The thread on the male gigolo got me to thinking. Would you go to a gigolo?
Duece Bigalow was a silly, stupid movie, but it had one thing bang on-target - the girls may have hired the gigolo for sex, but what they really wanted was a good time. If I was going to go to a gigolo it wouldn’t remotely be about the sex. And I like sex…just not bought and paid for.
What I would hire one for would be a wonderful evening on the town, stuff I couldn’t do normally. Like…an evening in Manhattan, at a wonderful restaurant. I would expect him to know wines and order a fine wine. He’d have to pick the restaurant, too. Then a lovely club. Some place I couldn’t get into or wouldn’t know how to get into on my own. Maybe a private showing at a museum beforehand…you know, the whole nine yards.
I’d expect him to be sophisticated and high-class. Or maybe I’d want him to take me to a day out in the country, go horseback riding, or something like that, but I’d expect him to know everything, get me into private lessons, whatever.
Just things I am not familiar with or can’t get access to normally. Why would I want to hire one just for sex?
Well, if you can ignore the fact I’m gay, then no, I wouldn’t want to hire anyone for sex, it wouldn’t give me any pleasure - sex with strangers doesn’t do it for me, particularly if I thought they didn’t actually want to be there.
However, I know someone who has considered it. She’s in a sexless marriage, doesn’t even get a cuddle off her pretty asexual husband but has young children and a strong belief in holding the family together. She has certainly discussed it frequently as preferable to having an affair which could get emotional.
For the sexual aspect, I don’t think I could get over however many of gazillions of women he’d been with. I realize he’d be safe, but those kinds of high numbers ooge me out irrationally. For just a companion, I’d probably feel it would be too strained, like going on a blind date. For simply a cuddle factor, I don’t think I could do it because it wouldn’t be sincere. So overall, I guess I’d be left out by my liberal-minded self would like to think I wouldn’t be too hung up to give it a try. But I guess not.
A huge part of the turn on for me is that the person I am with genuinely desires me. If I have to pay him to pretend to desire me, that takes the fun out of it.
I’d probably do it just for the kinkiness factor. I like to try new things.
Then again, I’d probably chicken out and/or not want to cough up the bucks.
I wouldn’t want to do it with a regular guy who I didn’t feel wanted to be there, but a pro? No problem. He wants to be there because he gets a paycheck. Besides, anybody working in a customer service job has to deal with both unpleasant individuals and pleasant ones. Considering that the guy probably frequently has to deal with customers who are rude, degrading, repulsive, etc., he would probably be glad to have a nice customer like me.
ETA–I didn’t read the article yet, so my response isn’t influenced by it.
I don’t think the one in the article is remotely attractive, either, but again, I wouldn’t be necessarily going for his looks. I mean, I’d like him to look nice, but clean cut and appropriately dressed for the occasion is way more important to me.
If he can fake a British accent then that’s a point in his favor.
Well, yeah! If the guy who played Remmington Steel would pretend to be James Bond for me, I’d pay for that.
However, knowing the sort of male hooker I could actually afford, I have to say no.
I think the situation the OP describes could be interesting - and I think it was quite common for rich single women to have male escorts accompany them to events and things. Put in a ‘Pretty Woman’ situation - y’know, “I want a professional. I don’t have time for distractions.” could be interesting.
I agree that it would be hard for me to pay for sex because part of the turn-on is knowing a guy wants to be with me.
Now, having a man to clean my house naked would be something different all together. Especially if he had a cute butt.
I can’t envision a situation in which I would. I’m too much of a casual homebody to go on the kinds of dates that warrant a pretty boy to dangle off of, and if I did, I’d rather doll up my boyfriend and marvel at his transformation from nerd to stud. And sex is not so physically stimulating to me that an attractive stranger who is presumably better skilled than your average guy is going to do much for me. Without the element of psychological familiarity with my partner, sex isn’t as enjoyable.
Not for sex, I don’t think so. Sex with strangers doesn’t sound appealing to me, even my fantasies about movie stars have to include a long getting-to-know-you period.
But when you mention “a good time”…that gets me thinking.
If I had the money I might, MIGHT consider hiring a man for dancing with, ballroom or swing dancing (isn’t swing a subset of ballroom?). Maybe I could get lessons from him at first and when I was confident enough the lessons could morph into dancing dates.
I think if you’re an older, wealthy woman it’s probably tough to figure out who’s in it for you and who’s in it for the money/connections, anyway, so I can see why someone in that position might be fine with hiring. I do see it more as a whole day or weekend out thing, as the OP describes (sort of like what high-end female escorts do with regular clients, or what a woman might do with a platonic or gay male friend – but with sex). Just for sex? Nah. Biology being what it is, I just can’t imagine getting any guarantee on my investment. Pus I imagine many women would have to take extra precautions, worrying about meeting a strange man (ironically enough, the same worry as most female prostitutes).
ETA I do remember looking into this a few years ago, and while I don’t think I seriously considered it, I was much more interested in a service that catered to women, by women, in Paris. I wonder if more women would be into that. I know plenty would like to experiment but know actual lesbians can get a bit pissed at being played with.
Almost doesn’t count right? I’m a girl, but I often hang out with the lads. We were at this strip club one night, and (names changed to protect the naughty) Joe pays for Paul to go off to a room with this girl. Hey - what about me? I pipe up. Joe goes off to investigate then indicates a really hot bloke who’s arrived at the bar. A couple of things put me off: I had made the request as a joke, I was too drunk to fuck, I thought I recognized him, and I’d probably had too much to drink to be even contemplating it. Plus I was drunk! I wouldn’t have been paying for the guy and there was something exciting in the idea that my mate would pay for me. Although it certainly would have been fun, I’m sure I would have felt pretty sleazy afterwards.
Still glad I didn’t since shortly after I told Joe no thanks, he whispers to me to keep an eye on the screen because if Paul starts performing they’ll stream it live! They didn’t. Hey RIP Joe!
Same here. I don’t think I’d even want an escort for a fun night on the town. I’d be bummed because I knew he wasn’t going to call the next day to see what’s up.
If I wanted my nether regions poked and prodded, there are items I can buy to do that. A complete stranger arriving at my door to do the same? No. No, thank you! :rolleyes: Now, a night out on the town? Yeah, maybe. Or a guy to do the driving, and platonic companion duty, on a weekend away at a resort? Yeah, maybe. But sex? No, no, and no. I’m so boring I don’t even have any kinky fantasies I’d want fulfilled.