Bad for her or her boyfriend? Because I definitely feel bad for her boyfriend. I don’t get why women are so dense about it. Some continue to act totally oblivious to the desires of men even well into middle age - no wonder so many marriages end in divorce!
And so what if it’s like food or medicine? Food is delicious, and medicine makes you high. Sex is both delicious and it makes you high. So it’s like food and medicine combined. But better.
Romantic things are nice, but it sounds like you’re doing those things together on normal dates. Try something else for his birthday.
Take him to play paintball or laser tag. Or rock climbing. Or something fun and physical (bungee jumping, etc). Feed him good food (you don’t have to have cooked it yourself) and wine and then have sex with him. It doesn’t take much to make sex into “special birthday sex,” especially if you’ve only been together a couple months. If you feel the need to spice it up, wear a miniskirt that barely covers your crotch and doesn’t cover all of your ass, or wrap a ribbon around your chest a few times and let him untie it. Maybe you can use it during sex, too.
Afterwards, give him a new video/computer game (or whatever from his favorite hobby) and let him play it while you do your own thing (or play co-op if you like games and don’t suck). You may wish to give him a bj at this point.
When you go to bed for the night, spoon (you’re allowed to be the big spoon for awhile) and tell him how glad you are that you’re together.
Fun exercise, food, booze, sex, hobby stuff, and cuddling. If you need to pare it down, you can leave it at food, booze, and sex. I suspect this is as true for virtually the same percentage of women as it is for men, when you get right down to it.
Yup. Especially the weird stuff.
Almost, but not always 100% true. Perfect might include your best friend rather than your sister.
I’d be happy with a date where she actually shows up.
Sounds like you both enjoy outdoor activites. What about renting jet skis, a boat (or ATVs for some trailriding, if you’re more landlocked)? That would make my day, and be a fun activity to do together if you budget allows.
Some rental car agencies rent sports cars, convertables, etc. Maybe a night on the town in a car you would never buy (but can afford to rent?) Not sure how much these run - I’ve heard up to $500/day for something like a Ferrari (which is very steep, probably too much), but I’ve seen convertable Pontiac Soltice GTs and Corvettes at Budget (the car rental agency) that were actually pretty reasonable.
Do you think a single person has always been single? derp. I’m single by choice because my last boyfriend was an abusive fuckwit, and I’m tired of monogamy.
I’m willing to wager I’ve dated as many, if not more, guys in my lifetime than you’ve dated (and all of them have been exceptionally nerdy, like it matters, but hey). The key difference between you and me is not my current relationship status; rather, I seem to understand the male mind significantly better than you do.
Relevant link (warning: Flash video).
Truth be told? Remember that thing he’s always wanted to do (or at least kinda wanted to do) but you’ve shot it down because it’s not your thing? Do it, and do it with gusto. Really affirm the validity of what he likes on this one day. I’m not really thinking about anything sexual here; more like going to the fights or some club he likes or something along those lines. That’s what he wants–for you to really enjoy something he enjoys but you usually shy away from, if only for one day.
ETA: This was kind of inverted in my last breakup. On my birthday, there was an exhibit of ancient artifacts opening at the local museum, and to me, this was the perfect way to spend the evening. Ex-GF wasn’t into it and moped around all night, basically doing everything she could to spoil my birthday. That pretty well put an end to it.
I know my SO would like sex to be part of it, but I also know the biggest thing on his mind is stress from work, so I’d probably want to do something that would take his mind off work (beyond sex!). Take him on a day trip somewhere. He loves esoteric grocery stores, maybe I’d take him to some that we don’t have around here, or to an aquarium (he loves exotic fish) or something.
What I am saying is it depends on the man.
I like the hotel idea. Hotels are always fun and nothing beats hotel sex.
Sex, but not just any sex. The kind of sex he likely wants and you normally wouldn’t be likely to indulge in.
Example: Anal.
Have fun.
What you don’t understand is that once it’s more than 6 hours since the last sexual encounter, a guy is as horny as a person lost in the Sahara is thirsty.
By 13 hours he is seeing mirages.
By 24 hours he is crawling on all fours and is beginning to consider which important things in his life would he trade for sex now.
By 48 hours the situation is critical, thinking is jumbled and the only thoughts that keep him anchored to reality are “tits” and “ass”.
A twelve pack while playing cribbage and listening to Naked Raygun followed by sex and her leaving early in the morning without waking me.
Some hella good food, home-cooked, with decent wine (and plenty of it). I’d insist on helping cook, or even doing it all – that sounds pretty romantic for everyone concerned.
A nice long hike in the woods – something about a cute women wearing athletic gear who’s enjoying herself in the company of the outdoors and of me is about perfect for me. And bring some food, too (yes, a man worth his salt would even carry it for you too). But make sure the fella gets the nice view from following you.
Yep. 
You two are like night and day. It made me giggle.
This video’s hilarious.
Anyway, you guys rock! You’ve given me a ton of ideas, not just for this occasion, but for many others. I thank you all for taking the time to answer since there’s a lot of great points. I’m in the process of getting something I think he’ll like, will choose an activity to do that’ll fit in with how much time we have before having hot sex. Feel free to continue with the suggestions though!
I’m going to have to be vague on the “perfect date” thing, because it’s different for every guy.
But perfect for me would be:
*a) *doing something I would do anyway if I weren’t on a date, because it’s something I love to do for its own sake and have a particular passion for (could be hiking, bowling, butterfly collecting, slot-car racing, whatever your guy’s into), and then
*b) *realizing that my date was there with me not because she felf obligated to be, but because she was enjoying herself and into the activity as much as I was. That’s the kind of date where you forge a special connection that goes deeper than dinner and a show.
And then sex. Lots and lots of sex.