“This doesn’t have to be the big get even, this doesn’t have to be anything at all”
I know you’re not reading this, but here goes anyway. I’m really sorry I need a major surgery, I know how much that inconveniences you. I won’t be able to drive
for at least 4 to 6 weeks. Maybe I can use my walker to ambulate over to the market, hey it’s only 2 miles in one direction. And yeah, I know I’ve been a burden, what with the bipolar disorder and all its difficulties. I guess you can’t really wrap your brain around the fact that all of this is a total fucking drag for me, too. We won’t even talk about the car accident that left me in debt, unemployed and without wheels. You are more concerned about me being incontinent or leaving wound drainage all over the place, which you might have to clean up since I won’t be able to bend at the waist without the possibility of dislocating my new $10,000 (Co-pay, out of pocket expense) titanium hip. Yeah, it sucks getting old. Oh wait, I’m only 50 years old! That means in my lifetime, I’ll most likely pull a Liz Taylor and have to get the hip re-replaced at least once. Maybe I should skip the surgery and just become addicted to pain pills and booze, living in a wheelchair on $900 a month disability payments? If that’s better for you, then by all means let’s go with that plan.
8 years together. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Are they willing to talk to a counselor? Sounds like they are having a tough time coping and are taking it out on you. Maybe being able to alleviate the stress by talking to a non-biased person will help them cope better, and help them learn coping skills? You ought to talk to a counselor too, sound like you’ve got some resentments to relsolve, though it may be that you’re only venting and not hanging on to the negativity. Good luck with your recovery, and with keeping your relationship alive.
Sorry to hear about your surgery. On the bright side, I know three people who had it and it CHANGED THEIR LIVES. You are going to love it.
I don’t know what makes people wig out that way in the face of trauma. But you are going to feel so much better. Keep that thought in your mind while you recuperate. Best of luck to you.
beckwall, do whatever it takes not to become a victim of other people’s attitudes. (If the other person has a mental illness, she can’t will herself out of the symptoms anymore than you can.) Don’t sacrifice your health to her illness and don’t to used by it. Above all, don’t become embittered.
Pay your hospital, labs and doctors, etc. something each month, but don’t go hungry or homeless because of the bill. Do what you can and don’t dwell on it.
When your pain is behind you, use the memory of it to motivate you to move on to all of the things you’ve always thought about doing and have never gotten around to.
You ain’t old, kid. Things really started clicking for me at your age.
beckwall, I’m sorry things are so crappy in your world. I hope your surgery goes well, and I hope you have all the help you need from people who care about you.