I met my current wife on Catholic Singles dot Com a few years ago.
I’m 46, she’s 45. This August 19th will be our 3 year anniversary
on a side note…
If I get this posted in the next 3 minutes it will be on the eve of the 5th anniversary of my late wife’s death.
My partner was about 41 when we got together. We just celebrated our 10th anniversary.
I met Mrs. Know when I was 45 and we were placed on the same bowling team. Got married a year and a half later, been married 4 years.
There is indeed hope, and it’ll happen when you least expect it.
We first met when we were 16, but were both dating other people, and were not interested in each other.
Went our separate ways, met again decades later. She was divorced and my wife of 24 years had died.
Dated for nearly two years, married at 49.
In September, we’ll celebrate our tenth anniversary.
Yes, it can happen, even after tragedy.
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Interesting.
I remember exactly where I was at that moment. And what I was doing.
And with whom. 
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Yeah, that sure was a fun game of Connect-4.
Some days, I despair that I am a pint of raspberry chocolate truffle ice cream in a world that wants only vanilla, chocolate, or strawberry.
But, this thread gives me hope.
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Yeah, that sure was a fun game of Connect-4.
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Yeah, except that there were only two of us.
You know, I was about to insert some ribbing to Autolycus, having to do with his character in another thread in the Game Room; and then I thought, what the heck is an Autolycus, anyway?
So I looked it up, & now I know. Ignorance fought. Cool name.
P.S. phouka: I can’t think of a flavor that sounds more delicious than raspberry chocolate truffle! May it happen for you, and soon.
I met her when I was 38, but waited until just after I turned 40 to ask her out. I had given up on long-term relationships, but life surprised me.
My grandfather has been married to his current wife for 20 years, and they met when he was in his mid 40s. Of course there’s hope for you! There’s more hope for you than the 20-somethings who are cruising bars and myspace, and haven’t finished growing up yet.
We met when he was 42, and we’ve been married for almost 2 years now.
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Yes, I’m a postin’ fool today, without a doubt. That’s because I am going crazy.
So, speak words of encouragement: How many of you met your significant other when in your forties?
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Just turned 41 & single last month. I’ll keep you posted.
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aww, perk up kids!
I think I was 39 when I first met my now-husband. We’ve been married - I think - three years now? Anyway, I’m 48 and he’s 49.
My daddy is 78, and he and his lady friend have been together something like 15 years. They are still livin’ it up!
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Imo be goddam fifty this year–and I have a two-year-old.
Of course, every day brings a new challenge. Kids expect you to entertain them, which becomes more complicated when they get a bit older.
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Wait, they publish marriage licenses in the local newspaper? What kind of antiquated law requires this?
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Since no one else answered … there is no law that they be published. Marriage licenses, like many other legal documents, are public record and may be viewed by anyone who likes. As such, they can be copied and published in the newspaper, if that newspaper chooses to print them. The same is true of divorces, civil cases, drivers licenses, etc.
As for me, I was divorced at the age of 39 after 16 years of marriage. A co-worker and I noticed one another; we’d known each other after years of working at the same place. I mean we NOTICED each other! He was 50 (and had never been married), I was 40 and we’ve been married nearly five years!
He frequently tells me he waited for me a long time, but refused to settle for anyone but me … he just didn’t know who I was going to turn out to be! 
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He frequently tells me he waited for me a long time, but refused to settle for anyone but me … he just didn’t know who I was going to turn out to be!
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Aww!
I sometimes feel that way about my GF.
My aunt met her new SO when she was 45 and the kids were all growed up. He seems to be a great improvement from the last one. My grandpa - for whom everyone thought a love life after grandma’s death was out of the question - got a new girlfriend at the age of 76. They’ve been together for about ten years now and are very happy. From which I learned that it’s never too late to start over.
I, too, met my husband through the Dope. I was 2 months shy of being 40, and married him the day after my 41st birthday. We’ve been blissfully happy for the past 7 years. 
My father met his current wife (after my mother passed away) at age 55 (she was 56) and married her at 56. They just celebrated their 19th wedding anniversary.
My great-uncle is in his 80s and he met a “lady friend” a few years ago–a few years after his wife died.
Another great-uncle didn’t get married until he was in his 50s.
No, I didn’t mean to rhyme, but hey, it came out nice.
In the interest of full disclosure, I was in my 40s when I met my husband here, but he was in his twenties. :eek: I point that out to say don’t be too restrictive about age. It is just a number.
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No, I didn’t mean to rhyme, but hey, it came out nice.
In the interest of full disclosure, I was in my 40s when I met my husband here, but he was in his twenties. :eek: I point that out to say don’t be too restrictive about age. It is just a number.
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Woo-hoo! You (both) rock!
I was talking to a really great guy at a punk show last week, friend of a friend, and he mentioned in passing that he’d written a little app that would crawl MySpace for him, find girls who fit his list of specific criteria regarding age, location, & so forth, & then add them to his friends list automatically.
Well, he was a really nice guy and I probably shouldn’t have yanked his chain about this but you know, I was feeling disgruntled. Edgy, you know? Lack of sex or something. 
So I asked him what exactly his pinpointed age group was. I should mention that the guy is, like, 38 or 39. He said “22 to 35” or, well, it was just over twenty and a ways under forty anyway. He looked clearly uncomfortable because a moment before, we had been discussing “ageism” (his word) and how that’s just bogus. Heh, heh, heh.
I realized several days later, as I always seem to do, what I really should have asked him:
What do you consider a 40-year-old male’s dating age range? and,
What do you consider a 40-year-old female’s dating age range?
I bet the answers would be instructive.
I’m afraid for every wonderful guy like yours, there are a hundred (at least!) guys my own age who feel it is written into law somewhere that All Men Must Have Girls 10-20 Years Younger Than They Are. Seriously, the last, say, three or four guys from my peergroup to whom I have made overtures have looked at me like I was somebody’s grandma asking them for a dance at a family wedding reception. —That’s cute, Ma’am, but you must be joking.—