I think her message is pretty straightforward – you are fun to hang with, but you’re not at the top of her list, and she doesn’t owe you any accounting of how she spends her time.
Agreed. She’s probably seeing someone or multiple someones regularly and you’re likely a fallback option. I wouldn’t lose sleep on this one and look to move on to someone else.
Well, weren’t a lot of people advising Red in the threads before this to gain confidence for dating? Is there any way to gain confidence without going on a lot of actual dates? It’s just like I said earlier. If these people enjoy each others company but aren’t gonna get anywhere, then that takes all the pressure off, and you can just do something fun, make small talk (again, there’s no training program for small talk; you just have to practice), and start feeling a whole lot less awkward in a date setting.
If you’re (well, generic you’re) so fixed on deciding who’s ‘using’ who, then just find some way to say he’s using her instead. But if you’re not hung up on finding an angle, just see if she wants to do something, and if sounds fun and you’re not busy, then do it.
I agree. I didn’t mean to suggest my post meant it was time to move on – just that she is not totally into you at this time. And that’s fine, so long as it doesn’t freak you out too much. Maybe at some point you’ll be friends with benefits, or even more exclusive if you find more and more to like about each other.
Ughh
The old retarded and dreaded “chase me, but not too much” scenario.
Good luck old boy.
I would also make sure your next encounter, should it happen, be limited to about 3 hours. Marathon dates are fun on occasion, but they are not necessarily a sign of “this is going well!”.
Or, keep this up with her AND look for someone else?
If you aren’t really physically attracted to her and using her as practice’… could it be possible she’s picked up on this?
Hopefully you two can at least remain friends, cutting out all this crap about who should call first.