Well, while I’d never ask the question, it would be kinda neat if I could do some good by having the anorexic eat for me whenever I had a noshies attack, and I’d only get to eat when the anorexic actually wanted to eat.
We’d both end up with less FUBARed bodies.
Are you sure you didn’t get adopted out of my family? The “two toothpicks in a maypop” look is a family trait.
You know, I really think that some people need to be told in exactly those words before they get it.
My husband learned this really nifty phrase at some kind of self-improvment movement he attended back in the 80s. I think it will work perfectly in your case.
“Thank you for caring. Fuck you for sharing.”
Pretty much sums it up for many situations. I invite you to try it. If you say it often enough to the offending parties you don’t even need to add the second half, a simple “thank you for caring” with a knowing smile and they’ll fill in the rest of the phrase in their minds.
Here’s how you should reply to these people.
Them: Oh, I so wish I was skinny like you! I wish I could eat anything I wanted and look like that!
You: Oh no no no, I wish I was like you! I really wish I had the self-confidence to not care what other people thought of me so I could eat anything I wanted. Seriously, it’s been so long since I had a Big Mac, I can’t even remember all the ingredients! Two all beef patties, special sauce, lettuce…dammit! What comes after the lettuce?
Then walk away muttering under your breath. I guarantee you your weight will never be mentioned (to your face) ever again.
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As to the OP, I don’t get the comments very often, but it pisses me off when I do. I recently talking to someone about quitting smoking. She said that she is afraid to quit because she might gain weight. Then she gave me an up and down look and said “Not that that is something you have to worry about”.
Ok I’m a guy so physical comments don’t bother me too much. She was insinuating that I’m not fat. She’s right, I’m not, but it’s not something I don’t worry about. I spend 3-4 hours a week in at the gym, I watch what I eat.
It just pissed me off that she assumed that I am not fat out of pure luck.
FWIW, I’ve since quit smoking (32 days!) and I’m up about 5lbs, but a few extra pounds is better than sooty lungs IMO.
Hey guys get this too:
“How come you’re so skinny”
“You should work out”
“you need to gain weight”
“Do you play basketball?”
“No I don’t play golf either”,is my usual response.
Just say, “No I’m dying of cancer, how’re you doing?”
Instead of being told she’s too skinny my wife gets told by her family that she’s fat and needs to lose weight all the time. However, she’s something like 5’ 5" and about 120 lbs and a size 4. Oh, we also have an almost 6 month old. She used to be a size 0 or something when we first met. She lets these comments get to her and starts believing them which is the most annoying thing about it. They also say the same about me but I do need to lose about 10 lbs or so (still hardly in the “fat” category and it would still be rude to say if I was).
That’s what my daughter said to a woman at the grocery store. ‘How do you stay so thin?’ ‘I have cancer.’ Shut her right up.
But then she felt bad, using cancer as a snap.
I don’t mind people telling me I’m thin, because that’s usually all they say. I don’t get the “Why don’t you eat?” or “Are you sick?” crap.
I would like to tell these folks that it’s not easy to buy clothes. Thin usually means hips, butt, and thighs like a little boy, and women’s pants are made for people with 28 inch waists and 36 inch hips.
I used to feel your pain. After I had two kids, but before I left my first husband, I was 5’ 7" and 106 pounds. Some people thought I looked bad, but mostly I got the “you’re so skinny” stuff. Now at 5’ 6 1/2" (I shrank) and 150 pounds, I still get people saying I’m skinny. WTF? I wear a 14. I’m not skinny at all.
As I always say, people are assholes.
I’m sorry people commented rudely on your appearance on Mother’s Day. Fucking jerks.
I don’t know if it comforts you any, but most of the people commenting on your body shape are jealous. That’s really what it comes down to-- they wish they were a skinny bitch (but one out of two ain’t bad, right?).
Just for the sake of perspective: when people comment on fat people’s weight, they generally actually are disgusted, not jealous. It’s mean and wrong to comment on someone’s appearance regardless of the motivation, but at least you can reassure yourself that you are healthy, you can wear normal clothes and look decent. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be pissed off when assholes are rude to you, but I do think fat people have it worse, overall.
Just be thankful you aren’t an actress. Then you’d get comments about how you’re a poor role model, have a pre-pubecent body and aren’t attractive. :rolleyes:
Every time I see someone here, or elsewhere, comment towards someone who is thin something along the lines of “Eat a sandwich!” I think to myself how these same people would never be caught dead saying “Lose some weight!” to anybody.
Somehow, being offensive to the overweight is not tolerated, even tangentially, while being similarly offensive to the underweight is perfectly acceptable.
You’re just bitchy because you’re hungry. Go eat a sandwich or something and drag your skinny ass outta here.
Where do you shop? Absolutely every single pair of pants I try, if they fit my hips they are HUGE in the waist. I am so god damned tired of walking around with a gap I could smuggle a DVD player in (or getting everything tailored). (If you think skinny is hard to fit trying being 5 feet tall with a big chest, butt to match, and a tiny waist - THAT is a bitch to find clothes for).
Dude, that is so not my experience. I’ve had complete strangers calling me “Shamu.”
Honestly, I think there are a lot of small-minded people of all sizes who like to knock people down who appear different than the norm. Too large, too small, too anything is all fair game to these people. They may not always be the same people, but they’re all siblings under the skin.
But people will get upset about that kind of thing, and stand up and shout how awful it is that such a thing would happen.
The same does not happen for the skinny, and in fact those people who would stand up and support the larger person will often be the same ones who turn around and insult the thin.
That’s where the double standard lies - that too many people think it’s perfectly fine to loudly comment on what a skinny person does or does not eat, and they don’t realise it can be rude and insulting to do that.
And for an almost completely, but not quite non-sequitur, “skinny bitches” is what my BIL calls hot dogs (of the frankfurter variety).
Although, more en pointe, he never (to my knowledge) calls women that, because he’s married to one. Except for the bitch part. Most of the time.
Nah, that’s how much sexier she’d be than Marilyn Monroe. (For those who don’t know kidchameleon is referencing a past thread that was a rant about how someone allegedly characterized MM as fat and Nicole Kidman as ideal.)
Someone has to take another side here. Sure it was rude of family to make those comments but hey that’s what family does. Don’t worry, they’ll soon move on to telling you about how you are parenting all wrong. And telling you that your kids eat too much or too little and are out of control. [Phoney smile]"Why thank you for the concern dear![/Phoney smile and turn away] No matter how thin you are (or not) you need a thick hide at family gatherings! And you are stuck with them now.
Could be jealousy. Could be they are a bit ignorant and see your loss of post-partum weight to your usual baseline as a bigger change than that and are honestly worried that you might be anorectic or otherwise ill. If so, would there be an accpetable way to express that?