Speculating on Female Escorts

In My Humble Opinion
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Yesterday, at the grocery store of all places, I observed a woman I believe to be a paid female escort. She had a head piled with fake-blonde hair, a low-cut top with (to my eye) fake boobs, sheer pants and 4-inch heels. She was pretty in a “rode hard and put up wet” way; she looked like she was aiming for 25 but was probably 45. The man she was with handsome and didn’t look desperate, but he was dressed in a crew-neck sweater and khaki pants – in other words, he didn’t look like he was going somewhere extremely fancy.

My mother was with me, and she didn’t see her, but recognized the type. The only place she’s seen a lot of escorts is at the track. The only place I’ve ever seen them is in a restaurant, once, and it was really easy to spot, not because of how the women were dressed but their behavior. They were young, min-20s and dressed in high heels and skimpy dresses, yes, but the men were 50+ and the girls were laughing like loons at whatever they said.

My question – have you ever seen female escorts out and about? How is it, in this day and age, that this is even a profession, still? Who needs to pay someone to go places with them? What sort of women are attracted to it? And finally, is “female escort” really a cover for prostitute?

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I observed the couple at the grocery store in the evening, not afternoon, by the way. They looked like they’d stopped off for some ibuprofin (I saw them in the pharmacy area) on their way to somewhere.

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Ellen

Sure, I’ve seen them out and about many times. Not in Saudi, mind you, but in many other countries. The better ones aren’t skanky at all and tend to dress appropriately for wherever they’re going. The one you met sounds like she should have retired years ago. Sex is usually part of it but there is also just someone laughing at some guy’s jokes and at least faking that they care about him. I guess you could call them “prostitutes-plus” or something like that.

Some of the girls get into this for bad reasons like a boyfriend living off them or the like. I think most of them get into it because it’s easy money and there is a lot of it. A good one can not only separate a guy from a lot of money in an evening, but make him like it and come back for more. I’d think it beats hell out of working at Walmart or something.
Maybe it’s just because I’m male but it seems like a perfectly reasonable deal to me. The guy has a perceived need and she is willing to fulfill it for a price.

Regards

Testy

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I don’t think the woman you described is neceessarily a prostitute. She could be a used and cast off trophy wife who’s desperate to find another sugar daddy. She probably still thinks she looks sexy, and she will cling and be excessively attentive to any man she’s with.

Rather sad, really. This also describes my oldest sister.

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Of course some people simply dress and behave in ways other people do not approve of. It might be considered wrong to think the worst of people you know little of.

Or not.

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Maybe you’re right, Ellen Cherry, or maybe not. I know some women who dress very foxy, but they’re happily married with ordinary, lawful careers. If you see one of them clinging to her husband in public, and laughing at his jokes, it’s because they’re in love.

I know one couple, about 60. She looks much younger, due to the plastic surgeon’s arts and her workout regimen. He says he never asked her to get a boob job or a face lift. It was her idea, and he could afford it.

If only professional floozies had fake booblage, big hair, flashy makeup, and fuck-me shoes, plastic surgeons wouldn’t be rich. Folks like Peter Revson and Manolo Blahnik would have been selling used cars.

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One time at Fogo De Chao there was a guy at the bar who looked to be in his forties, and he would have been VERY unattractive even if he wasn’t overweight and bald. The comb-over, 75 extra pounds, and thick glasses didn’t even have that much affect on his already bad appearance. He was accompanied by a very attractive young lady (probably early 20s) who was wearing a kinda skimpy dress and was being extremely affectionate and attentive towards him. I thought at the time she must be an escort, but maybe he had a really great personality.

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Before this thread, I can’t recall the last time I’ve seen or heard the term used in any other way. I do recall a short-lived '70s sitcom about an escort agency where the ladies were emphatically not prostitutes, but I don’t think that was realistic even then.

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Blansky’s Beauties?

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You know this thread reminds me; I’ve always wondered about the supposed “smart girl in grad/law/med school paying her tutition by working as an escort.” Has anyone ever known anyone like that? You see it in TV shows and stuff all the time.

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Then there are middle aged women who are desperately trying to cling to their youth and their husbands humor/tolerate them to make them happy. I think your more likely to encounter this type in a supermarket.

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Yes. I can’t provide a cite, obviously, but I have personal knowledge (meaning I knew the women) of at least two women who did this. One actually signed up with an escort service. The other one just had, shall we say, generous male friends. Of the two, the one who worked for the escort service was a bit more honest and straightforward about what she was doing, and stopped doing it when she finished grad school. I don’t know what happened to the other one. She had some vague hopes that one of her “friends” would marry her, but it seems doubtful that it ever happened.

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Many years ago, I went to a small business seminar. Among the speakers was Sydney Biddle Barrows, the “Mayflower Madam,” who, as you may recall, ran a high-class escort agency in New York. She gave a good talk–it really was about starting and running a small business–but there were a lot of specifics about her particular line of business that came out as well. Let’s see what I can remember:

These were the types that Ms. Barrows preferred to hire, actually. She would also consider young women who had graduated, and had day jobs. As long as they could dress well, and had poise and confidence, and not look or act like a prostitute, they stood a chance of being hired by her. But not all escort agencies were as discerning, apparently.

