So I guess I'm having a threesome

No, not right now.

But I will be, uh, soon, probably.

Long-winded explanation: The college I attend has a tiny cafe where people can go and hang out in booths all day and get something to eat. I grab something small pretty much every day I’m there, and some days I’ll sit in one of the booths and chit chat with people I know. In the last year I’ve gotten acquainted with two folks who are always in the cafe…let’s call them Han and Leia. Leia is a small, skinny girl, very friendly and a little too cutesy for my taste, but I like her overall. She’s dating Han, but I know she’s bisexual and occasionally talks about some girlfriends of hers who live in other states. Han is, well, a guy, not bad looking, can tell cool stories and seems pretty mellow. I’m not extremely close with either of them, but they always seemed pretty cool and self-assured.

One day a few weeks ago I saw Han sitting with some other folks I know at a table outside, so I go over and sit and start listening in. There are about three conversations going on at the same time, with everyone trying to talk over each other. At some point the talk turns to the last time everyone had sex, and I mention that it’s been almost a year for me, and only the one time. Everyone pauses and gives me some sympathetic looks, and pretty soon Han, who’s sitting across the table, engages me in conversation until everyone else leaves. We chatted for a good hour and a half, and at one point he jokingly asked me if I wanted sex (not necessarily with him). Or I assumed he was joking.

Yesterday I walk into the cafe and see Han and Leia sitting together with one other person at a booth; I go and sit with them. Han starts asking us if anyone’s house is free, so we can all go do nasty things to each other. Again, I assume he’s kidding. Their houses are all occupied, and I passingly mention that mine is free. Leia and the other person go to get a drink, and Han, in an unmistakably serious tone of voice, asks me “So, your house is free?” I suppress a smile, thinking, nope, he can’t be really, seriously…is he? He takes my hand in his, looks me dead in the eye, and asks me if I’d like to have sex, because, well, it’s been a while. I evade the question (and his eyes) until Leia comes back over. I then say, “Hey, isn’t she your girlfriend?” “Sure” he says, “she’d be in on it too.” :eek: He mentions then that they are polyamorous, and have had three (heh) threesomes before this, and that they’d like to have one with me.

Hoo boy.

Han mentions that he and Leia both agree that they’d enjoy getting it on with me, which just leaves me as the deciding factor. I’m a little too shocked to say anything, so Han comes over and sits next to me, wrapping his right arm around me and bringing his face closer to mine. I draw a sharp intake of breath, but seem to have lost the power of speech forever. Han whispers “relax, loosen up” and puts his left hand on my thigh. “Is this ok with you?” he asks, and I nod, because although I can’t speak at the moment, I’m pretty comfortable with what’s going on. Han continues, “One of our big rules is that if someone is uncomfortable with what’s happening, we stop. So…do you want to?” I squeak out an affirmative answer, and he says “When?” “Um, not today”, I answer. “I have a class. Like right now, actually.” “Okay.” He gets up to smoke a cigarette outside. “Just stop back here after your class and I’ll give you my number, and we can plan something.” He hugs me once more, and I run to class, dazed but smiling.

After thinking about nothing else for an hour and a half, I sprint back to the cafe to exchange numbers with Han. Leia mentions that they’re going to the Rocky Horror Picture Show on Saturday night. I mention that I love the show/movie, and they invite me along, offering to give me a ride if I need. (Note: If you’ve never heard of it, RHPS is a kind of musical sex comedy that people watch and act out (usually around midnight)). Which means, I’ll be alone, very late on Saturday night, with Han and Leia. We exchange numbers, and Han subtly infers that something may or may not happen after the show. Rather than being creeped out at the idea, I’m…kind of looking forward to it. He tells me again that there’s no pressure, and to get in touch with him whenever I want. Before I leave, he kisses me roughly on the cheek; I nearly turn to leave, then lean in and kiss him on the mouth.

So, either this Saturday or at some point in the near future, I’ll be having a threesome with Han and Leia. After I got over the initial shock of holy crap are they really asking me to sleep with them? Both of them at the same time? :eek:, I’ve got to say I’m excited about the prospect. Han didn’t come off as aggressive at all; I was totally cool with him touching and kissing me, which is why I kissed him back. And funnily enough, I have been thinking about being with a girl (with or without a guy) for a little while, so this presents a perfect opportunity to stretch out my wings and have a little bit of fun. I’ve resolved to experience as many new things as I can get my hands on, even (or especially) if they seem a little crazy. It’s also very flattering that a couple would want me in on their fun. And let’s face it, I’d like to get laid.

This might happen tomorrow night, or it might not. Either way, wish me luck in my, uh, adventures!

Dumb question: are you male or female?

Female.

Mrs. Hollister & I had a female 3some partner for several months. It was terribly erotic and amazing for me. It was good for the other woman, who wasn’t attracted to Mrs. Hollister at all, but she & I got along exceedingly well and were very…ummm…compatible. :slight_smile: Mrs. Hollister seemed to enjoy it, but is not bi, although she admitted she found the other woman quite attractive. Anyway, Mrs. Hollister didn’t like how well the other woman & I got along and ended it. But she & I continued seeing each other for a year & half after that.

I’m not sure what to say…except have fun!

But also way in the back of your mind be careful (not physically, but that too). In my experience threesomes are a lot more fun to think about than to participate in and can create awkward situations afterward.

Have fun!

Really?

Well, afterwards we want all the details. And don’t forget the cardinal rule: TTIUWP. :smiley:

You didn’t quote quite enough:

I am pretty sure we were meant to know that they were not their real names, having been changed to protect the not-so-innocent. :wink:

Lucky girl - have fun! And enjoy the Rocky Horror Picture Show, in any event!

Ooo, Han, your light saber is so big!

Ummm…risk factor?

Maybe these people have ulterior motives?

I don’t think so. Bridge games take a fourth.

OTOH, going through life and never being in a threesome, you always wonder if you wasted your youth.

This is true…I can be accused of a lot of things but wasted youth is not one of them.:wink: I’d never tell anyone to skip something like a threesome if that’s what they wanted to do…but having been there, done that (more than once) I can say it wasn’t the end-all, be-all that I had hoped it would be.

I am an old stick in the mud, and it seems to me that after a single sexual experience it would be kind of overwhelming to jump into a threesome, but what do I know.

Enjoy yourself if you are sure, but make sure you are not pressured into doing anything you don’t want to do.

I second what Arnold said, both sentences.

Wow, what a compliment (being asked into a threesome, that is)! A lot of us have trouble just finding one person to sleep with.

I can’t say I’m jealous, though. I don’t think I could have a sexual encounter with another dude; it’d have to be a MFF engagement for me.

Have fun, be safe, and be sure to kiss and tell :smiley:

Yes, what a touching honor indeed.

Maybe they will further this deep and heartfelt compliment by letting her pay for the beer and pizza…

Something tells me it’s about to get real preachy in here…