So, uh, how do I deepthroat without gagging?

[Nzinga_Seated]

@nashiitashii

I tend to use this and thinking about the process of swallowing while doing it-- you don’t breathe when you swallow, and you’re pushing stuff down your throat when you’re doing it. Try it once, and build up to being able to do it over a few strokes. You’ll be able to time breathing in with time and will be able to handle it more often. However, this isn’t going to be a magical experience unless you’re also doing some sort of manual stimulation with what’s left when you pull back out. It takes practice and a little willingness to gag the first few times or accidentally screw up the rhythm, but you can get good at it. Giving can be really pleasurable, and to be honest I’m not as fond of the 69 position because I can neither focus on giving nor receiving and feel like I don’t get nearly as much out of it as taking turns.

You do all that to avoid choking on a nutter butter?
ETA: I hesitate to admit this, but I guess I should offer a serious response to this thread. A big part of learning to DT is allowing the man to…force it a bit. Just a bit at a time.

[AskNott]

@MeinView

The whole point about deep-throating is that you gag. A man wants to feel power over you–to dominate you-- which is why he is attempting to kill you by cutting off your air supply with his manhood. My suggestion is to not fight it and let yourself gag. I can send you a how-to video if you’d like.

If you get off on that kind of imagery, more power to you. Most people don’t view sex that way. Most folks can hold their breath long enough to drain a glass for a toast, or swim a ways in a pool.

As I said, you need to trust your man to not force you with his hands on the back of your head.

[lindsaybluth]

@MeinView

The whole point about deep-throating is that you gag. A man wants to feel power over you–to dominate you-- which is why he is attempting to kill you by cutting off your air supply with his manhood. My suggestion is to not fight it and let yourself gag. I can send you a how-to video if you’d like.

I think we should start a poll, “how many times have people attempted to take your life by forcing you to gag”. I bet dentists and male SO’s are in a dead heat.

I mean, hell, my SO’s biology must be aaaaaall screwed up if the last time he tried to kill me he cuddled me, we showered and then went out to dinner.

[Siam_Sam]

@Nzinga_Seated

A big part of learning to DT is allowing the man to…force it a bit. Just a bit at a time.

Doesn’t that make the lady’s eyes bulge out until they explode?

[MsWhatsit]

@Siam_Sam

Doesn’t that make the lady’s eyes bulge out until they explode?

Only if you’re a cartoon. Personally I won’t do 2-D for anyone I’m not in a really serious relationship with.

[Mardita]

I love giving head, and what has work for me more that the deep throat is giving attention to the hole penis, and playing with his balls, while getting it really really wet. I must agree they like the gagging feeling so while you perfect it, if you gag don’t think is a turn off.

Have fun at it and you’ll see you cant do no wrong, is not just about one thing, is about the end results… Slurp got me hungry

[Mardita]

- YouTube

check this out bit of illustration that is not that hard

[Shodan]

@Mardita

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g5MPpLXr8JQ&feature=endscreen&NR=1
check this out bit of illustration that is not that hard

Suppose he’s got a pointed stick?

Regards,
Shodan

[Chefguy]

@Mardita

I love giving head, and what has work for me more that the deep throat is giving attention to the hole penis, and playing with his balls, while getting it really really wet. I must agree they like the gagging feeling so while you perfect it, if you gag don’t think is a turn off.

Have fun at it and you’ll see you cant do no wrong, is not just about one thing, is about the end results… Slurp got me hungry

The “hole” penis? Is there another kind?

[corkboard]

I was sort of hoping the OP would return and close the loop on this. I’m wondering if all of the advice helped her go balls deep.

[JRDelirious]

After a year and a half either they’re still practicing, or they have perfected the technique and either way would rather be doing that than posting here…

[Stauderhorse]

@corkboard

I was sort of hoping the OP would return and close the loop on this. I’m wondering if all of the advice helped her go balls deep.

All the advice did help, plus lots of practice, and I’ve gotten pretty good at relaxing my throat. Suffice it to say we’re both very appreciative.

[Machine_Elf]

@corkboard

I was sort of hoping the OP would return and close the loop on this.

Maybe she can’t talk right now.

[corkboard]

@Machine_Elf

Maybe she can’t talk right now.

Girl’s still got two hands to type- multitask!

(and I see that she has returned- thanks, Stauderhorse!

[answermaster908]

@Stauderhorse

Really no delicate way to put this question, so…

When I’m giving my boyfriend a blowjob, there’s still at least another couple of inches that don’t fit in my mouth. I’ve tried putting my face at a 90-degree angle to his penis to make more room and open my throat, and that helps. I also notice that if I’ve had a drink or two, my gag reflex is a lot less sensitive. The problem is, I’ve always had a pretty sensitive gag reflex, maybe a little more sensitive than normal. Even when I went to my doctor’s office as a kid and he used a tongue depressor, I couldn’t stand it if it was anywhere near my throat. I also find it really difficult to swallow pills, and that may have something to do with it. Anyways, almost any time I try to take his whole penis in, I end up gagging or fighting off the urge to gag, which kind of kills the sexiness. He really loves it when I can fit more in, and I love giving him as much satisfaction as possible.

So, ladies (or men), advice? How do I train myself to ignore or lessen my gag reflex?

ok so here are a few things that will help you but for some you have to stay committed

1. take your tooth brush and scrub in circles starting at the tip of your tongue and work your way slowly to the back until you find the spot that makes you gag, then brush in circles over that spot for ten seconds or until you cant anymore doing this everyday will slowly but surely desensitize your gag reflex when you conquer that spot move the toothbrush further back and continue till you are satisfied my other tip which is quite helpful spray chloroseptic in the back of your throat about a min before you go down its an oral anesthetic and will numb the area

[Doggo]

Amazed that a thread like this exists on Straightdope. Keep up the good work.

[Zebra]

If the OP or any other ladies, need someone to practice on, or demonstrate to others, I will make my penis available.

[Peanut_Gallery]

@Zebra

If the OP or any other ladies, need someone to practice on, or demonstrate to others, I will make my penis available.

A community, see. That’s what The Straight Dope is about. People coming together.

[jackdavinci]

I’m a bit confused now, because whereas previously it was an issue for me, with my current boyfriend it was just really easy from the get go. Maybe it’s because he is long but not particularly thick? In any case it doesn’t seem like I suddenly figured out how to do it right, it was just easier.

[sexspert]

OK listen closely its all about illusion… You Don’t actually need or have to desensitize your throat or twist your neck to make it fit…Here’s the deal if he thinks your deep throating him that’s what he’ll believe to be true. Even when your not actually. All you have to do is press the back of your tounge up against the roof of your mouth put your hand around the rest of the penis and as your going in for the kill make the best gag noise you have. He will Think he’s at the back of your throat and as deep as he can possibly go. The head will confer this as it presses again your the roof and tounge. It will boost his ego.The noise will reconfirm what the head felt…So its simple illusion and both pparties are pleaded.His ego will be stroked and you won’t suffer the agony of streghing anything or puke and ruin the moment… Also tilting you head forward to where your fore head touches his pubis helps