Here’s a little questionnaire for you guys. It’s for a college paper… but please don’t let that deter you, because the subject matter is pure IMHO.
The scenario may be hypothetical, but if you have any real-life experience feel free to share. Don’t feel limited by the questions – if you have any notes, queries or addendums, I’d like to hear them.
Say you have a very close (same-sex) friend. You go back years, are close confidants, and are completely open about just about anything. Now, this friend of yours starts dating a person who you have… well, let’s say misgivings about. Actually, let’s say you actively dislike this person, not the least because you believe that he or she will eventually make your friend unhappy, or even hurt your friendship.
Now, here are my questions:
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What is the likelihood that you’d tell your friend directly that you dislike the object of his/her affection?
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What is the likelihood that you’d let your friend know indirectly (i.e. through a friend, or just through massive innuendo)?
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What is the likelihood that you’d tell your friend’s new romantic partner directly?
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How do you think your friend would react to your revelation? How would your new nemesis react?
OK, here’s another hypothetical situation: say you’ve just started dating a person who’s pretty wonderful, and you think you just might have a real future together. Your best buddy, a friend you love and respect, suddenly lets you know that he isn’t all that crazy about your new paramour; in fact, he/she thinks that you two should break up, pronto.
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What is the likelihood that you’d tell your partner that he or she’s disliked by your closest friend?
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What is the likelihood that you’d re-evaluate your new relationship?
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What is the likelihood that you’d find yourself distancing yourself from your old friend?
8 .Now put yourself in the new love’s shoes. Your just found out that your boyfriend/girlfriend’s best friend can’t stand you. What will you do?
Finally, some background:
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What is your gender?
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How old are you?
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Are you currently in a serious relationship?
Thanks,
Josh