So, what are your flaws?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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There’s way too much positivity going on around here. Comfort parties, saying nice things about fellow Dopers… Let’s get down to Earth, back to reality and see ourselves as we really are. What’s wrong with you?

Me, I have seriously poor social skills. I cannot smalltalk unless I make a hard conscious effort, and what’s more, I don’t understand the concept. If someone asks me something I assume they want information from me, not strike up a conversation. I answer like a child, monosyllabically if possible. If someone asks me how I am, I say “Fine”, I don’t elaborate or reciprocate.

I also tend to use too many words that end with -ate.

I’m physically aggressive, although it’s slowly dying down as I quickly get older. About fifteen years ago I figured out that when you’re my size it’s better to punch a wall when you get angry than to punch the person that got you angry, since he’s invariable a better puncher than you are. Whenever I get really mad, I still punch the hardest object that’s close to me, and that has cost me some bloody knuckles over the years.

No, I do not hit people. Unless they hit me first. And that hasn’t happened for quite a while now.

I have a love-hate relationship with octopuses (octopussies? octopi?) and squids. I fear them enormously, to the point where encountering a small octopus while swimming would make my heart literally skip a couple of beats and make me rush for the shore. And probably swear off swimming for the rest of my life.

I also have a phobia of doctors and hospitals, although the last two doctors I’ve met were so nice that this fear is dying away. Don’t ask me about the two doctors I met before that.

I really hate stupid people. People who are unable to follow chains of logic. I often have a discussion about this with a friend of mine, and he thinks stupid people are fun. I see them as an insult. I take it personally that I share species with them. Especially people with true-believer syndrome. Just can’t stand them.

Well, that’s what’s wrong with me. Who wants to join the honesty party?

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Ditto on the small talk - i’ve never been able to do it very well - particularly with people i don’t know.

It’s meant that often people have assumed that i’ve been ignoring them/annoyed with them/arrogant towards them etc. when actually we’ve just never had a proper conversation.

Tied into this is a rather strange one:

I hate saying “hello”.

I’m really bad at the quick “hello” thing people do when they pass in the street, first walk into the office etc. etc. - god knows why. Anyway - it tends to have the same effect as the above.

I can be very short with people who don’t “get” computers sometimes. Never consciously - and if someone comes to me for help or an explanation etc. then i’ll go above and beyond the call of duty to help them.

BUT

If they are asking me to explain everything i’m doing - why/how etc. then i’ll tell them, but if they don’t get it on the first or second explanation i’ll get a bit short with them (particularly when i’m busy)

hmmm…what else…

i’m a big-time grudge bearer - it takes a helluvah lot for someone to piss me off (my GF told me yesterday that in the five years she has known me, she has only ever seen me properly angry once) but woe betide anyone who does.

Think thats pretty much it…

Oh yeah - i can be a tad too sarcastic sometimes.
And i use “etc.” and “…” too much when writing :wink:

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If it weren’t for false modesty, I wouldn’t have any at all.

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Flaws? Woo, this could get t’ be a real downer of a thread …

Right. Here goes. I’m way-overweight, worry too much, and can’t let go of stuff I really should let go of. When I’m tired, my rage can turn white-hot, and sometimes be directed against myself.

I bemoan what fate hasn’t allowed me to have or experience, and forget to be thankful for what I’ve so far seen and done in my life.

That said – ah, t’heck with the flaws. :slight_smile:

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thinking about it - this has “therapy group” written all over it.

stands up

“Hi my name is Garius and I am flawed.”

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[chorus]
Hi, Garius.
[/chorus]

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Eh. I’ll respond later.

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Let’s see…

I’m lazy, a bit over-weight, tend to procrastinate (I’m suppose to be out of the house already, running errands), can’t cook, and think the world should revolve around me.

I got good parts too: I’m fiercely loyal, I’m friendly, happy, polite, love to talk to people(sadly, usually about myself.
I have good legs, Hubby thinks I’m funny and beautiful and sexy.
I’m pretty good at word and trivia games. And I am an excellent driver.

My good parts outweigh/outnumber my bad parts! Yea!!!

