::voguevixen kicks off her shoes, wiggles her toes, pours a martini, and waits for aenea’s husband to come into the kitchen so she can hit him over the head with his book:: 
This is the hubby!!! This book was bought in
good faith. If I had known it was going to piss her off SO BAD!! It wouldn’t have been
purchased! For the uninformed man, the intro
and 1st chapter on the web page make it seem
like a helpful thing. Just one more mistake in the line of being a husband. One year I’ll
do something RIGHT!!!
Well Rectangle, on the plus side, you are buying her gifts, and also seem to understand that this particular one didn’t fly so well with your wife. At least you’re trying.
(this isn’t sarcastic)
rubes
Awwww, Well aenea, looks like you have yourself a good guy there after all.
I read the first chapter on the web page, I agree it does appear to be a helpful tool, and perhaps a few key points are valid, but in general, in this day and age I don’t think many women would appreciate a man saying “Let me have control of your life”, we’ve simply come too far. To the men I say, enjoy having women as equals, sit back and relax and let us help and teach YOU.
::Patting Rectangle on the back, good effort.::
This life is a test. It is only a test. If it had been an actual life, you would have received further instructions on where to go and what to do.
Just goes to show- don’t judge a book by it’s cover! ::snicker::
No seriously,
I almost did a similar thing to my husband. I bought a book called “The Guys Guide to Pregnancy” thinking it would be good for him to read when I become pregnant (no, I’m not yet). It got GREAT reviews! Luckily, I read it first. It was a whiney, sniveling book about how your wife is going to be an insane ball of hormones, eating like a pig, and you’re supposed to humor her and ignore all her rude remarks, etc.
It also went into great detail of the “humorous” (read, condecending) side of doctors visits, mood swings, and delievery.
In the end, the book painted women as helpless bags of blubbering fat making unreasonable demands of their husbands. It painted the husband as a poor sap caught in a bad situation who just needs to grin and bear it.
Needless to say, I didn’t pass this gem along. Maybe some relationships are like that, but I’m not a whiner not matter what the circumstances are. I didn’t appreicate the light that pregnant women were shown in, and the torture that the poor men should expect from the experience.
Lesson learned? Don’t believe book reviews, websites, or others opinion. Read it for yourself if you plan on giving a book as a “self help” gift. I was glad I did, or we probobly wouldn’t still be trying!
Zette
“If I had to live your life, I’d be begging to have someone pop out both my eyes. Just in case I came across a mirror.” - android209 (in the Pit)
Zettecity
Voted “Most Empathetic”- can you believe that?
Yes, he is a good hubby. I’m very proud of him.
Disgusted by the book, yes.
But he understood the points I raised in our little talk last night. To his credit, he took it very well, and was patient with my anger.
Then I showed him this site,and the comments you all had make in this thread.
Thank you all for making him welcome.
So where can I get a copy of this book again?
::ducking::
Dem
smiling sweetly
you can have mine!
Dem doesn’t need that book, he’s already surrendered. 
This life is a test. It is only a test. If it had been an actual life, you would have received further instructions on where to go and what to do.
I just don’t feel like I’ve mastered the art though…
Oh no, the resurrection of Marabel Morgan’s The Total Woman under a new name??
Disable Similes in this Post
Try “Letters to Karen” (I think). My favorite chapter is the one where the author shows how the woman can show her love by her creativity in the kitchen. groan
Bwahahahahahahahaha! You go girl! (High fiving over the internet) Whoo! Whoo! Boo-yah! (Sorry, got a little carried away there…)
We struck down evil with the mighty sword of “teamwork” and the hammer of “not bickering.”
You think that’s funny Vix? Well I oughtta…
::Running along back to his housework so as not to disturb his mistress::
bewildered
And here I thought this thread was going to be a story about a married pioneer woman whose husband allowed her to be kidnapped by Native Americans who help her discover and explore her sexuality…
dreamy look
Guess I’ll have to write it myself.
Live a Lush Life
Da Chef
Did anyone else notice the whole
wife:husband::humans:God thing going on here? Do everything He/he tells you to do and you’ll get a bunch of rewards.
It seems to me that this is a good opportunity to explore what both of you expect from your relationship. If I were married, I might consider buying a book like this just so that my wife and I could discuss what we think of it. Often when a man asks a woman “Will you marry me?” he’s asking a completely different question than she thinks he is.
You know, this is something I have noticed.
People’s mental picture of “what makes/defines a marriage” is often very different. But that is not discussed usually until after two innocents get married.
If you do Chef, can I be a test reader?
And on a serious note - I would like to see someone compare books like this to the key indicators of an abusive relationship. It sounds like this book is advocating women to accept non-physical forms of abuse. It’s appalling that with so many people trying to fight abuse, a book could be printed that encourages it.
And isn’t it great when the people who write these books seem to push the notion that the relationship with your spouse, or your God, as the case may be, is less important than the material goods you can get from it.