I personally have found that I feel more comfortable around women than men. Since I’m a guy myself, I was curious as to whether this is unusual. It’s not a matter of I like to be around them for the romantic possibilities (though I’d be lying if I said that wasn’t a tiny factor some of the time) but I just don’t care for being around guys or for being in a group of them in general unless I really know them.
What about you? Given the choice, would you prefer to hang out with a group of guys, girls, or a mix?
Frankly, Sam, I’m going to defy what I suspect will be a majority opinion and say that I’m with you. I just feel more comfortable with women than men, and it’s been that way since high school (lo these 15+ years ago).
I was just thinking the other day that I have no single male friends, but several single female friends. Add those to the coupled friends I have, and there’s a definite disparity here. I’d say offhand (not knowing you at all) that you’re probably similar to me in that you’re not a typical man (i.e., you don’t have a lot of male friends). There’s nothing wrong with this, you just have a different way of relating to friends.
I am a woman, and for as long as I can remember most of my friends have been guys. I’m so much more comfortable around them. No pettiness. And I get to know how guys really are when there are no girls around. According to them, I’m not a girl, which doesn’t bother me a bit. As a matter of fact, I’m rather proud that they think that. LOL. I remember in high school my best friend and I, guy of course, would sit around and have “bonding time” by watching girrl/girl porn.
Standard disclaimer for threads like this: check your statements for how t hey would sound if they were made about any other group:
if someone said "as I can remember most of my friends have been white. I’m so much more comfortable around them. No pettiness, " we’d all be appalled.
I’m good to go with just about anybody. To add to your thought, though, I’m a guy and I have had, over the years, several groups of female friends that I’ve hung out with. But I’ve also had guy groups of friends and mixed bags as well.
I’m a guy and I am usually more comfortable with and drawn to women.
And despite concerns about stereotyping expressed earlier in this thread, I would add that, IMHO, women are generally easier to talk to, more interesting, and more thoughtful. I feel more appreciated, attractive, and interesting in my interactions with women.
Guy talk tends to be about sports or cars or ‘stuff’, girl talk is more about relationships and communication. I like sports and other guy things, but a couple of minutes about the team’s latest exploits is more than adequate.
I’m another guy who relates better to women. Given my career choice (physics), most of the people I know are men, mind you, so I have more male friends, but I tend to be closer to my female friends.
It’s odd, now that I stop to think about it: 99% of my friends are guys, yet I am more comfortable around total strangers who are female rather than male. I think the reason for this is (if you’ll allow me a bit of half-assed personal analysis) is because I always feel like guys are subtly and unconsciusly competing with each other, as if I have to behave a certian way around them.
It’s like that feeling you get in the elevator, when it’s TOO quiet and you feel like somebody has to say something. Or maybe I just have a negative feeling towards guys in general, I don’t know. I’m pretty sure what the reason for that might be, but I won’t bore you.
It depends. If we are talking about hanging out with good friends, then my preference is equal.
If it’s acquantances, I’d rather hang out with the opposite sex (females). Guys tend to be more disagreeable and annoying than girls. And lets face it, the possibility of romance, however remote it is for someone stuck in the “friends zone”, is also partially responsible for my preference for females.
haven’t had a male freind in years… I like it that way I guess.
however… when some girl is like “girl’s night out!” and I am getting ready to go and they look at me and are like “why are you not comeing?” it sorta makes me sigh…
I am a guy. I like hanging out with other guys. I get bored listening to girls conversation. I don’t care about shopping or whos dating who or planning wedings or the nonsense that girls talk about. I’m not interested in being some kind of big brother best friend type for a gaggle of girls. Now don’t get me wrong. There are plenty of girls I’m friends with. I just have more fun with my guy friends since I can not shave, drink to much, wear a ratty t-shirt without shame and swear and be generally crude.
My friends tend to be men (I’m a woman). In my experience, guys talk about things (cars, sports, games, etc.) while women talk about people (who’s doing who, their kids, their in-laws, relationship problems). I also think women are more easily offended: with guys I can argue/debate and they argue/debate right back, with women I have to be careful to agree with everything.
