Just one bisexual guy. The others are either straight or I have no clue.
I’ve got 4 out of my 100 Facebook friends. I was much closer to two of them when we were younger, one I used to work with and he moved away, and the other never spoke to anyone until he came out, sometime in college.
I wish I had more gay friends, tho. My one friend from high school who came out and moved to NYC has the most exciting stuff in his profile out of all my friends. All the straight people are totally boring compared to him. Seems like he goes to a Gay Spelling Bee every month!
Do Dopers count?
None that I know of, outside of Dopers. But we have a very small circle of friends, so that skews the figures.
I have a few. Unless we are counting bisexual women, cause I have tons of them for friends.
The thing is, the more flamboyant gay men* love* me! They love my style, my afro, my big mama brashness…they just love me.
When I’m out club hoppin, they sometimes come right up to me and say, “You better* do *it, girl!” Or point at my cleavage popping out of my too-small top and say, “*fierce!” *Haa! I can never tell if they are making fun of me, but I eat up that attention just the same.
My ex-boss is gay, and we go out to dinner or to the casino (he loves to gamble) and such, and he has no tolerance for the flamboyant kind of gay men…if he sees them playing around with me, he will say to me later, “please don’t encourage that nonsense”. He is only half joking.
The question is a little ambiguous. There are a lot of people I’ve never had beer or dinner with but would be happy to do so. There are others I’ve had beer and/or dinner with again but am unlikely to again, simply because we’ve drifted apart.
If the question is really about people we would consider close friends, I had a very good friend who was out and proud, but I lost him, so right now I’d have to say none. That’s not by choice; I just happen to have a rather small social circle at this time.
A few of the “Heavens, I wouldn’t dream of asking”-type responses have me puzzled. I don’t grill anybody about their sexuality, but if we’re close enough to consider each other good friends we’ll usually end up talking about people were in relationships with or especially attracted to. That’s a rather large aspect of life and one that’s enmeshed with so many others (religion, politics, entertainment, &c) that it’s hard to imagine keeping it under wraps. I know that’s exactly what a lot of gay people have historically done, but I would hope that none of my friends would ever feel the need to.
At least 15 close friends, including one gay couple I met through work and two lesbian couples I’ve known since high school (all-girls school).
My husband has a very close-knit circle of friends who have been close since their early teens. Of his eight closest male friends, two are gay.
If you include work colleagues the number goes up further- the gay male nurse may be a stereotype, but it doesn’t make it untrue, and I have been on work nights out with many of them (dinner, drinks, dancing’til 2am nights out, not work-related functions). My husband and his work colleagues went out to lunch on Thursday to celebrate the up-coming civil union of one of his co-workers.
27 year old married female.
Northern Ireland is conservative and pretty homophobic so I’d say we’re pretty atypical.
Since I am living in St. Pete rather than Fort Myers I haven’t met but one openly gay guy and he is my sister’s hairdresser. I sometimes accompany her to her appointments simply because the guy is very funny and is very likeable. I expect to have dinner with him one day soon because my sister has said she was going to invite him and his companion over.
In Fort Myers I know one very openly gay man with whom I would have dinner any time; he and I are pretty friendly when we are together. The question would be if he would have dinner with me; he seems to prefer to hang out with his gay friends. I also know two lesbians in Fort Myers; the three of us are friends of many years standing and I would be pleased to have dinner with either or both.
My last year of college, I lived with two guys: one gay, the other asexual. We’d known each other since freshman year, and we still go out when we find time. I also have at least one lesbian friend, and one bi friend. I’m probably forgetting some, and honestly I probably know far more GLBT people than I think.
My boss is quite openly gay, and gets me friend-of-Dorothy discounts, which is nice. Otherwise, I haven’t really got any. Three left town (separately), and I stopped talking to one for reasons unrelated to his sexual orientation.
I don’t know any lesbians well enough to call them friends, which is a little odd.
Gosh, I don’t categorize my friends. I’ll estimate about 5, not counting relatives.
6-15 depending on how you define ‘Gay’.
Wow, with all of these people with 20-30 total “friends” (different from acquaintances), I’m surprised all of you socialites have so much free time (like late evening on a Saturday night) to post on an Internet forum).
Lots. I work in theatre.
For a while in my office I was in the minority being straight.
“Friend-of-Dorothy discounts”? 
For myself, probably 4 or 5.
No idea. I don’t enquire as to their sexual orientation.
I didn’t inquire either.
0 or 1, unless you count family. I have two gay uncles (married to each other).
I must admit I am completely surprised by the people who have no idea of their friends’ orientation. Why would you need to ask? What are they, perpetually single? If someone’s my friend, I’m going to see them with someone, or have them talk about someone. Or mention who they have a crush on (including actors and stuff). I can’t imagine not knowing the sexuality of my friends.
I don’t have a lot of what I would consider friends… maybe 10 people I will call sometimes and rarely spend time with. I’m not counting people I know casually (a lot) or co-workers.
Only one of my friends is truly gay (he has only ever been attracted to and dated other men). He is my only male friend. Four of my female friends have dated in the past, or date presently, both sexes.
Half a dozen or so, but they don’t all live locally. I see them at conventions and such, and we hang out there. The local ones I see more often. And we all keep in touch electronically, Facebook and e-mail, etc.
One gay couple* as very good friends, a few more gay people (couples and singles) as casual acquaintances, and one relative (it’s “not discussed,” but yeah, they’re gay).
I wish I had a more diverse circle of friends WRT race, sexual orientation, etc., but we live in Conservative Whiteyland, and, er, outliers are pretty scarce around here. We really need to move.
- I guess when a person (half of the couple) picks you as the first people they come out to, you can count that as pretty close.