Considering Urbanredneck’s thoughts about gays from other threads, I wouldn’t be surprised…
Good job, both in the walkout and in not preaching back during the service. If it had been me and I’d encountered him afterwards in the parking lot, though, there would have been words.
That’s right, bub, the Lord wants you to be an asshole.
I wasn’t sure if “Unitarian” meant UU or not - I don’t often see that just called “Unitarian” (though I only see reference to it online, I’ll admit). But I’ll take the poster at his/her word that the words of the preacher were not at all the beliefs of the relative in question and they did “turn the tables” by saying things more in line with her beliefs than what that particular preacher said.
Yeah, it’s why I looked at the thread. It turns out there is a good reason for walking out of a funeral. Well done.
Minor nitpick: not sure you ‘staged’ it (that was the word in the title that most interested me, it sounded preplanned), but I’d bet the other 18 needed someone to set them in motion.
Seriously, Urbanredneck, you need to be careful. Unitarians are not to be trifled with. Piss one off, and you’re likely to wake up in the middle of the night with a burning question mark in your yard.
I’m Christian, and I’d do the same thing.
Besides, my pastor would never do anything like that in the first place.
To be fair, in over 50 years of attending little southern Baptist services, this was a first for me. My careful attendance stopped over 20 years ago, but I still go to funerals, way too often.
Good for you and your relatives who walked out. I’m still irritated about the recent funeral where the pastor tried to force people to come up and get saved, but you’ve given me some perspective.
I tend to think the same thing. If BIL asked this guy to speak at this funeral chances are he either knew what he was going to say or openly suggested the topic.
A funeral is a time to comfort the grieving, not tear them apart.
Good for you Lanzy!
What beliefs did he have that were “far out”? And what things did y’all say that he appeared to disagree with?
I thought that use of burning question marks had been rejected as too potentially alarming by a 12-4 vote of the outreach subcommittee of the Unitarian Jihad.
Hmm… well I guess I’ll know who it came from.
But seriously I don’t want to get into a Unitarian discussion. Gaia knows how ruthless you all can be once you form a committee. My point was the mans beliefs really caught everyone by surprise. Unitarians are rare (Kansas City has exactly 3 UU churches) so none of us knew any plus we get them confused with the Church of Unity. Edith didn’t give many instructions for her funeral but the only faith she ever seemed to be a part of was Unitarian so that’s why we picked a Unitarian church out of the phone book and called them. He actually did a decent job considering he didn’t know Edith.
Getting back to the OP’s point, I would like to ask the OP, if you had known the preachers beliefs, would you still have honored the deceased’s wishes to have him do the funeral?
Then why did you bring it up? :dubious:
I didnt. Others asked me. My point was basically that often the family and the person doing the service often have differing views. Especially when you go into the funeral where like the OP, you know virtually nothing about the minister and the minister knows nothing about you.
Question to the OP. If you had known the ministers feelings ahead of time, would you still have hired him knowing the deceased requested this person?
Or they’ll send around the Unitarian Witnesses, who knock on your door and then don’t know what to tell you.
Uh, yes, you DID bring it up. You were the one who wrote a post about it, specifying the religion, specifying that they have some “far out” beliefs and specifying that attendants made statements he clearly disagreed with.
You snarked how “ruthless” “[we]” are when we “form a committee”. That comment clearly indicates that you knew many posters would likely react to your post, and you chose to post it anyway. You can’t bat your eyelashes all wide-eyed and innocently when people react in the exact way you expected. :dubious:
Or the Dyslexic and Insomniac Agnostic Witnesses, who knock on your door at 2 AM and ask you if you think there is a Dog.
I personally did not honor my BILs wishes, His wife did. I merely attended the funeral for her benefit. I knew it would be a loud sermon without ever having been to his services. I knew I would be uncomfortable, that’s the price I was willing to pay to comfort my baby sister. I did not expect the vile hatred and accusations that occurred.