Crunchy, I’d hate to see you leave all your connection here over this sad circumstance, because you’se a swell guy. But I hope your time away is spent productively. Best thoughts on resolving all that lead to this mess…
I would of course know, but (and this is what some people don’t believe) what I didn’t know was that the woman I am involved with was posting here under the name “Little Tassie” and saying she is from Australia. Had I known it was her, I would have notified TubaDiva, as I have done in the past.
And as to my asking Lynn to revoke my privileges, I don’t care what others think right now. I know I had nothing to do with this. If they want to think the worst of me, let them. I have other reasons than this for asking that my privileges be taken away, and this is just the last straw. I don’t have the emotional strength right now to deal with mean-spirited accusations and confrontations. As some of you know, I suffer from depression, I’m going to physical therapy 2 days a week to build up strength in my tore up right knee, I’ve been meaing to write my novel for a long time, and I received as much of a shock as anyone else last night when I saw why Tassie had been banned (believe it or not), and right now I need to focus on what I’m going to do about my relationship rather that defend myself against a witch hunt.
Believe me or not, I know the truth about myself and I was not, nor have ever been, a part of trying to mind-fuck the people of this board. Think what you want, but I’m leaving because I have more important things in my life to deal with right now than bullshit like this.
How’s this for a theory on why Honesty does this:
She sees how good Crunchy is at getting a response out of this board and wants some of it for herself. She just goes about it wrong.
Presumably all of Crunchy’s maladies are real, but over the last year we’ve been fed a steady stream of them. As evidence, he lists them above.
Each one was a separate story with a rallying 'round of support for our man Crunchy. Each time that happened it must have been a knife in the gut of poor Honesty.
I have no reason to believe that Crunchy isn’t an depressive ex-intelligence officer with a bum knee, an iffy relationship, an inability to manage money, and novel that just doesn’t seem to get written.
But each time he parlayed one of these stories into a show of support from us, Honesty must have felt the need for some of that.
Now, in one final (until he comes back) blaze of martyrdom he is going to sacrifice his posting privileges, reaping a chorus of “we’ll miss you, Crunchy” and “hurry back, Ron” and “call me at home if you need anything, buddy.” When that’s cooled down, he’ll have his privileges reinstated and return calmer, cooler, and ready to flirt with a newbie.
Give me a fucking break. Crunchy, my dislike of you is independent of these recent events, and I do not believe this is a puppet situation or that you necessarily knew anything about LittleTassie. But, if you have had nothing to do with this show some fucking balls and defend yourself. I know my thoughts of you bother you not at all, but your silly little martydom play is nothing less than I expected from you.
Just want to clarify -
The above was not an “I’ve had it, your so mean and I’m leaving forever” post.
I’m taking a break from here, is all. I completely understand why so many people are pissed off, and I hold no grudges against anyone here. But there is a lot going on in my life and I need to focus on what’s important in my real life, and quite frankly, this message board doesn’t rank at the top of that list.
I need to straighten things out with Honesty.
I need to get my deprssion under control again.
I need to write that damn novel of mine.
I hope to be back again, and I hope there’s no animosity carried over from this.
Even though you didn’t have to, thanks for clearing that up for me.
Sometimes we just get mixed up with sick people sometimes. I had a guy break in a garage and live in the attic space about my town house once. That was fun!
I understand the feeling of helping someone help themselves, but you cannot drag yourself down with her. And try as you might, you cannot shoulder the responsiblity of the world.
I only say this because I would hate to see you burn yourself out.
I’ll tell you what. You e-mail me if you need to. I know you said once that you are being bombarded with e-mails, so just letting you know that if you want to the ball is in your court.
I do feel that if you get revoked for a while you will be playing into her hands a bit. No outside friends to take you away from her. Even though you post from work.
If you do go for a while drop me and e-mail anyway to let me know how that novel is going.
Quick clarification:
Yes, I have been diagnosed with depression. I was not an officer, I was enlisted and worked for the 68th Intelligence squadron. I left the AF because in reality, the job sucked. It was brain-numbingly boring and not at all what I thought it would be. I could sned you a copy of my DD-214 if you would like to see my military history. Just email me and I’ll drop a copy in the mail for you. When have I posted about an inability to manage money? Not too long ago I posted about being debt free (with the exception of my student loans and car payments). And the novel never gets written because I don’t have a home PC and my typewriter is broken. I plan to get a PC by mid-April at the latest, uses what’s left of my tax return and the ovetime I’ll get this week for working 17 straight days.
Does that clarify everything?
I’m not leaving to be a martyr. I don’t care if I’m missed or not. And I don’t feel I have to come in here and defend myself against shit people have already made up their minds about. I don’t know how to prove I’m not Honesty or that I had nothing to do with it.
One of the favortie phrases around here is that you can’t prove a negative, but that’s exactly what I’m being asked to do. Well I can’t prove it. So fuck it. I have better things to do.
No, according to you your novel didn’t get written because you spent the money for the PC you had to have on other things before you got around to buying the PC. That is poor money management, not to mention a pretty flimsy excuse for not sitting down to write. Writers write. Wannabe writers talk about writing.
Also, I am not asking you to prove a negative. As I said, I don’t think she is your sock and I see no reason to think you knew what was happening.
What I said was that, much like Honesty, though less extreme, you require the adoring attention of others and are constantly putting yourself in a place to make sure you get it. My theory was that perhaps Honesty gets it from you and just doesn’t show the same level of skill.
NO SHIT! Thank you for saying that.
I love you, Ron… hang in there hun’. Ignore this ridiculous witch hunt and do what you know you have to. I believe in you 100%.
