Actually, I think I see what you’re saying C3, and it’s fascinating. 
Hmmm. [giggle] So I would probably annoy the hell out of you if we were to hang out because although I’m a very private person, I am still very nosy and probing and usually trying to analyze and figure out what’s going on with folks. Sometimes I do it in a very blunt manner, and sometimes I’m very subtle about being nosy, but for me trying to figure out what makes folks tick is what’s fun about interacting with people. Is that what you mean by the level of intimacy that’s automatically assumed? I just call it getting to know folks.
You say males aren’t nosy, and they don’t assume a level of intimacy with women that women just naturally assume with other women. Hmmm. I don’t know. It’s going to take me a little time and more coffee to wrap my mind around that particular generalization. In the meantime, I think that when I meet other women I don’t automatically assume a level of intimacy with them. I may not want to know them at all. However, I do find that some males I come into contact with assume a level of intimacy with me. They assume that they know me based on how I look and act accordingly, but then so do some women. I don’t think that being nosy or assuming a level of intimacy with folks is something that’s the sole province of women or even very feminine women generally.
Now as regards your mother bugging you about not having female friends, I can understand your frustration at just having your mother nag you about stuff. But, unfortunately that’s what mom’s do. [sigh]