I have a friend who claims that the moment she met her now husband, she knew they were going to get married, or, at the very least, have a relationship of some sort. They’ve now been happily married for 10 years (1 kid). I have another friend who says that her relationship with her husband was always very comfortable, even on their first date. In her words, “It was like coming home.” They’ve now been happily married for 8 years (2 kids). At the other end of the spectrum, I have a friend who hooked up with a guy who was so drunk he couldn’t remember her name the next day. They’ve now been happily married for 11 years (2 kids). Don’t get me wrong–all of these couples fight but they’ve not had any serious problems nor has the D word ever arisen.
I’ve never experienced anything remotely like either of the first two experiences although I once had a horrible relationship with a guy who claimed that the moment he saw me, he knew I “was the one.” He didn’t bother to tell me the rest: “except for the other women I’m going to have sex with while we’re dating.” Anyway, I’ve never met a guy and thought “oh, this guy is someone special.” I’m not going to discuss what I know or don’t know about drunken hook-ups.
In any event, here are my questions: How did you meet your spouse/SO? Did you know from the moment you met that something was going to happen between the two of you? Did you know right away that he or she was someone special? How long until you fell in love? Or did you? Is there still a spark for those of you who’ve been with your spouse/SO for years or is it more of a comfortable friendship? All other thoughts, commentary, meanderings welcome.