brujaja, I think I am as discouraged as you are. I would have expected that as I get older (I am 49) that men, or people in general, would be a bit less superficial, and I am finding that that is not true. For the record, looks in a guy are far less important to me than hygiene, strength of character, intelligence, yada yada yada. I met a guy online recently who shared up front that he is 63 y.o., 5’9" and weighs 350 pounds. That actually didn’t really put me off until he told me he wouldn’t date anyone older than 55, AND she must be slender. I was a little put off by that double standard. And this is just one example.
Another example is a guy who I met online, but have actually known since I was a child. I always thought he was a nice guy and was somewhat hopeful about the prospect. Turns out he was only looking for a FWB, but without the “friends with” part.
I was married at 22, widowed at 37, and I thought that was it for me. Fast forward 7 years, I met my current husband, we got married, and life with him is great.
You shouldn’t accept the old magical notion of the One, as someone else posted. Odds are there are a number of people who could be right for you. Hang in there.
BTW, I’m impressed with the number of posters on this thread who met online. The way of the future, it seems…
Single again at 45, the last thing I was looking for was another man…I hadn’t lived without an man or a child since I was 20 and I was looking foward to the “me” time, but men are everywhere. One came right to my front door! (The handyman that my landlady hired is single, 50, good-looking and interested) At present, I’m dating a 44 year old (who is divorced, good-looking and very interested in making our relationship permanent) that tells anyone who will listen that he’s my boyfriend. He’s good-looking and fit and catches the eye of many 20-somethings but he explained that after dating a few, he wanted to connect with a woman who could offer him her life experiences to learn from, not someone he had to teach most things to.
There is hope.
My grandpa got re-married in his 60’s, to a woman in her late 50’s who had never been married before. They’re happier than any couple I’ve ever seen after 21 years.
Well, I’m 40 this year and not really looking, but my uncle Jesus was in his mid-fifties when he went to visit a colleague in another province (back then the trip took more than 12 hours), met the colleague’s 1-year-older sister and a month later they shocked the famillies announcing their wedding date.
I’m not sure whether they got to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary, I think they did.
You don’t have to go as far as 40. I’m thirty, was always going to be the first of my friends to wed, and now I’m perpetually single while they’re all getting married and having children. So all the prospects in my age range are also getting married and having children. I guess I’ll have to wait a few years for them all to be getting divorced.
Sad thing is that it’s true - I filled my post-divorce house with a lot of Craig’s-Listed furniture. My lovely bride answered an ad in the same site’s Personals section.
I met my SO 3 years ago in the grocery store when I was 46 and he was 31. We’re coming up on our one year wedding anniversary and are very happy. You just never know who, where or when - so hang in there!!!
