I just downloaded a hundred or so photos from my digital camera. I’ve been meaning to do it for some time but kept forgetting. I took a photo this morning to post to another thread and decided I’d download the rest and sort throught it.
The photos go as far back as January and there are lots of photos I’d completely forgotten I’d taken… lots of my ex g.f. and I… some in pretty compromising situations…
But it’s the ones of us in Old Town, her hamming it up in that little A&W t-shirt, some with her & my kids… all really pulling at my heartstrings. Maybe I should call her… I’ve got a date tonight but now I don’t feel like going.
Quicksilver, perhaps you should send the pictures to her (with a note explaining that you just recently found them in the camera) and see if she calls you.
We’re still friends (no benefits) and I’m sure that when she sees the pics she’ll be thinking what I’m thinking. But the reason we broke up is still the right one no matter how much we both might wish otherwise.
Don’t do it, mate! It’ll all end in tears, just like before.
Pretend you’ve gotten a postcard that says, “Ms. X. Mercury has has QuickSilver erased from her memories. Please never mention her again,” and move on. Else you’re just going to get stuck in this recursive loop of denial and self-denegration.
Kate Winslet sure was cute in that film, though, wasn’t she? Oh, what were we talking about?
Yeah, I know you’re right. But I just got back from my date and the woman was perfectly sociable and educated and all… but she wasn’t a hot piece of ass like my ex g.f. and she didn’t make me laugh or make me want her. And she wore a white denim skirt, after labour day. What’s up with that?!
It’s going to be hard not to pick up that phone… really hard. But I won’t 'cuz I’m drunk on 4 glasses of wine and the cold night air from the drive home. I can’t be held responsible for what I’m going to say if I pick up that phone. So I’m going to take a night time tylenol or two and go to bed. Soon…
And “…she wore a white denim skirt, after labour day…”? You need to detune your fashion sense, lest you be misidentified as something other than the heterosexual, muff-hunting stud that you are. I mean, heck, most guys don’t even know when Labor Day is.
Other than that, I sympathize with you. There’s nothing that makes you feel worse than the perfectly good date that just wasn’t good enough. Then it’s all your fault for not being good enough to appreciate her. At least the [thread=336491]batshit crazy[/thread] dates at least leave you with a good story.
G’luck to you. And don’t Dial Under the Influence, mate.
when you’re sober/awake reread this thread (which, if you’re reading this, you may have already done)
If you and your ex are friends, it may be a good idea to let sleeping dogs lie. If you two are meant to be together, it have to happen naturally over time. That you offered her the photos is a good way to keep the lines of communication open, but don’t expect it to lead to passion. Is she with anyone now? If so, don’t put in her in the awkward position of having to choose.
If the reasons you parted are valid, they’re probably still there and a reconciliation will probably only lead to a more bitter break up.
People don’t change unless they really want to, and if you haven’t changed that dramatically in 10 months, it’s likely she hasn’t either.
A year or two from now things may be different, but for now, just keep in touch
Thanks Stranger… you’re the Cricket to my Pinnochio… No pun intended.
I’m staying off the phone.
anyrose, neither one of us is with anybody right now… not since we’ve split up about 2 months ago. We still talk once a week or so and exchange emails from time to time. We’ve not seen one another in person though. That would be a little harder.
The fucked up thing is, we’re both on match now and she’s shown me a couple of the profiles of guys that contacted her to get my opinion. I’m certain there is no lack of them in her email box. It doesn’t upset me and I know she’s very picky and I can tell her heart isn’t in it. Neither is mine.
maybe you’re supposed to be just friends
one of the strongest friendships i have is with a guy with whom the romance just did not work. and this friendship has so far lasted over 15 years
