I’m a (practically) 18-year-old girl. I have an equal number of girl and guy friends, but it just so happens that none of my girl friends ever have time for me, or ever want to do anything. I basically don’t see them all summer.
However, when having boyfriends, I’d make friends with their guy friends, and we’d remain friends even after I wasn’t with the boyfriends anymore, so I’ve managed to accumulate quite a few guy friends from this (the exes remain my friends also).
These guys seem to have plenty of time for me, and they’re always out doing stuff and inviting me along. At first, Mom had a “you have to have another girl with you” rule, which I didn’t mind because I wasn’t very trustworthy of being with all guys at the time. But this evening, my friend Paul called and invited me to go bowling with “the guys”. Another girl had been with us at the time, but he didn’t mention her coming. I assumed that she was coming, so Dad and I sat on the porch waiting for my ride. Imagine the look on Dad’s face when a car with five guys in it pulls up the driveway to get me (luckily he was asleep by the time I got home). At first I was a little leery, but the night turned out to be fun. The guys just treated me like one of them; none of them took advantage of me except to pick me up and try to throw me in the garbage can for fun.
When I got home, Mom wasn’t too happy with me for doing what I did. I guess when she thinks 5-6 males + her precious daughter = gang bang, or something like that.
I mentioned my night out to a few friends, and there were some raised eyebrows. I want to know what is so wrong with it! Personally, I think guys are more fun to hang out with than girls. No, it’s not a sexual thing. I just think that a lot of girls are catty and gossipy and would rather talk about clothes and things like that. That’s okay to a point, but it gets boring. Now, I’ll admit that hanging out with males isn’t always fun (watching them play video games isn’t my idea of entertaining), but at least they’re not usually ripping on each other and obsessing over their weights (when I talk about my weight I do it jokingly because if I ever seriously lamented my 115 pound frame I’d be whacked to death with purses and bookbags). I guess I’m just a traitor for not liking girls that much even though I am one.
My gramma said that she had the same problem too when she was younger, and that everyone either said that she was sleeping with all of them or she was a lesbian, neither of which were true. She, like me, just preferred the company of males.
Any thoughts on this? Any other “traitors” of their species out there? Any why is it so socially unacceptable to some people?