My gawd…what the hell good is it for some of you to jump on Crunchy’s ass before he even responded, then once he reponded his responses weren’t “man enough” for people to get off his ass?
Some of you truly can have some serious asshole behavior, never thinking about others but your own selves…you gotta whine about LittleTassie, then you gotta jump on Crunchy’s ass for association, then he decides he needs a break from the fucking whole ordeal, which apparently he had nothing to fucking do with, and you still have to clench your pitbull teeth on his ass for taking a break from what apparently has been a stressful situation.
Gotta hand it some of you, if you act this way in real life, I would hate to see what evil twists you think up every night just to piss off the world around you.
I for one stand behind him. I may not be privy to all the details but I would rather take his word than your words of spite and obvious attempts to villanize other people, something I find to be one of the worst human qualities a person can possess.
< shaking head >
Ok, I just realized that I think I posted that stuff about having my money situation under control over at FFF.
And obfus, yeah I may be a bit dramatic, but I still don’t see how to defend myself, which you claim I should stick around and do. You aren’t asking me to prove a negative, but those I would defend myself against are. I can’t prove that I had nothing to do with this. I need to get some things taken care of, plus I honestly think me leaving may help for a while. I don’t see what an act of martyrdom this would be, since I can just email again and asked to be reinstated.
And yes, wannabe writers talk about it, while writers write. If I worked on the novel instead of posting here all this time, the damn thing may have been finished by now, that’s why my privileges need to be taken away from me. This board is just too much of a distraction for me.
Good point on that money management thing - but if it’s any consolation I didn’t blow all of my tax return.
So if it came off as me trying to be the martyr, that’s not what I meant. I hadn’t noticed that sort of behavior, but it does seem apparent when you point it out like that. I’ll put it on my list of things to work on while I’m gone. 
Anyway, I’m leaving regardless because I think it’s quite obvious to anyone who read this thread that there’s some things going on IRL that need my attention. I’m sorry if taking care of my real life issues is less manly than staying here and duking it out online.
Like I said, a pitbull that can’t let go…sheesh.
Of course you stand behind himer, TC, you pull the same martyr shit everytime you get too upset. “I’m leaving and never coming back and you’ll all miss me and I won’t come back no matter how much you beg, so there!”
Then you are back a week later. Crunchy is like a brother to you, I’m sure.
Crunchy, it may very well be that taking a break from the board is the best things for you right now. Just make sure you’re doing it because it is the best for you and not because of this debacle.
You don’t have to prove anything to the posters in this thread. The only ones who matter on this issues are the admins and mods, and it seems they are behind you. I would suggest that even if you do keep posting, don’t post anything in this thread, or any other, defending yourself. Let the admins and mods sort things out.
I won’t presume to be in a position to give you advice on your relationship with Honesty. I don’t know you, her, or your situation, and God knows I’m no expert on relationships. I did, however, want to say something about this:
Just be careful that you taking on this responsibility doesn’t become an obstacle to her seeking help. I’ve been in a relationship before where I felt that kind of responsibility, and it became unhealthy for both of us.
Finally, if you do take a break, you will be welcomed back when you return.
Well said, Crunchy, I’ll pull my pitbull teeth out of your ass now.
Ron, I’m not going to load your mailbox up 'cause you asked us not to, but you have my email if you need me to vent or bounce those ideas for your novel off of while you’re away from here.
Take care.
Theresa
This is the one that worries me. Who else was it going to be? I knew immediately I read Lynn’s post. You didn’t. How much crap must she be getting away with with you?
Selective reading skills, obfus? I said this right after re-reading my post saying I was leaving:
"The above was not an “I’ve had it, your so mean and I’m leaving forever” post.
<snip>
I hope to be back again, and I hope there’s no animosity carried over from this."
You can scroll up and see it for yourself if you want.
Then how about I reiterate everything TC said? I haven’t left, haven’t said, or done, anything in a huff in the few months I’ve been on the board, and have no plans on doing so. When I get pissed about something that happens concerning the board or people on it, I usually keep it off board and let myself cool down before I do it. So I’m not one of these martyr posters you keep talking about.
So that said, I agree with TC 100%. This has turned into, on some people’s parts, a witch hunt with Crunchy as the main target. He’s being pounded from sixteen different angles and I don’t blame him for being fed up with this shit. I’m getting fed up with it, and I’m just reading it, I’m not even the target. This has gotten rediculous. Instead of placing the blame where it rightly belongs, and venting all the anger toward her, Crunchy is being asked to prove it’s not him, and then being flamed for other, unrelated things. Take my opinion for what it’s worth to you, but I think it’s all a load of bullshit.
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*Originally posted by picmr *
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I asked who it was to very my suspicions. I sent Lynn 2 emails about this, she responded to the second one. This is probably bad form, but here’s a copy of the email between us:
Does that clarify things for everyone?
TruePisces,
That’s really kind of touching. But I wasn’t flaming Crunchy for his behavior, just offering it as a possible explanation for the reason that Honesty has targeted these boards.
I don’t care how Crunchy behaves, god knows there are many more like him around here. I’ve never commented on it before and I don’t have any ill will for him. I have always ignored him before now, and once this dies down will go back to doing so.
I have accused him of nothing inappropriate for these boards. I further differentiated the key difference between his behavior and Honesty’s, simply noting that there was (in my opinion) a common behavioral element.
As for my lashing out at techchick, I probably shouldn’t have done it, but her opinions on acceptable board behavior really are worthless considering the roller coaster that has been her existence here.
[And Crunchy, I did see what you said, and acknowledge it, we simulposted]