To answer your last question first, yes; but I’ll add “in most cases.” Ms. Barrows said that comprised a lot of her business–a visiting businessman, say, wanted a prostitute, but didn’t want a street hooker. So he’d call her, and she would send over a girl. Generally, the appointment would be for at least an hour, if not two; and apparently, most of what took place wasn’t sexual: the client just wanted the company of a young lady for a while. They would “get down to business” at some point, but if the client was paying for a couple of hours, then he would get a couple of hours of the girl’s company. For this reason, the girl Ms. Barrows hired would, in addition to being attractive, also have to be current with news events, well-spoken, educated, good conversationalists, and so on.

Your first question has a few more answers though. Ms. Barrows said that her client list included a few surprises–for example, a few gay men who had not come out (at least not to their families) and who needed a date for family functions. Simply showing up with a girl meant they avoided certain embarrassing questions. Or the single businessmen who had corporate social events to attend, but were not in a relationship and simply didn’t want to attend without a date.

Of course, not all agencies would be like this, and Ms. Barrows mentioned some of her competitors who didn’t hire the types of girls she did, establish the conditions of employment she did, and charge the prices she did. But–and this was the key to her talk on small business–she did as well as she did because she provided just what her clients wanted, at a price they considered fair.

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If indeed what you saw was an escort, there’s something called a GFE (girlfriend experience). If all your life you’ve had horible luck, but are lonely, one might be willing to pay for such a service. Is that so hard to believe?

The kind that want to get paid.

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On the other side of this coin, I knew a guy that was about 5’4" and close to 300 lbs. He made me look trim. Thinning hair. To look at him he was not a catch.
He was engaged to a former playmate of the month. She was close to 6’ tall. The kind of woman, who when she walks into a room conversation stops.

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One of my close friends, and her mother, both worked for awhile for an escort service. Her mother was in her 60s at the time, and while she was not skinny and had no “work” done she was a very attractive woman with classic bone structure, extremely good taste, and just oozing class. My friend was in her 30s at the time, and had a good but not terribly well-paying job as a tech writer, and she had her mother’s good bone structure plus she looked younger than her actual age and she had a great figure for designer clothes (i.e., skinny, no bust).

The mom’s gig was to have dinner with one guy, every night, at a very, very nice restaurant. The kind of restaurant where you might run into Liz Taylor in the ladies room, which she did, once. He paid for her dinner and for her time. He didn’t want to eat dinner alone.

Before this guy there were others, but not many, because mostly when somebody wants an escort they don’t want a 60-year-old no matter how classy.

My friend had more of a variety, but the deal was that sex was never included, implicitly or explicitly. But it was not prohibited. (I guess there were escort services where the escorts were told not to fuck the clients, but this wasn’t one of them.) But my friend sort of looked at it as a dating service, in that she was free to befriend the clients if she wanted, and she did, a couple of times. In other words, she turned a couple of them into actual boyfriends, in which case they didn’t pay her. But she’s the sort whose boyfriends and husbands are pretty much expected to come up with some nice gifts, and they always do.

The company they worked for also had male escorts. Same deal, same price, but less demand.

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Thanks for all the answers. It’s been very illuminating.

I think a couple of you might believe I was judging this woman. No. I was perhaps making an assumption, which of course might have been incorrect, but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t paid female escorts. I’m curious about them.

And yes of course they could have been married, but their mis-matching outfits and her being so overdressed led me to wonder if she was an escort.

I was wondering who might be attracted to this (assuming it doesn’t mean sex; or maybe even if it does) because when I was younger, it never would have occurred to me to do this to get paid. Waitress or store clerk, yes; paid escort, never even entered my mind.

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There is still a need for honest escorts. It doesn’t happen very often in a normal persons life. but there are some formal occasions.

One of my friend’s worked at a small company owned by a rich ecentric old man. After about 3 months workign there every employee was invited to a formal dinner with the boss and his wife. He said the personell guy came to him with his formal invitation. and told him he would be expected to bring an 'appropriate" guest. Not alone, not gay, and no one who would embarrass anyone. The personell dude asked told him the campany would pay for an escort if he knew no one suitable.

My friend had a girlfriend who he took, but he said a couple people had gone with the escort.

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What you’re (the OP) describing sounds like a description of a typical middle-aged woman…
…in Las Vegas.

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Several years ago while attending a convention in Vegas, I rode the elevator with a guy in his late fifties (at least), with a gorgeous piece of arm candy who must’ve been 23 (if that). I figure she must’ve been financially compensated (I mean, hey- Vegas, right?)

A good friend of mine was an escort for a while. I don’t think she did it for more than a year, and only to supplement her struggling writing career.