… 'cause, right now, I’m hard pressed to think of any of them.
I am 31 years old. I do not want to end up one of these bitter old spinster ladies who hates men 'cause she couldn’t find a decent one. Unfortunately, at this moment I fear that’s where I’m heading.
So come on folks, remind me what is good about men [sub]besides the obvious, of course[/sub] and why I ever liked them to begin with and remind me that there are still some around that I should like.
yeah, but you only smell good so you can use our (involuntary) olfactory senses to lure us into your den and then leave us with nothing but YOUR SCENT on our bedsheets after you’ve fucked off never to return.
ruadh, I know one day you’ll find the right guy and when you do it will be wonderful. There are a lot of great ones out there…just takes some looking. When I get to Dublin, we’ll look together!
(Here is where I modestly point out that I am the best matchmaker in the world, just ask Snormy & Shayna)
As for good things about guys, let me tell you about my guy (the new one). I know he’d do anything in his power to make me happy. I know that I can call him up to whine at 4 in the morning and he’ll act like it’s okay, he’s always up at 4 anyway. He’s always my biggest cheerleader, spurring me on to bigger and better things and when I’m low he’s the rock that keeps me grounded.
It’s the most amazingly wonderful feeling to know that there is someone in the world who loves you best of all and who will always want what’s best for you.
I didn’t come on to gush about my guy, just to let you know that there are great ones out there…seems like you run into a lot of jerks along the way, but when you find him it will be worth the wait.
Men give great hugs. When you’re sort of sad and just need to feel someone’s arms around you, the nicest feeling in the world is a big hug and a manly chest to lean your head against.
sigh I need one of those hugs today. Bet I don’t get one though.
I forgot to say, remind me to tell you the my big Planes, Trains and Cell Phones story…if that doesn’t renew your belief in romance and men, then nothing will.
(I’d tell it now, but I’m saving it so that I’ll have an amusing anecdote for the next DubDope)
I open my own jars. I also open my own doors, light my own cigarettes, and (I’m trying to quote from Linda Goodman’s Star Signs, but can’t remember the rest of it … damn)
What I’m really trying to figure out, I guess, is what’s happened in the past few years where I’ve become totally unable to fall for nice guys, and have ended up falling for guys that seem like nice guys but turn out to be the exact opposite.
I mean, I don’t “go for” jerks. If a guy is obviously a jerk, I’m not interested. Period. But in the last few years, I’ve just developed a complete inability to tell the guys who are really nice guys from the ones who are pretending to be so they can get laid.
And I should also point out here that I don’t just jump into bed with them right away. [sub]any more[/sub] I’ve slept with two people in the past year, for fuck’s sake (and one was whilst on holiday in Spain, which we all know doesn’t count :D) But even doing the wait-til-you-know-them-better thing, I’ve found that they either (a) can’t be bothered to wait, or (b) as in the most recent case, wait and then disappear straight afterward - guess he must have been even more desperate than me
Oh, and for the cynical guys reading this, it’s also not like I insist a guy be incredibly gorgeous (most of the men I fancy are just on the nice side of average-looking), have a lot of money or whatever. I don’t think I’m incredibly choosy. And I’m not like a beauty queen or anything, but I’ve never had a problem having men take a liking to me … it’s just finding ones that I like who want more than a shag that’s a problem.
and tater, gush away. Seriously. The more reminders that I get that there are decent men out there, the better!
Anyway . . . what’s good about men except the physical stuff.
We feel good when you hug us.
We don’t usually hold grudges nearly as long as women (in general).
We’re good for lifting stuff and we’re more often than not taller.
We’ll tell you how you look without going into miniscule detail (do you REALLY want someone telling you you have three stray hairs around your left earlobe? Wouldn’t you rather a “You look beautiful, honey”?).
We can see something an infinite number of times and still be excited by it (them, whatever) every time.
You can blame things on us and we usually don’t care.
We think you look good in everything (well, except that green polyester unitard), so you don’t have to try to look fab.
We’re okay with just being friends (though it does get a mite difficult).
'Cause they’re acting all cool and with it and tough while having sex and then ruin the effect when they get that goofy ass look on their faces when they orgasm.
Just give me one night and give both of us 10 pints of Guinness. I’m sure you’ll see the light again.
Seriously, now. I do find it difficult to give any advise here. I mean, lads wandering into threads like these are either gonna promote themselves or post witty one-liners, right? Some REAL assholes might even combine the two.
[sub]Wait a minute there…[/sub]
I’ve met you, so I can give somewhat of an informed opinion on how you come across. You’re a lovely girl! You’re smart, attractive, funny, AND you can hold your liquor. If that doesn’t convince half the male population of Dublin, then I don’t know what’s wrong with them. But you describe the problem as if it’s you making poor choices. Well, I don’t know about that… really, just how many boyfriends/dates do you base this on? I’m sure I could debate the statistic foundations of your conclusion. That’s assuming you haven’t actually dated 1500 blokes over the past 2 years, of course.
Give it time. Mr. Right doesn’t exist, but there’s bound to be a nice bloke anytime soon. 31 is nothing, and even if it was, you could pass for 25 easily. Old spinster? No way.
Good luck out there… it’s a weird and sometimes tough market mechanism. Hell, I’m getting used to it again myself after many years. Easy it ain’t, but patience is a virtue in this case.