Ok, I’m new to this rant thing (I’m more into reading other’s rants than writing my own) but I just can’t stand it anymore.
My best friend is in a relationship which she denies she’s in. And I can’t stand it anymore. I just want her to admit that she’s in one.
Ok, background info: I’ve known my best friend all through high school. When we get to Year 11, she starts seeing the elder brother of one of my friends (who is a bit of a loser, no one is quite sure how he came to be in our group of friends). Said elder brother is also a loser, a jerk, pain in the arse, you name it. All of my friends and I could see he was a massive wanker, but for the sake of my best friend, would refrain from making our thoughts audible in front of her. Then they get engaged. She was forever making excuses for him. Like she couldn’t go out with us late in the evening because he had to be at work early in the morning, because of course, he had to come out with us. Anyway, that’s just one example. They’ve had several big bust ups in their 6 year relationships, finally it came to end when she grew a spine and realised “it wasn’t working”.
Anyway, after being split with him for how many months, we would often have conversations on how much he and his family were trash, and how she would make excuses. She’d come to the same conclusion that we did some 6 years before. So now she swears she’s not going to be in another long term relationship, at least not for a long time. Shortly after she split with loser, bouquets of flowers started appearing at her house. She’d say they were from a friend at work which i seriously doubted. On one of them, I opened the note. It was from a guy who more or less pledged his undying love for her. I asked who this guy was and she replied just a guy from her community band that she’s been a member for several years now. She said that she’s told him that she doesn’t want anything longtime from him, just sex etc.
Anyway, her birthday comes around and all of us (friends from high school) are invited, and said guy is coming. So it’s the big introduction thing. The thing is, she’s not saying he’s her boyfriend. But it’s quite obvious he is. We go out for tea, we crash at her place, they go off to bed. Fair enough. About a couple of weeks later we’re out somewhere and he comes up in conversation (in reference to her past relationship with loserboy in comparison with bouqetboy) and I mentioned to her, in a joking tone, that she’s currently IN a longtime relationship (they’ve been together, it must be like 8-9 months or something like that) which she denies.
She informs me a couple of weeks later that she’s going off to an interstate capital city for a week with him during the school holidays. Again, I’m getting suspicious. They got back last night and I text-messaged her about going to the local craft market which she goes to often with me. I arrange to pick her up in the morning and when I get to her place, he’s there. She asks me if mind that he comes with us. I said no, and then jokingly, “it doesn’t look like I have a choice, does it?”. So we’re off to the market. He starts making annoying comments about my driving. It’s fine at first but he doesn’t stop. After the market he’s relatively annoying free. We get in the car and drive into a small town which has nice shops to look out. Somewhere in the car we start talking about bad singing (of which my best friend and I take great pleasure in ruining songs) and anyway he starts off singing, and I jokingly say, “I’m going to stop and you guys can walk home”. He then says “Ah, but we were just singing badly” (or something like that), “We don’t know what you’re like” at which I tersely reply, “No, [insert best friend’s name here] knows what I’m like. YOU don’t.”
Going by today’s activities, he assumes they’re a couple and he know everything, including all about me. She isn’t correcting him at all, just laughing along with it. Now quirky things what we (me and her) use to do is now being done by them. And then when I drop them off, we’re nearing her house and he starts again with the driving comments like “we’re gunna die!”. She must been getting annoyed by it too because she says to him, “Are you going to do that everytime we turn a corner or change gear?” to which I add, “Because it’s FUCKING ANNOYING.” Get to her house. She gets out, slams the door. No Goodbye or anything.
Now I don’t care that she’s excusing his behaviour, in fact, I’ve come to expect it of her. What really shits me is that she’s denying this relationship exists. YOU’RE HOLDING HANDS. YOU GO ON A WEEK HOLIDAY INTERSTATE. HE IS OVER AT YOUR HOUSE ALL THE FUCKING TIME. JUST ADMIT THE RELATIONSHIP TO YOURSELF, OK? IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK? And don’t get me wrong, this has nothing to do with the fact that he’s 15 years her senior. (A man can be any age and STILL be a wanker). JUST ADMIT THAT YOU’RE A COUPLE. STOP DENYING IT BECAUSE WE CAN ALL BLOODY SEE WHAT’S HAPPENING.
