Saint Cad: Hasn’t anyone told you that “Christmas Cheer” means to buy us all drinks, not to tell us amusing jokes? 
Icould tell you about what she did and didn’t do Sunday but the replies would be either
You’re lying
or
Quit bitching
I already believe you.
Now, what did she do on Sunday, and what didn’t she do that she should have? Bitch away!
Sat on the computer for 10 hours watching music videos. In the meanwhile:
Did not get her daughter any breakfast so Sunday breakfast was cold cereal.
When she wanted lunch, Mrs Cad said loudly enough for SIL to hear “Maybe your mother can help you make the ramen.” 20 minutes later SIL still hadn’t moved so I ended up making her lunch.
Refused to help clean up from me making Christmas cookies with the kids . Bear in mind I do all of the cooking in the house and Mrs Cad works 50-60 hours per week. SIL agreed to help out by doing the dishes which if lucky means half of the time. Mrs Cad did the dishes again while SIL complained to her daughter and Cad Jr that she always does the dishes (even apparently that night even though I saw Mrs Cad do them), no one ever thanks her (this from someone that never acknowledges anything anyone does to help her) and that she doesn’t get anything out of doing the dishes. Hey I feed your daughter EVERY FUCKING NIGHT and even make a plate for you for when you get off work. I pick up your daughter from day care every week night.
Talking to Mrs Cad last night she raised the point of what would happen to the daughter if we threw her out and yet again I said that maybe she needs to live with her father about 90 minutes away. The daughter has another household as an option and SIL (and maybe her ex. I don’t know him that well) needs to realize that it is not our responsibility to take care of her daughter. We are at the point where she will be told, “If you don’t like it here, get out.” and contact the father and let him know the situation. All I know is that there needs to be a re-evaluation soon.
I think you need to call Child Protective Services, and start documenting what is going on with the daughter, she is not safe with this woman.
How much do you know about the Dad? It sounds as if he’s not paying any child support, so may not be any better?
He is paying
She did leave her daughter alone for hours at a time on two separate occassions until we told her that was illegal. We never said explicitly we would call CPS but she’s been better since then.
Hey St Cad, I’m reviving this thread because I would love an update. Is this leech still in your house? How are you dealing?
Heh, I started reading from the top of the thread, thinking, “I wonder how this turned out.” I’m glad it was bumped by someone similarly curious.
I started reading from the top of the thread, thinking, “I wonder if I replied to this to mention my clueless brother.”
Same here, but replace “clueless” with “self-entitled drug addict.”
Leech moved out finally 
Moved in with her boyfriend/pseudo-fiance. Since he doesn’t have a lot of experience living with others, he defers to her in how to handle situations like getting groceries or paying bills with no money. No money, yep because rent alone is $1200 and he’s no sugar daddy. He makes as much (little?) as she does. I can’t give you a lot of what happens over there because neither one tells the same story about the same situation. I said this and he said that but then he comes over to pick up their dog (we dogsit for free but we’re cool with that) and it is a whole different story.
Oh and just after that we took in two more strays, my stepson (read the “Ketchup” thread) and his girlfriend/love-of-his-life/meant to be together/going to get married and have babies of two weeks. She couldn’t handle the stress of free room and board so she moved back but let it be known she plans to come back and stay with us on vacations.
Three more years and I can move to London. NO MORE STRAYS (I hope)!
Hip hip hooray to Anaamika! Could not have responded better.
Could have responded a year and half earlier, though.:smack:
Except as I said, Mrs. Cad didn’t want to throw an 8 year old into the streets.
And another update. After years of claiming having her daughter was the most important thing in her life, SIL decided to give up custody and most of the visitation she is entitled to so that her, her dad and her now husband could move 3 states over and live for free with her grandmother. Of course they would help clean up and fix up her house because SIL is due to get the house when grandma passes on.
EXCEPT
When they got there, grandma was not too keen on them actually living with her so they now live in a trailer and are looking for a house to rent there. And inheriting the house? Yeah that was based on dad’s assumption of “who else would she leave it to?” No one is really sure who gets what in her will.
^ This.
I supported two people on less than that last year, living in the greater Chicago area. It’s not a glamorous lifestyle, but I wouldn’t call it “grinding”.
Of course, I bust my hump, we get a deal on the rent because we’re willing to do some maintenance and act as security on the building, and I have a spouse that, even if disabled, pulls his weight as much as he can.
This comment boggles my mind. Do you realize that, at least where I live, childcare costs $20k a year? That doesn’t leave much left over for rent, let alone anything else. I’m sure it costs less elsewhere than my crazy-expensive city, but regardless, I can be pretty confident in saying that childcare alone is going to eat up the majority of what this woman makes at her job.
Yep. Let’s say she brings home $2000 a month.
Childcare $200/week
Truck she had to have and roll over the loan from previous car so she is in effect paying for two cars: $600/mo
Hmmmm … she only has $600 before rent and utilities and food.
Now if the issue is that she SHOULD be able to support a family on $2000/mo or she CAN support them? Remember in the thread is started about the poverty mentality many soundly berated me for daring to criticize the bad financial decisions people make that keep them poor (like a heavy-duty 4x4 truck* rather than a small car).
Oh and about the truck. You’ll laugh! When she was in the hospital, her husband sold the truck to pay the landlord 3 months of rent - in cash and didn’t get a receipt for it. Anyways the sale was “here’s the truck but I won’t actually make a contract or sign the pink slip or anything.” Guy blows the engine two days later and truck got repoed out from under her.