So, what are your flaws?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Poor social skills. I think many strangers think I’m rude or something, instead of just shy. :frowning:

Being perceived as rude, harsh, snappy when it is not my intention. :frowning: :frowning: :frowning: This is a family trait, though. I just appear harsher than what I meant, sometimes I think I’m being courteous with a stranger (or even a friend), but they perceive it as a rude act or comment. I try to avoid it when I’m self-conscious about it, but if it’s just something spontaneous then I can’t help it much, except apologize (if it’s a friend) a lot afterwards. :frowning:

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Yet another no social skills reject here.

Isn’t funny how many of us have no social skills here though? Are all of us that stunted? I really don’t think so. Look how many of us all just jumped in here to start talking to essentially a group of strangers, and did so honestly. Perhaps we aren’t so bad after all. Perhaps I’m not the reject I thought I was. I’m actually feeling better now.

Thanks!! :smiley:

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I’ll go the extra mile for everyone but myself; if you ask me to do something for someone else, I’ll do it in a heartbeat, but if I myself should do something similar, it’ll back-burner for months. I disappoint myself on an almost daily basis. Procrastinator Extraordinaire.

I hate day-to-day cleaning. If it isn’t a huge project, or won’t make a vast difference in the way things look or run, I’m not interested. Dusting is anathema to me.

I’m extremely sarcastic, and quick to get angry; I have been told I get very snide when I’m pissed off. (It’s impossible for me to stay angry, but the lightning flash can be ugly.) I’ve got a quick mind and an even quicker tongue, so the “can’t-resist-saying-it” one-liners most people think of the next day, I just say. Right then. I often regret this. (I’m also quick to apologize, however, if I felt I went into bitch mode. This doesn’t make it right, but it does make me feel better.)

I am one of the few people, apparently, who’s good at smalltalk. I think the thing people don’t realize about smalltalk and chitchat is that it has to be cultivated, just like any other skill. I bartend for a living, so I have to be good at the extended bullshit. After awhile it’s like a second skin; I just effortlessly fall into this amusing pitter-patter of conversation. No one ever suspects that I’m not really enjoying it; people will come in months later and expect to pick up our “wonderful conversation” right where we left it…not realizing that I do it every day, all day long, and that they weren’t nearly as memorable as I made them feel. :smiley:

But I used to be very shy and reserved, just like a lot of the people on this thread; you’d never know it now, so I think the trick is to do it a lot.

(And I had to throw that in there, just b/c a lot of people seem to feel like being bad at smalltalk is some kind of flaw, or inherent failure, and it isn’t. It’s just a trick, like anything else, that has to be practiced. Why do you think so many male bartenders pick up so many women? ;))

Oh, and if I don’t solve a problem immediately, I’ll let it go forever. If I don’t paint my apartment the moment I move in, I never will. If I don’t quit a job the moment I think I should, I’ll stay there forever. If I don’t put up the bookshelves I bought the day I bought them, it’ll take months, and a visit from my mother, for me to get off my ass and do it.

I don’t know what that’s called, but I’m so familiar with it that I compensate for it constantly. “Do it NOW or you NEVER WILL!”

Maybe this is a time management problem.

Or maybe it’s just laziness.

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My husband says I’m messy. I can cook dinner for fourteen out of nothing but leftovers, but it’ll look like a bomb exploded in the kitchen.

I’m very shy, and not assertive enough about my opinions, even if I know I’m factually correct.

I also think I have most of the seven deadly sins covered, especially pride and despair. I’m working on them.

Lots of others, but they’d take too long to write out.

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I procrastinate.
Damn!
:frowning:

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The list is long I’m afraid, but I’ll throw out a few though.

I have a terrible memory - unless I want to remember something really upsetting, I seem to have no trouble with that.

I worry about pretty much everything.

I spend too much money.

I have no idea how to talk to people (especially those of the fairer sex).

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If I were to actually list them, I’d break the server.

So you are now able to enjoy the “Guess Scotti’s Foibles” game…now, isn’t that a “GOOD THING”?

Hee…or [hidesunderabarrel]

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Humiliy is not one of my flaws ; but If I had one that would be it .

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It bothers me when I thought I was good at something, or knowledgable about something and then someone comes along and does/says it better than me. I wish there was something that I could boast about being really good at compared to everybody else because in a lot of things I am not very good, such as sports or math.

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Why am I not surprised at the number of “poor social skills” and “overweight” posts? :smiley:

But since I took the liberty of getting a cheap shot in, I’ll go ahead and list mine too.

-I’m waaaay too concerned with my appearance. It’s not that I spend hours and hours grooming myself, either. I’m actually as close to zero management as you get. Shower, shave, brush the teeth and I’m out the door. I even shaved my head to be done with my hair (which is/was naturally wavy and unruly). I just happen to hate the way I look. I get told that I’m a good-looking guy every once in awhile (sometimes I even get told I’m “hot”, although that’s extremely rare, and the people from which that issues are usually less than stellar in their mental stability :p), but I can’t help but try to not look myself in the mirror. This is probably more serious than I give it credit for, come to think of it, but I’m not the therapy type.

-Arrogant. I’m sure this is a problem most people here have (being the intellectual individuals you are), but I don’t consider myself to be extrordinarily intelligence. I can just be very “Am I the only one that can do anything right?” arrogant sometimes. I also think I have some leftover I’m-a-teenager-and-thus-know-everything" syndrome in my blood.

-Sarcastic. I think my sense of humour is largely made up of sarcasm, but I’ve been told on several occasions I can get downright hurtful with it. I’m watching what I say more and more, though.

-I can be harsh on people with personal problems. I’m very much an “Advice Guy”, the one person everyone comes to with their problems for a talk/shoulder to cry on/etc. (which is, coincidentally, the one thing that both drives and hinders my success with the ladies). However, I take it upon myself to tell my guy-friends to suck it up. Something in me doesn’t believe a Real Man ™ shouldn’t be able to cope with absolutely everything that’s thrown at him. The females are ok, and my empathy and sensitivity with them can get downright girlfriendly with them, but for guys, I rarely have mercy. In fact, that “suck it up” face-to-face strategy was implemented on one of my best friends all throughout high school. He was later diagnosed with chronic depression. Oops.