Hon, when I hit thirty and it didn’t appear that Mr. Right was going to be showing up anytime soon, I happened to attend a seminar that really helped me.
This lady was talking about how when your life doesn’t turn out the way you thought it would, or the way you wanted it to, you basically have two choices. You can get BITTER, or you can get BETTER.
Only you can make the choice, and only you can make either of those things happen.
I don’t do bitter very well, so I have been working on getting better ever since.
Ooh, I like men so much I’ve been married twice and…[sub]oh wait.[/sub]
I get along with men well generally; many of my good friends are men. Guys I can even whine about cramps & other men to…I mean actual friends, not acquaintances. My roomie is a great guy (single, too!) He bathes every day and changes the TP roll sometimes. My friend Fred is as smart & honest & nice as they come. He treated his last girlfriend wonderfully (nice guy syndrome) - and she dumped him for an attorney in her office; he actually cried. There are men who are fun, empathic, caring, honest, and just as wishful of a good relationship as many women I know, and would make great “boyfriend” material.
And hey ruadh, 31 is YOUNG, girl! FTR, I met my SO at 41, almost three years ago. He is so wonderful I an NOT letting him get away, so you can’t have him.
Oh. I know you said not to state the obvious. But I loooove penises. And men have penises. Sorry, couldn’t help that.
Anyhow, my take is that there are a lot of wonderful men out there.
ruadh, I wish there were something I could tell you to make you feel better. I am in the same postion re: women at the moment and have been asking myself the very same questions, if and when I get an answer, I’ll let you know.
RELATIONSHIPS:
When a relationship ends, a woman will cry and pour
her heart out to
her
girlfriends, and she will write a poem titled ‘All Men
Are Idiots’ Then
she will get on with her life.
A man has a little more trouble letting go. Six months
after the
breakup, at 3:00 a.m. on a Saturday night, he will
call and say, ‘I
just
called to let you know you ruined my life, and I’ll
never forgive you,
and I hate you, and you’re a total floozy. But, I want
you to know that
there’s always a chance for us.’
This is known as the ‘I Hate You I Love You’ drunken
phone call, and
99%
of all men have made it at least once. There are
community colleges
that
offer courses to help men get over this need.
I often wear very high heels and if I’ve been out all night, my feet start killing me. So the good thing about men that I would like to share, is the way that they piggy-back you around while making horsey noises (and ignoring weird looks from passer-bys).
Well some of us recognize a charming, witty and beautiful lady (who also seems to have really great taste in music, BTW) when we see one. Even if we only see her “virtually.”
I’m sure it’s only a matter of time (and a short time at that) before you find someone who appreciates you, ruadh.
I have a 30-page, single-spaced, typed treatise on all the wonderful things associated with guys, but as I got ready to scan it for posting, I realized that those attributes only apply to those of us who are already married or gay.
Good about Men:
The whole facial hair thing
When they’re loyal to their idiot buddies that we all know are idiots, but he loves them
The way they’ll throw a ball to a kid
The first time they take your little hand in their big calloused one
Their totally stealable big Tshirts,flannel shirts,etc.
At 38, I met a man who would paint my toenails, cook for me and not tell me lies. There are good men out there who want real relationships. I found one when I stopped settling and stopped accepting less than what I wanted.
