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Personally, I prefer my mates to be *not *the shambling undead, but then that’s just me. Picky picky picky.
ETA - Also. Jesus, try using the ENTER key every once in a while, m’kay?
Plus it’s nearly impossible to find a good restaurant that serves brains these days, and cooking at home is such a bother.
Will you marry me, Alice? 
In all seriousness, I agree with this. I’m not going to lie. I’m at an age where I’ve finished my education, found a good job, and many people (like my mom :rolleyes:) are waiting for me to get a ring and push out a kid. I would like to get married (not so sure on kids), but I don’t want to settle. I want that spark. He has to be a millionaire.
My point, if you’re single (female or male) maybe you’re meant to be single at the moment.
I know a guy just like this, except the farm and father part. He did marry a mail-order bride - drop dead gorgeous blond Russian lady. She got pregnant in the second year of their marriage and divorced him 6 months after their son was born.
Let me guess: Your woman left you for a doctor? You seem a little too angry about this for this to be just a casual observation. 
Actually I am a female doctor and my boyfriend works in a normal 40 hour a week job. Sometimes it is a little inconvenient, but luckily we are both pretty flexible people and willing to make it work.
I have purposely chosen not to date other doctors myself, because I think too many women chase male doctors just for the money. I know a lot of single female doctors who think they should only date other doctors and I do think that it is the reason some of them stay single. Personally, I’d rather be with a guy who is a good person and makes less money than I do (and so far that seems to be working out!)
It’s that constant waiting for “Mr. Perfect” that get’s women… There is no such thing!!! By the way the millionaires they are the ones that are actually never home, they are the ones that constantly work. Your so delusional if all you think is your just going to fall into his pile of money, you think he’s waiting for you!!! You want a real cheater??? Date a Millionaire… Like one of these threads said this lady of course had that whole “list” and of course year after year after no guy was coming around to her, going for her, and she finally found her future faience only after she said screw her BS men requirement “list” and when she started to relax on her list and just looked around instead of he must meet my “demands” she then found this great guy. Yes great is not perfect as NO one is “perfect”, but only after she relaxed on her “list” he came around. Were not saying to just throw away your “list” it’s not just black or white as when parents or friends say you have to relax on your “list” that doesn’t at all mean to just throw your whole list away… But what they are meaning is if he meet’s a few as in a couple, three, four of your actual actual reality “list” not the BS fantasy "requirements.
Nope haven’t been married, not at all angry, I’m a bachelor looking… But just pointing out the facts that have this “fantasy” rich doctor image that in reality it’s not at all all roses, not at all like TV. doctors would be great with other doctors or nurses since they both work the shi**y schedules. Just sayin medical and 9-5ers generally not that great of matches with working opposite hours etc etc…
Usually, when I put this after something, it’s a joke…
It is.
“Red hair” is actually number one on my deal-breakers list. I’m sorry, but a pale white dick emerging from a nest of wiry red pubic hair is such a turn-off to me that I get squicked out just thinking about it.
Seriously,is it that shocking for a woman to have some physical preferences?Is it that audatious for a woman to want to be attracted to her partner? Woulld anyone even comment on a man with a physical preference like that?
If your goal is to find a man, any man, then you probably should not be too picky. Bt I also don’t subscribe to the theory that a single middle aged woman is a failure at life.
There is nothing wrong with having preferences. Mistaking a preference for a dealbreaker though, is a mistake.
For example, I prefer big breasts. Ceteris paribus, bigger breasts are my choice. Yet I would never turn down someone for having small breasts.
If, for some reason, a given physical feature makes you unable to feel attraction, fair enough. But “unable to feel attraction” and “not as much attraction as I otherwise would” aren’t the same thing.
To take the two single women in my office:
One turned down a guy because he didn’t have a strong enough chin.
The other one requires a man who is tall and handsome. Yet those are manifestly preferences and not dealbreakers to her even though she thinks of them as dealbreakers: Her ex was not tall or handsome.
She also turned down a perfectly good guy because he was blond. Yet she had been attracted to a blond guy earlier.
And of course, both of them complain they cannot find a man.
Many people wait for the one.
Many people eventually get the 0.75 and decide to round up.
Well put. I think even when people do find “the one,” as time wears on, they end up at 0.75 anyway, so what the hell? Might as well get on with your life and enjoy what you have, instead of holding out for some fantasy. I believe in the spectrum of compatibility, though, not One True Love.
I have a huge long list of dealbreakers, but fully admit that this is at least in part because I’m not hugely into having a relationship. If I met someone that I really clicked with then I’m sure a lot of those dealbreakers would suddenly become unimportant. I bet that’s the same for some of these people who won’t ‘settle’ - it’s not that they’re looking for the perfect person so much as that they’re not really looking.
The physical things aren’t so much pre-defined deal-breakers; they just descriptive. Sure, maybe I will one day fall for someone who’s very short, thin, small-breasted and girly, but as it is I’m just not attracted to them. They make me feel like a galumphing fat rhinocerous who should be doing all the DIY.
Thing is, you have to approach it a positive way, that you will look at what the other person brings and value it for the good it’s worth – what must be avoided is thinking of it (and projecting to others) as that it’s somehow “settling for less”. That’s unfair to the other party.
Right. It might be a function of getting older - you realize YOU aren’t perfect, and your significant other doesn’t have to be (and won’t be) either. You’ve had a few (or more) relationships, and you’ve figured out along the way the things you like and the things you don’t like, and if you’re getting the things you like and not the things you don’t like, that’s pretty darned good.
Well, yes. Men being concerned about physical appearances is something they are commonly slammed for. And they are often accused of being inferior or evil because of it.
There’s a fine line between having reasonable desires and expectations that must be met before you consider dating someone, and having totally unrealistic, unhealthy expectations about relationships and the people you may date. In general I think deliberately ‘settling’ might lead to short-term goals like marriage and children being met, but isn’t likely to lead to long-term happiness. But neither is rejecting every guy who’s not a 6’1" playboy millionaire, if you want to be married someday.
Physical attraction is a big part of what keeps a couple happy and together, and it’s not always something we have much control over. It’s ridiculous that being open about physical preferences has become politically incorrect in some ways.
How depressing. People really do have trivial fantasies, little lifestyle “goals” and various other desiderata, just like on the TV teen specials and old people my mother’s friendly with before they all died from old-timers. Whatever happened to trying to be happy, tout court? Now I don’t even want to leave my apartment to see people whose company I enjoy – I’ll run into people just like the authoress of this “book,” (sounds like a blog or a Lady Home Journal recipe, frankly) and probably have some pixellated conversation with it.
One, there’s a real difference between “physical preferences” and having those “preferences” become iron-clad dealbreakers.
Two, I don’t think it’s just political correctness. It’s more a matter of a different way of looking at the world. My husband is 4’11". Many, many women would never consider getting involved with a man of that height. This blows my mind, because my marriage is really, really good. The idea that anyone could walk away from the sort of happiness I have over something that seems so . . . irrelevant is just hard to comprehend, and I’m really glad my parents raised me with such an emphasis on the “politically correct” doctrine of “it’s what’s on the inside that matters” because it kept me from walking away from what has turned out to be a profoundly satisfying life.
This isn’t to say that I don’t have my own arbitrary dealbreakers. I do. You’re right that there’s no accounting for taste, and “the heart has it’s reasons that reason knows not”. But on that same gut level, it’s hard not to feel like people who arbitrarily dismiss people for reasons you, yourself, don’t share seem to be potentially throwing away a lot of joy for no real gain.