I need some advice, hopefully from some people that have a sibling and maybe some experience on how I should handle the situation.
My sister is a junior in high school and she likes to go out on weekends and do things that high school kids do, like drink alcohol. At first I didn’t have a big problem with it, because I knew that I wouldn’t be able to stop her, so the best I could do was tell her to be responsible, don’t drive, don’t ride with someone that was drinking, be careful, etc. I explained to her that there’s only one reason guys want girls to drink, but this didn’t seem to scare her.
In high school I would go out with my friends and do the same thing, but I followed all the advice that I gave to my sister. This was on a rare occasion too, as I would do it maybe once a month. I never drank so much that I couldn’t remember things, passed out, or threw up. I never even had a hangover, which is surprising, because a few times I thought I had drank a lot.
My sister goes out and drinks one night every weekend, and she’s told me that she’s drank so much that she’s both passed out and thrown up. This was the last straw for me. When I first found out, I told her that if her grades started to slip, then I’d tell my mom about her being a party girl. They’ve started to slip this year, my sister claims it’s because she’s taking AP classes, which is partly true, but I still warned her.
I’ve told my sister that I’m going to encourage my mom to impose a strict curfew on her (11:00 is what I’ll recommend, she doesn’t have one now), and just tell her to trust me on it without totally telling on my sister. My sister responded to this by threatening never to speak to me again, telling me she won’t respect me :rolleyes:, saying that I shouldn’t do it because it’ll make my mom feel like she failed as a mother, etc. (That second part is something that I told my sister that she’s trying to use on me now. When I first found out I told her that she had to be responsible because if she got hurt while doing it, it would make my mom feel like she failed.) She also used the “it’s my life, let me learn from mistakes on my own” routine, which I’m not planning on falling for, because she doesn’t seem to have learned any leasons.
So should I tell my mom about all this? I feel conflicted, I guess, because on one hand, I feel like I shouldn’t say anything because of a brother-sister kind of trust. Then on the other hand (the hand I’m leaning towards) I think I’m obligated to tell my mom so that she can take some action so that my sister doesn’t hurt herself. My sister will go off to college in a little over a year, so then there won’t be anyone to keep her inline. Would telling on her be the right thing? Should I have done it earlier?
Any opinions on what I should do?