So of course in the grand irony that is life, my sister called. My mom passed away 4 hours before my flight would have even left.
Sorry for your loss.
My deepest condolences.
My condolences to you and your family.
I’m so sorry. However it happens, it’s one of life’s greatest challenges to endure the death of a parent. My best to you in a troubled time.
I’m sorry to hear this, @Saint_Cad . My condolences to you and your family.
Thank you all.
So sorry, and glad we could be here for you as you agonized over it.
I’m sure you’ll find a way to say “Thanks, mom!” For my mother, before the funeral’s all arranged, I’m sure we’ll go out and have her favorite foods… and plenty of Hendrick’s on the rocks.
I’m sorry for your loss. I was there for my Mom’s death a few years ago (although not really–went back to the hotel for a nap after an all-night vigil). Did she know? Who knows. Was it good for me? Not sure–I had been flying back and forth from CO to ME for 9 months and was pretty worn out. Zoom would have been useless–she was in dementia and our FTF talks were pretty pointless, although comforting to her, I think. The best part was kind of re-uniting with my sister for a short period.
I’d like to point out something. Not only in this thread but other threads I’ve written and ones others have written.
Many times, you guys are assholes (not the people in this thread, but SD membership in general)
Often, I’m an asshole.
But when the shit is real, you all are the best, most empathetic, most supporting virtual family anyone could have. Now get out of here before you see me cry.
I’m not getting out of here before I say that I’m sorry for your loss.
Now cry (and/or swear, and/or laugh) all you need to.
I’m sorry Saint Cad, very tough night.
I’m so sorry you lost your mom. May your grief be gentle.
I am very sorry for your loss, @Saint_Cad.
I’m sorry for what you’re going through. And what she had to go through as well. Best of luck as you work through the aftermath.
I was not estranged from my parents, just socially & geographically distant. It still hit me pretty hard when they each died in turn. Even if you’d had the chance to say all you ever wanted to say, you’ll still wonder later if it was enough or the right thing. You’ll rehearse conversations you never had and now never will have. Try to let that reality sit lightly. It’s normal, in fact inevitable. Whatever you did or didn’t do, it was enough and that’s all that matters.
Hugs. Manly hugs. We’re all here for you 24/7/365 when you want to rant or reminisce or just howl at the moon.
I’m sorry fo your loss. The questions you were considering were reasonable. When I was out of the country, I got a call to come home because my dad was going downhill. Due to thunderstorms and delays, what should have been a quick flight ended up taking until almost midnight. I called my dad from the airport and asked if we should drive (2 hours to another state). He said no, he would see us in the morning. He died a few hours later. I would have liked to see him, but he knew I would have gone. He chose for my comfort and convenience, a last gift to me.
I’m sorry for your loss.
StG
Saint Cad, my condolences.
As you wrote, you’ve said “goodbye” for about 5 years. I think that’s way cool. I believe most people regret not having the chance to say good bye. You’ve said good bye more than once in person. Doesn’t mean you have to say good bye at the last moment.
I lived in Asia for 20 years long before phone calls were free. I said good bye to my parents many times long before they passed. I made a special trip to Spokane WA to say goodbye to me last grandmother a few years before she passed but right before I left for an extended period in Asia. While I would have preferred to surround them with love when they did pass on, I have no regrets for not having said goodbye. I think you have done well.
Condolences, Saint Cad.
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Saint Cad.