Spouses, in the course of normal daily stuff, how important is it that you and your partner have clear communications to stay coordinated?
You know - not important stuff, like “you watch Billy and I’ll take Betty” in a crowded situation - more basic stuff like “okay, I’m taking off for my thing- you got it from here?” where “got it” is just basic supervision of kids, house, etc.
My spouse and I argue a couple of times a year over this - she thinks that if the plans are known (i.e., she’s leaving at 2pm) then if she takes off, so be it. I occasionally get frustrated that she doesn’t have the courtesy and clarity to check in and say “okay, I’m taking off now - you got it from here?”
Sorry if you think this is petty, but sometimes little communications issues feel big in a relationship. Do you and your partner ever clash over this type of trivial coordination? Do you have a basic POV - does either perspective seem more correct to you?