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Well, I have no flaws. I am perfect in every way, but for some reason, my husband doesn’t agree with me. :smiley:

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I was kidding before. Seriously, I have no social skills at all. I don’t know how to talk to people or what to say. When I make jokes, nobody gets them but me. I also tend to take charge of everything, without meaning to.

I was talking to a friend about it once, she told me that I was intimidating to others.

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I think I talk too much sometimes. But it’s something I’m working on. I’ll try and catch myself before the friend I’m talking to completely phases me out.
And sometimes in public settings, on a bus, at a bus stop, waiting in line for a movie, I’ll kind of make a comment to people, and engage them in conversation, or sometimes make a comment and unobtrusively join in the conversation.
I’m a wacky extrovert. And I think it embarasses my SO…so I’m working on it.

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I’m not too good at small talk, and I can be a right stressy git at times.

erm…

I probably use ‘…’ too much as well, and I definately spend too much time on message boards.

I can’t get down to work unless I absolutely have to.

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I rarely say goodbye when I leave messages on answering machines, and to my astonishment, this bothers people. I assume they will realize it is the end of the conversation when they hear the beep at the end, but apparently some people need to hear the words

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I really hate stupid people. People who are unable to follow chains of logic. I often have a discussion about this with a friend of mine, and he thinks stupid people are fun. I see them as an insult. I take it personally that I share species with them. Especially people with true-believer syndrome. Just can’t stand them.

Well, that’s what’s wrong with me. Who wants to join the honesty party? **
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mm, i’m definitely in agreement with you about that last point. I cannot abide stupid people. Especially the ones that glorify their ignorance, and are proud of the fact that thue know so little.

I’m very very stubborn, about some things. If I know 100% I’m right, I don’t care if it’s the president I’m arguing with, I will keep on arguing until the other party admits that i’m right. This combined with my flaw number 1, sometimes makes for entertaining happenings :smiley:
I’m trying to become more patient. I judge everyone by myself, ie if i do a job in 30 mins, it’s really going to piss me off if you take an hour and half to do it EVERY TIME. I’d be understanding if it was your first time, or if you’re physically impaired, but apart from that: No excuse.

Which brings me to flaw number 4: I really cannot abide laziness. Both kinds, physically and mentally. Its such a waste to see people “exist” instead of “live”.

I could go on, but there you go. I’ve no phobias to speak of, and i think of myself as quite reasonable

:slight_smile:

quote:
don’t argue with idiots, they only bring you down to their level, and then they beat you with their experience

:smiley:

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Arrogance and insecurity.

I understand Richard III perfectly sometimes.

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Count me on the list of people who have poor social skills. I don’t make small talk very well and I’m usually the quiet one when among a group of co-workers. I don’t like attempting to make meaningful conversation with people whose interests and activities have nothing in common with mine.

I’m a terrible procrastinator. I wait until just before my bills are due (sometimes I’m even a couple days late) before I get the payments sent off in the mail.

I’m terrible at housework and my house is always a mess.

I have a short temper and little patience for a lot of things. This goes especially for dealing with stupid people. Driving in traffic is where I am at my worst.

I’m stingy when it comes to money. I do buy gifts for my family and I always spend enough for them to receive decent gifts. Where I show my stinginess is when it comes to charities and other forms of donation. I also don’t like having to dole out a tip at a restaurant, but I do it since I know its customary and expected (and yes, I do tip 15%).

I’m also a very stubborn person. I tenaciously hold onto my beliefs and opinions and I resent people who challenge my opinions with their opposing views.

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im very unwilling to let anyone help me… i never tell people about my problems i just keep them all in… i eat way too much ben and jerrys… i procrastinate a LOT… and i am an extremely picky eater.

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That’d make you a very good procrastinator.

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I’m rather preoccupied with the rate at which I’m aging.

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I’m very outspoken.

I’ve never had an emotion that wasn’t written all over my face. I may try to be nice to the idiots, but it just doesn’t work when I’m looking at them like they are bugs.

I have very little redeeming social value.

Tact is something left out of my genetic code. If you don’t want an honest answer, then why’d you ask me?

Very Defensive When It Comes To My Size. Being fat isn’t a flaw - it’s how God made me. DO NOT TRY TO SHOW ME THE ERROR OF MY WAYS. I will then be forced to point out every freakin’ flaw of your character and body. Reference above “Tact” statement.