If she is as bad as my cousin seems to think, it seems that a little thoughtfulness from an old friend might improve her life. If only for a moment.
Though, if she is in a bad way, I doubt it will be possible to contact her. I sure wouldn’t just drop in on what could or could not be her residence.
My advice is, stop pursuing this unless you were really close friends before and/or after you were in a relationship with this person. Otherwise it just seems kinda creepy.
We where room mates before becoming a couple. And I sold her a car after we broke up. She remained friends with one of my best friends for a while after.
I moved away.
The more I think about it, they are just pictures. :shrug:. I’m scanning them so I can share them. She’s in a lot of them as is her mom, sister and daugther. I really don’t see what’s creepy about it. I think it would be a nice gesture.
I’m not going to move mountains trying to find her. Yahoo people search brings her right up. Just not sure if it’s correct.
The twist I’m concerned about is if her life has gone horribly down hill. Would something like this, seeing herself so happy in the past make her feel worse?
Well, given that, I’d say it sounds like a nice gesture. Not creepy at all.
I wouldn’t worry that the photos would make her feel worse, even if she really is in a rut. If nothing else, perhaps it can inspire some wistful reminiscence.
Sorry if I was a little abrasive in my initial post, I’ve heard a lot of stories of folks hunting down exes - and in most cases it seems weird. This isn’t one of those cases, though.
I’d love getting a message like that from a past friend/ex. Who knows. In the past 19 years, maybe her mom died. Or her family lost all their old photos.
My folks’ house burned last year, and ALL of their old photos were lost. They were really touched when a childhood friend of my sister heard about it and sent them copies of pictures of her and my sister as kids.
