I have a car mechanic friend who has worn his wedding ring on a leather thong around his neck for 35 years.
Neither Wife nor I have worn our rings for decades, but there is no way she wouldn’t glory in that post, nor rag on me FOR DECADES, to her eternal glee, about its contents.
Standard phrase I use when a man is trying to pick me up at my club: “I’m married.” (hold up my left hand to show my ring)
Standard response from the man: “So am I!” (holds up his hand to show me wedding band) “You wanna go to my car and fuck?” :dubious:
Una…never mind. 
That makes no sense to me. It doesn’t matter how crazy Dave is. His intention is still to say that you are cheating. The fact that it is unbelievable is only more reason to be upset. If it were actually about something that could actually indicate infidelity, then I could see being more accommodating.
Accusing someone of cheating without actual evidence is an insult. It makes perfect sense for the guy to be upset that this woman thinks so badly of him that she assumed on basically no evidence that he was cheating.
I don’t understand the OP. Both he AND his wife know this other woman’s recent history.
The only intelligent, mature response to this, is compassion. Someone who is still hurting is, quite normally, lashing out at other perceived instances of deception. You should be understanding, not defensive.
If you are indeed as innocent as you claim to be, that is.
A lot of people in pain act like real assholes, though. And one’s supply of compassion can get rapidly drained by such people. Our ideal may be to show compassion, but I at least am not a saint. And it doesn’t take guilt on my part to reflect bad behavior back at the person giving it to me, just my well of compassion running dry at that time will be sufficient for that.
QtM, you’re sounding more pastor than doc there.
IRL, I don’t wear my ring. It doesn’t fit. I spent a field trip with a pretty cow-orker who eventually bought a clue and asked, “Oh, you’re married?” It’s been three hours of chatting as a group. The topic never came up. But I was intrigued, realizing I hadn’t lost my mad skillz. :rolleyes:
Our relationship of “Yeah, but,” and “I’m not a homewrecker,” went on for months. We met later and she asked why I hadn’t called. : old rolleyes:
If someone I knew messaged me cryptically about Suburban Plankton being out and about without his ring on, my response would probably be something along the lines of, “Yeah, well I gave him the night off.” Just because that would be the type of response a busy body would deserve. It may or may not be true.